Wired & Worthy

Jeanne takes us deep into the heart of her limiting beliefs. She questions the idea of having wants, needs and desires and how this plays into what we have been taught by society to strive for. She talks about her goals for FIGGI and her struggles in believing she deserves to set high goals and even greater dreams. A short episode about questions we've all asked ourselves, ideas we've all wondered about, and walking through the noise to the other side.

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

[DISCLAIMER: This episode may contain some triggers for certain listeners. Please reach out for help if needed. Follow the guidelines in the episode or reach out to your local help centres.]

Tanya-Mari Dube (show host, motivational speaker, published author, and online educator), joins Jeanne today to talk about the challenges of being raised by a narcissistic mother. She details her experiences in the foster care system, how the narcissistic abuse shaped her romantic relationships and the healing programme she offers to others like her. An episode not to miss!

Episode Key Moments:

00:00  Introduction

03:30  Background to Tanya-Marie's early childhood and journey in the Foster care system.

06:42  How did Tanya-Marie realize that she had been raised by a narcissistic mother and had suffered narcissistic abuse?

10:22  Gaslighting, rewriting history and harsh criticisms from the narcissistic abuser.

13:00  Where did the anger go once Tanya-Marie's mother passed away?

17:26  How did her experiences with a narcissistic mother impact Tanya-Marie's parenting?

20:18  Controlling your anger issues as a survivor of narcissistic abuse.

23:30  The fear of having kids and not being able to be a good mother.

28:04  What is RISE and how does it help survivors of narcissistic abuse?

35:00  How to know if you are dealing with a narcissist or narcissistic abuse?

40:00  Where to find Tanya-Marie.

41:00  Conclusion

Episode Links

Jeanne Retief: Blog | Podcast | Instagram | FIGGI Beauty Shop

Tanya-Marie Dube: Linktree | Facebook | Instagram

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Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

[DISCLAIMER] This is not for sensitive audiences, or those who may experience triggers. Please listen responsibly.

Jeanne finally talks about the prolonged sexual abuse she suffered from her grandfather, who lived on the family property. She takes us inside her journey, what is was like to continue living with her abuser, the impact it still has on her life, how it impacts her parenting, and why she is speaking about this now. 

Episode Key Moments

00:00  Intro

03:00 Why this episode is being released now?

04:50  What was the history and background that led to the "perfect predator opportunity"

06:18  Jeanne's relationship with her grandfather explained.

07:28  The day it all changed.

10:00 Why the abuse continued.

11:20  How this impacted Jeanne's childhood and relationships with her peers.

14:08  How it starting impacting Jeanne's extra mural achievements and personality.

18:30  The day Jeanne "told"

22:00  Jeanne's final words and moments with her grandfather

24:00  How her abuse impacted her first romantic encounter.

25:30  Jeanne's difficulties post-partum and in raising her daughter.

27:00  Conclusion

Episode Links

Jeanne Retief: Blog | Podcast | Instagram | FIGGI Beauty Shop

Episode Links: Dr. Dana Anderson Episode

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

This episode was graciously gifted to us by the Provoking Prosperity Podcast. Jeanne recently appeared on Miranda Mitchell's podcast to learn more about human design. During this episode, Jeanne's personal human design chart was dissected and discussed in detail.

Thank you to the Provoking Prosperity Podcast for sharing this episode with us!

Episode Links

Jeanne Retief: Blog | Podcast | Instagram | FIGGI Beauty Shop

Miranda Mitchell: Website | Facebook | Instagram | Podcast

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

Jeanne talks about the most significant things she's changed in her skincare in the past ten years. She shares new information she's discovered about her skin types, ingredients that work for her, and changes she made in her routine.

Key Moments:

00:00 Introduction

02:50 What I wish I knew about skincare in my 20s.

04:30 First big change Jeanne made - Makeup removing routine and products.

08:13 Second big change - What Jeanne learned about antiaging products and her sensitive skin.

14:30 Third big change - Essential oils.

18:00 Conclusion

Episode Links

Jeanne Retief: Blog | Podcast | Instagram | FIGGI Beauty Shop

Episode Resources: Double Cleanse Blog Post | Double Cleanse Podcast Ep

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

Dr. Natalia Spierings, UK trained, GMC registered Consultant Dermatologist & fellowship-trained skin cancer surgeon, joins the podcast to talk about the fear mongering behind Petroleum Jelly. Jeanne and Dr. Spierings do a deep dive into the origins of petroleum jelly, the common myths surrounding it and answer the ultimate question: Is it safe to use?

Key Moments

00:00 Is petrolatum, Vaseline, petroleum jelly and mineral oil all the same?

04:30 How does petroleum jelly work? Why is it so good for the skin?

06:00 Scientific evidence supporting the benefits of petroleum jelly as a moisturizer.

07:27 Issues caused with the name, petroleum jelly, and why this scares us.

09:50 Why do we believe that we are actually putting pure crude oil on your skin?

10:37 Are we putting crude oil on our skin if we use petroleum jelly?

13:00 Safety regulations and precautions to ensure the safety of petroleum jelly.

15:15 The high likelihood that we are using petroleum jelly in some form through our skincare.

16:18 Why the replacement options to petroleum jelly are less effective and other issues associated with alternatives.

19:20 What is a carcinogen? Is petroleum jelly a carcinogen?

21:48 Does petroleum jelly cause breakouts and is it comedogenic?

26:00 What is Milia and does petroleum jelly cause it?

28:07 Is it safe to use petroleum jelly?

29:00 Dr. Spierings' book.

29:17 Conclusion

Episode Links

Dr. Natalia Spierings: Website | Book | Instagram 

Dr. Jeanne Retief:  Blog | Podcast | Instagram | FIGGI Beauty Shop

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

Jeanne, now in her late thirties, takes us on a deep journey through her struggles with self-acceptance, self-love and toxic body image. She gives a raw and honest account of her challenges and how she still walks the path toward self compassion.

Key Moments:

00:00 Introduction.

01:43 History and background to Jeanne's challenges with Self-Acceptance.

03:23 Using an unhealthy relationship with food as a coping mechanism.

04:10 Having a baby and how this impacted the journey.

05:49 The turning point.

08:07 The biggest obstacles Jeanne faced.

09:00 Jeanne's obsessions with her weight.

10:45 The three core values Jeanne identified and that she TRIES to live by.

11:21 The first core value.

15:33 Value number 2.

18:00 Value number 3.

22:22 Conclusion

Jeanne Retief: Blog | Podcast | Instagram | FIGGI Beauty Shop

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

This is PART 2 of Dr Amelia Kelley's interview. She is an integrative, trauma-informed therapist who talks to Jeanne about Gaslighting recovery for women. They delve into this form of emotional abuse, using Jeanne's history as a foundation, and take the journey toward emotional healing from this trauma. 

Key Moments

00:00 Introduction.

00:45 The trauma response.

09:15 Difficulties with setting boundaries.

12:58 The thriving techniques and difficulties in the journey of healing.

17:05 What Dr. Kelly recommends we do daily to stay in a good space.

18:30 Where can you find Dr. Kelly

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelly: Website | Book - Gaslighting Recovery for Women | Instagram

Jeanne Retief: Shop FIGGI Beauty | Blog | Instagram

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

Dr Amelia Kelly ( PhD), is an integrative, trauma-informed therapist who talks to Jeanne about Gaslighting recovery for women. They delve into this form of emotional abuse, using Jeanne's history as a foundation, and take the journey toward emotional healing from this trauma.

Key Moments

00:00 Introduction

04:30 What is gaslighting and what is it NOT?

07:15 Are gaslighters always motivated by power?

11:12 What is a trauma bond and why do gaslighters create this?

14:00 The 7 types of gaslighting / gaslighters.

22:52 What are the ACE and Trauma Bond question lists features in Dr. Kelly's new book.

27:12 The stages of gaslighting.

34:12 End of PART 1 - Tune in NEXT WEEK

Dr. Amelia Kelly Links

Website / Book - Gaslighting Recovery for Women / Instagram

Jeanne Retief

Shop FIGGI Beauty / Blog / Instagram

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram 

Jeanne talks about her recent devastating house fire and how this shifted her view on gratitude. As a proponent of practicing gratitude she was surprised by her new epiphanies that are not within the norm of the usual conversation around it.

Key Moments:

00:00 Introduction

02:30 What happened on the day of the fire? What caused it?

09:24 The aftermath and assessing the damage.

10:28 On NOT feeling grateful.

11:24 How society has taught us how to offer support and skim over harsh emotions.

12:15 Keeping gratitude in your heart but focus on feeling your feelings.

15:14 Why frustration and feeling anger makes gratitude so much sweeter.

17:30 Conclusion

Dr. Jeanne Retief Links

Shop FIGGI Beauty | Blog | Instagram 

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram