Rob and Tami talk about how to give yourself realistic boundaries when you know your addiction is easy to access. They also go into talking about how addicts lie to therapists and how this can sometimes cloud their judgement and their opinions on the betrayed spouse but keep in mind, as the betrayed spouse, you are not to blame for your spouse’s addiction and poor behavior. The responsibility is on him/her to own it, work through it, and maintain it.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:25] How does someone cope with the fact that porn will always be a click away?

[4:15] I’ve been told that I turn to porn because I have a high sex drive, is this true?

[9:05] Would a therapist ever openly lie to the betrayed spouse?

[12:10] There’s nothing a spouse did or didn’t do that would force someone else to act out on their addiction. That’s on the addict, not you.

[16:15] Is it common for addicts to display ‘Peter Pan’ symptoms?

[22:00] At the beginning of recovery, we can be difficult, difficult people.

[22:15] Can a porn addict ever use the computer again?

[24:15] What’s the difference between a sex therapist vs. a sex addiction therapist?

[30:10] The more specialized you can get, the better it’ll be for your addiction.

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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