Dr. Rob and Tami open today's conversation about what psychological abuse really is. Many people in recovery do not realize that their form of persuasion can be incredibly abusive until they’ve been educated on it. Unfortunately, the spouses can receive the blunt of that abuse if they're not actively working on it and setting boundaries. Dr. Rob and Tami also talk about the deep betrayal a spouse can feel when they find out their addict brought sexual partners into their home. 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] Can you help me understand more about what psychological abuse is? 

[5:20] Dr. Rob has seen many sex addicts not understand that they’re abusive. 

[6:10] My husband has relapsed with drugs, but I also just found out he’s also a sex addict. Why is he doing this?

[10:00] True recovery means you’ve stopped all forms of acting out. 

[13:00] I found evidence that affair partners have been brought into our home. How do I manage this? 

[18:20] As a betrayed spouse, you need support. Reach out to Tami for more info. 

[19:00] My husband is in recovery, but I don’t think he’s taking it seriously. 

[22:55] Talk to his therapist directly. Is he lying to you or is the therapist really saying those things? 

[26:25] Addicts lie to their therapists all the time just to ‘check off the box’.

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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