Cathy and Todd interview Dr. John Duffy, author of ‘Rescuing Our Sons,’ discussing his book and the state of boys in America. In the first part of a three-part series, they explore John’s experiences while talking with boys during therapy, the reasons boys feel like they don’t belong, and the lack of male role models for boys today. Listen tomorrow for Part Two.

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Cathy and Todd discuss the power of words and how their significance is subjective to the person using them. They focus on the necessity of being seen, emphasizing how the quality of our partnerships and parenting is influenced by our ability to truly see others. The discuss what it means to have a healthy relationship and share why anecdotal evidence may not always be conclusive.

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(00:02:43) Tournament of curious

(00:08:12) The Need to Be Seen Blog

(00:026:14) See what I’m doing *

(00:28:57) Kids rolling eyes*

(00:31:25) Conference & Team Zen

(00:33:05) The nuance of words… Healthy

(00:53:15) The nuance of words… Abuse

(01:04:35) The nuance of words… Empathy & Sympathy

(01:05:59) The nuance of words… Celebration of life

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Cathy and Todd share the best clips from interviews with their friends Michelle Icard, Dr. Devorah Heitner, Dr. John Duffy, and Dr. Alexandra Solomon (they are all keynote speakers at Zen Parenting, 2024, Jan 26&27)! They also discuss the heightened skincare of teens, why we need so many sweatshirts, and why conflict is so common in our most important relationships.

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(00:03:44) Tournament of Bad

(00:04:08) Golden globes

(00:04:54) Water bottles

(00:06:24) face cream *

(00:19:01) Dr. Devorah Heitner

(00:23:40) Michelle Icard

(00:31:35) Owen O’Keefe *

(00:33:49) Dr. John Duffy

(00:36:46) Dr. Alexandra Solomon

(00:38:47) Todd & Cathy’s disconnector types *

(00:50:50) You’re losing me- Taylor Swift *

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Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s important to process how the holidays went before moving forward—what worked, what didn’t, and what can be repaired or celebrated. They also focus on school refusal after the holidays, emotional labor during the holidays, and answer a question about what’s most important when raising boys.

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(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:03:40) Advice on raising boys

(00:11:01) Purple turkey story

(00:15:04) How did it go?

(00:17:31) School refusal *

(00:26:08) Zen Parenting Conference

(00:26:36) Team Zen Circle

(00:29:24) putting up the gate *

(00:30:27) Cookie monster story *

(00:36:38) Mom’s feel like they’re on an island

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Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship. They discuss how to check our own egos, recognize our children’s psyches, and make connection the cornerstone of our parenting experience.

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(00:26:52) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference

(00:27:24) Team Zen Circle

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Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite holiday movies, what makes them great, and whether or not they are truly holiday movies. They share clips from the best movies and finish with the top 20 best holiday movies of all time.

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(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:10) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference

(00:04:07) Cathy’s Moment- 4 reminders for the holidays

(00:14:05) Litmus test for a holiday movie

(00:22:22) Top 5 holiday movies

(00:27:48) Team Zen Circle

(00:28:54) Purple Rocket Podcast

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Todd and Cathy talk with Michelle Icard, the author of ’14 Talks by Age 14′ and her new book, ‘8 Setbacks that Can Make a Child a Success.’ They discuss why we try to manage everyone’s emotions, the challenges of letting our kids experience failure, and how embracing these challenges can contribute to building their character and enabling them to navigate their own lives.

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(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:13:04) Managing everybody’s emotions

(00:19:45) Hero and rescuer energy

(00:27:17) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference

(00:27:48) Team Zen Circle

(00:28:54) Purple Rocket Podcast

(00:34:50) Son with braces for 6 years *

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Todd and Cathy discuss gender norms and explore ways to validate, acknowledge, and challenge them. They also dive into the comedy of Nate Bargatze, highlighting its observational nature that prompts thought and reflection.

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12/14/23 7:00 PM Rescuing Our Boys: A Q & A with Dr. John Duffy

Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys

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(00:00:00) Introduction (Football)

(00:15:00) Fantasy trophy

(00:27:20) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference

(00:27:48) Team Zen Circle

(00:42:15) Todd’s toe nails *

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Cathy and Todd discuss how to create strong support systems for our kids, allowing them to have new and unique experiences and build relationships that contribute to their self-understanding. Teaching them about boundaries, encouraging them to ask for help, and making sure they know it’s totally okay to speak up if something feels off give them the confidence to trust themselves, even when you’re not right there with them.

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12/14/23 7:00 PM Rescuing Our Boys: A Q & A with Dr. John Duffy

Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys

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(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:39) Rescuing our sons

(00:09:45) Main topic- Strong support system

(00:15:20) Growing up in the 80’s

(00:23:55) Skylar’s experience of drama camp

(00:25:38) Family & friends

(00:26:58) Team Zen Circle

(00:27:25) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference

(00:28:32) Mindfulness for beginners

(00:29:42) Jacey in Italy

(00:32:00) Be on your kids team *

(00:39:54) Extracurriculars

(00:43:16) Know your kids

(00:45:08) How does our childhood direct our parenting *

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Todd and Cathy dive deep into some quotes about gratitude and explore how to incorporate gratitude into our everyday and ordinary lives. They also answer some listener’s questions and play clips from Planes, Trains, and Automobiles (the best Thanksgiving movie!) and Nate Bargatze’s stand-up.

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(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:12)- neurobiology of gratitude

(00:12:21) JFK Quote

(00:13:15) Listening *

(00:25:35) AUA (Ask Us Anything) teenage boy not up for chores

(00:31:44) Mindfulness for beginners

(00:32:10) Team Zen Circle

(00:32:35) Zen Parenting 2024 Conference

(00:36:52) Communicating with a 6 year old

(00:42:53) Teenagers are shutting down as they get older

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