Is it wrong to find someone else besides your partner attractive? In today’s episode, I explore:

I have 2 private coaching spots opening up to begin in August or September…here is the link for more information and to apply.

—

Additional resources:

Have you ever nitpicked your partner’s physical appearance and felt so guilty for it? You are NOT ALONE! In this episode I address a community-submitted topic: hyper-fixation on “small, superficial, or physical traits about my partner, like teeth, hair, posture, or mannerisms.”

Hyper-focus on our partner’s physical appearance can cause us to feel shame, so I discuss how to shift out of the shame and into more self-compassion.

I also address the question of “if they were exactly the person they are right now, but looked different or to my ideal standard, then would all the questions around it go away?”

DM me @youloveandyoulearn on Instagram with your takeaways!

—

Additional resources:

In this episode, I sat down with Dr. Russell Kennedy, author of award-winning book Anxiety Rx. We talk about how our emotional wounding (which he calls alarm) affects anxiety and what to do about it. We cover:

Check out more of Dr. Kennedy’s work here:

Website + Instagram

—

Additional resources:

In Part 2 I’m sharing the behind the scenes of getting engaged and how I felt during and after. I answer community questions like “did you expect it?” “were you anxious during or after?” and “did you feel disappointed during the proposal?”

—

Additional resources:

ICYMI — I’m engaged! In this episode, I’m answering community questions like “how do you know you’re ready to get engaged?” + “what did your pre-engagement discussions look like?”

I also share more about my own transformation from being scared of marriage to feeling ready to move forward.

Be sure to tune in next week to hear the proposal story, how I felt during and after the proposal, and my post-engagement reflections.

—

Additional resources:

ICYMI — I’m engaged! In this episode, I’m answering community questions like “how do you know you’re ready to get engaged?” + “what did your pre-engagement discussions look like?”

I also share more about my own transformation from being scared of marriage to feeling ready to move forward.

Be sure to tune in next week to hear the proposal story, how I felt during and after the proposal, and my post-engagement reflections.

—

Additional resources:

This week I share 5 books that have changed my life and the way I view love and relationships. Each book has meant so much to me and I dive into some of my favorite concepts + quotes from each book. I cover:

Mating in Captivity Esther Perel → this changed the way I view passion in relationships and transitioning out of the honeymoon phase

The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul → validated my experience of relationship anxiety and brought forward a compassionate interpretation of it

Eight Dates by John and Julie Gottman → helped me understand important relationship dynamics and open doors of discussion with Nate on our shared values and life visions

The Relationship Handbook by George Pransky → recent book that changed the way I perceive moments of relational challenge and why they happen

All About Love Bell Hooks → opened up my perspective on love and what love means

—

Additional resources:

In this episode, I got a chance to speak with Emma Wilson, the Turning 30 Coach about how relationship anxiety can be impacted as we near/are in our 30’s.

We cover:

Learn more about Emma’s work here:

Instagram: @turning30coach

Website: www.turning30coach.com

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/il/podcast/turning-30-podcast/id1526149550

In the episode, I mentioned the “would I be happier single?” blog post, which you can read here: https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/blog/would-i-be-happier-single

In the episode, I mentioned the “is it anxiety, or am I settling?” webinar, which you can purchase here for $27: https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/is-it-anxiety-or-settling

—

Additional resources:

This is a vulnerable episode where I share my experiences and insights on the journey towards self-love, what I’ve changed my mind on when it comes to self love, and my intentions for practicing self-love moving forward.

—

Additional resources:

This episode is a masterclass of how to shift out of the compulsive patterns of relationship anxiety and ROCD and switching to acting and living from our values.

In this episode we discuss:

Learn more about Star and his work here:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@starjessetaylor

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starjessetaylor/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D

In the episode, Star mentions the work of Mark Freeman - here is Mark’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@everybodyhasabrain/videos

—

Additional resources: