A few years ago, I was sitting in a coffee shop feeling completely overwhelmed by all the things I thought I should be doing better—as a mom, as a wife, in my work, in every area of my life. My brain was foggy, my to-do list felt impossible, and I couldn't shake the feeling that I was failing at everything. So I grabbed a pen and started writing—and three questions emerged that helped me cut through the noise and get clear on what I truly valued, not what everyone else expected of me.

In this episode, I'm re-airing that original conversation from January 2022, and then coming back at the end to share what's happened since—what worked, what didn't, and how I'm answering those same questions for 2026. This isn't about pressure or perfection. It's about growing in ways that align with YOUR values.

In this episode, you'll learn:

✨ Why you might be chasing growth without ever feeling successful—and how to fix that

✨ The uncomfortable question that instantly clarifies what truly matters to you

✨ How one small habit shift can create a ripple effect across your entire lifeIf you've been feeling like everyone else got a head start on 2026 except you, I hope this conversation reminds you that the right questions matter more than the perfect goals.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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00:00:00 Intro

08:17:00 One: What Small Habit?

11:44:00 Two: What Is Success?

17:40:00 Three: What If Only 3 Years?

27:59:26 Summary