It's mid-December, everyone's running on fumes, and your child just screamed "I hate you." And even though you know it's the exhaustion talking, it still stings because you're killing yourself to make the holidays special, and this is what you get in return.

The truth is, the holidays amplify everything: the excitement, the overstimulation, the meltdowns, and yes, the hurtful words our kids don't fully understand yet. But here's what I've learned after years of navigating big emotions with my own strong-willed kids: how we respond in these moments matters more than we think, and there are ways to handle it that actually strengthen our relationship with them instead of damaging it.

This is an encore episode from March 2023, and I'm bringing it back because this message feels especially timely right now. I'm sharing audio from an Instagram Live I recorded about an experience with my son six years ago, and then I'll walk you through three things I've learned about what to do when your child says they hate you or uses other big, hurtful words that land like a punch.

In this episode, you'll discover:

🎄 Why your instinct to "show them who's boss" in the heat of the moment actually backfires

🎄 The one-word response that validates your child's big feelings while protecting your own heart

🎄 How to know if your child needs outside support beyond what you can provide at home

If your child has said "I hate you" to you this December, I want you to know you're not failing, and there is a way through this that brings you closer together instead of further apart.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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00:00:00 Introduction

03:02:00 The Story

18:46:00 One: Be the Adult

21:39:00 Two: Validate the Emotions

25:37:00 Three: Get Outside Support

29:20:05 Summary