The Psychology of your 20s

324. Why do we hold grudges?


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Why do some things sit heavy in our chest for weeks, months, even years - while others seem to slide right off? In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of resentment, exploring why letting go can feel so hard, and what our grudges might actually be trying to tell us about ourselves. Grudges are often dismissed as petty or immature, but they’re rarely that simple. They’re emotional archives - stories we keep retelling in our minds, not just to stay angry, but to make sense of hurt, to assert boundaries, or to reclaim a sense of control. Whether it’s a betrayal from years ago or a passive-aggressive comment from last week, the feelings linger for a reason.

We explore:

•      The psychological function of holding a grudge
•      How rumination and memory shape emotional pain
•      The role of power, justice, and unmet needs in long-term resentment
•      How resentment harms us more than them
•      Why forgiveness isn’t the same as forgetting
•      Tools for emotional processing and (maybe) letting go

If you want to get curious about what your lingering anger is pointing to, this episode is for you.

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