Your Secret Is Safe With Me

Are you ready to make some changes but don't know where to start? This week, I share some helpful tools to help you create change and resolve your infidelity situation.

You might need to do things you've never done before, and that's okay. I explain how the sooner you find a way to address the situation, the better your overall quality of life will be, and I also discuss the role your feelings play when making significant changes. These tools will guide you through the changes in your relationships in a way that makes you feel great.

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With a new year beginning, there's a feeling of change in the air for some. And maybe that change has to do with your infidelity situation. In this episode, I explore how to take charge of change in your infidelity situation, the reasons we sometimes avoid change, and why our mindset is the number one factor in making change.

Tune in to learn how to be a person who takes action in a way you never have before. It is possible to feel differently about your infidelity situation, but more importantly, yourself.

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I believe that "difficulty" is not an absolute truth or fact but rather a matter of our thinking. In this episode, I discuss the many ways we can think differently about difficult situations. I revisit my concept of the "think, feel, act" cycle and explore how you can reshift your thinking around the idea of difficulty.

When we don't deal with the root of the problem, we usually prolong our troubles. And to not prolong our troubles, we simply need to start facing them. Tune in for some tough coaching that's coming from a loving place and learn that the best way we can show ourselves that we can do hard things is to do hard things.

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Often, people dealing with an affair ending come up against disenfranchised grief and finding forced validity in their experience. In today's episode, I discuss how to deal with missing your affair partner in a way that supports your feelings and reasons, regardless of your support system or situation.

Learn how to get through the three main stages of your affair ending and how to honor your sense of loss in each one. Understand how to find lessons in both your heavy and freeing feelings. There's so much beauty in our rocky, messy moments if you allow yourself to see it.

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Often, our infidelity situations come with extreme highs and lows. In this episode, I talk about that emotional rollercoaster and how the extreme ups and downs can feel like a really big deal. I discuss different situations where these ups and downs can occur and how handling this rollercoaster is totally doable.

You get to decide how you want to ride the rollercoaster, how long you want to stay on, and when you want to get off. Tune in to learn some simple mental shifts that can help you feel in control, sane, and okay in your infidelity situation.

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Holidays or not, there's never a perfect time to break up with someone. You may have been planning to break up with your partner, but then Thanksgiving rolled around, now Christmas, and then it's New Year's…I get it, and it's okay to choose to wait. But how will you go through with your choice when the holidays are all said and done?

In this episode, I discuss how to make the most of breaking up with someone post-holiday. I teach you how to take initiative and make a clear decision, all while making the best of your choice and situation. Tune in to learn how to create a plan of action, prepare for the questions that come with a post-holiday break up, and deal with the inevitable uncomfortability.

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The holidays are fast approaching, and you might be in the midst of figuring out your family's plans. More importantly, you may be figuring out how to integrate your former affair partner, now partner, into your family's holiday plans.

In this episode, I explore how to prepare for the different scenarios and responses that you may experience when bringing your new partner home for the holidays. I cover negative and lukewarm responses, how to play the long game, and that your relationship actually doesn't have to be the object of fascination this holiday.

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In this episode, I share a lengthy list of questions that you can answer to help find the gifts within your infidelity situation. It would be silly to act like you're not getting something positive out of it, so why not acknowledge what that something is?

Answer these questions honestly, don't hold back, and don't judge your responses. Realize that being honest with yourself is a prerequisite for living the life you want. Regardless of the situation, your infidelity may be the catalyst for your growth, and that's something to always be thankful for. Tune in this week, and give yourself the chance to find your gifts.

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Breakups are an amazing opportunity to start over. You can be feeling sad, hurt, and angry, while also stepping into a new chapter of your life.

In this episode, I discuss how you can grow forward while still processing a breakup from the past. I talk about reframing the story of your breakup, how to foster new connections with yourself and others, and how to start actively cultivating joy. Choosing to begin a new chapter is a profound act of self-love. Listen in to learn how to start over after a breakup, and why you are so worth doing so.

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If someone you love breaks up with you, it may hurt like hell. If a relationship that you hoped would continue comes to an end, you may be hurt, devastated, and possibly very pissed off.

And that's totally fair and totally reasonable. Sometimes the only possible response to being broken up with is to feel profoundly awful for a while.

In this week's episode of "Your Secret is Safe with Me," I talk about why it can feel like you're dying when a relationship you've cherished comes to an end, and what to do if you feel that way. In this episode I make two things clear: your pain is totally legitimate… and there are different ways of dealing with your pain.

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