Dr. Rob and Tami talk about the healing properties a journal practice can have. A listener wrote that her therapist wants her to journal out the resentment and anger that her SA has caused her, but the mere thought of doing this gets her re-triggered and angry all over again. Is there really a point to all of this aside from re-remembering the betrayal?

TAKEAWAYS:

[:25] My SA husband's entire family has suffered from some sort of sexual addiction or abuse. Is all of this hereditary?

[8:30] How can intermittent reward cause or enhance relationship addiction?

[16:15] What's the point of writing my betrayal down? I feel so angry just thinking about it.

[18:50] If you have a lot of anger inside you, a journal practice can be very healing.

[19:45] My addict is weaseling out of our initial agreement. What should I do?

[26:05] If you're not doing the work, then it doesn't matter what you say or do.

[26:15] He's sober but still can't be intimate with me. He says he feels shame. Is this just an excuse?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss