Yikes! The first holidays after a breakup - memories, triggers, hope, not-so-much-hope, and everything in between. 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

It is also an opportunity to really make your breakup and your no-contact commitment STICK. 

This episode is about how to do it. I’ve got four tips to help you survive this tricky time. In this episode I talk about: 

-What to do about friends and family 

-What to do if your ex’s family reaches out to you

-Gifts you meant to give to your ex

-Dealing with memories of your ex

-Avoiding pesky questions from family about your ex

-AND MORE!

Quotes from this episode: 

“Allow yourself the gift of not thinking too much about your ex. The holidays only come once a year. Let yourself enjoy it even if your heart is still healing.”

“ Imagine how great it will feel to look back on this holiday season and remember not your ex but all of the things from this year that had nothing to do with them.” 

“When you put yourself first everything else falls into place.”

“When we are trying to go no contact or really put our ex behind us it is about creating as much space with the person as we can. Talking with their parents is not creating more space, it is closing the gap.”

“Don’t let your ex invade your phone by texting with them. Don’t let it be used as a source of temptation. Let the holidays be a time when you really make no-contact stick by not having one sliver of contact with this person.”  

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

____________________________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

“This moment doesn’t define you. It can refine you.” -Rebekah Freedom

WISE words from this episode’s wise guest. 

Your breakup is here to teach you lessons you wouldn’t have access to otherwise. That is what Rebekah and I are here to unveil for you today. 

Get your own copy of Breakup Rehab! Order it on Amazon here. 

*Please* go show Rebekah Freedom some podcast love! Check out her website and coaching work on her website here. 

More quotes from this powerful episode: 

“Pain is weakness leaving the body because it is the precursor to growth. It says: “Pain is here to teach me what I am and what I am unwilling to let go of.” -Rebekah Freedom 

“Ask yourself: ‘What if I just don’t judge my pain?’ That is the first step into authenticity and knowing yourself.” -Rebekah Freedom 

“Taking responsibility for your life and owning what you create is integrity. It takes integrity to get out of abusive situations. It takes integrity to stop abandoning yourself and betraying yourself through words and deeds. Have standards and stick to them. Don’t give up the goods to someone who isn’t worth your time. Keep yourself in check by watching what you think and say.” -Rebekah Freedom 

“Okay, now it’s time to talk about sex — with yourself. One part of your body can give pleasure to another part. How amazing is that! No shame in that. Total joy in that. Where there was a communion of two, masturbation can be a communion with you.” -Rebekah Freedom 

Want to schedule a free coaching session? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ or email me directly: [email protected]

Say hi to me over on IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

_____________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

This show is about healing. And this episode is about how you can help someone else to do it. 

Get a pen and paper - today I am going to tell you five MORE ways to help a friend through a breakup. These are tips based on my own experience and what I have seen as a breakup coach. 

Be the friend that will add useful support to your friend’s healing journey. 

I share:

-The power of asking someone what they need

-Why you shouldn’t talk shit about your friend’s ex during this time

-The power of patience

-Setting boundaries and looking after yourself

-Being a safe place while also putting your well-being first

-And more

Want to support my work? Join my Patreon here. 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

____________________________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakup? I KNOW you are capable of healing and putting it behind you. I have created this special meditation track to help. 

Remember, I want to be your breakup buddy. Schedule your free first session here. 

AND - download my free guide to navigating breakup brain here. 

Your breakup is the chance for a new beginning. If you let it be. 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

____________________________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakup? Broken heart? Your grief is real and what you are going through is very normal and natural for people who are ending relationships. That is why I developed my own concept of Breakup Stages of Grief: 

Devastation

Denial

Realization

Relief 

Today I am going to be focusing on the “denial” stage and how to navigate second guessing your breakup and yourself. 

Breakup brain is real! Download my free guide to navigating it here: https://janiceformichella.com/resources/#BreakupBrain

In this episode I cover: 

-What breakup denial is

-Thoughts we may have during this stage

-Things we may find ourselves doing during this stage

-Ways to navigate breakup denial 

The stages of grief for breakups are each temporary and although they are painful, intentionally working through each one can help you move onto the next and then to putting your breakup behind you. 

Does learning about the breakup stages of grief help? Check out these resources: 

Episode 201: Breakup? It’s time to indulge. 

Blog post: Broken heart? Spoil yourself! 

Episode 103: Stages of grief for breakups

Remember – I am here for you. Book a free first breakup coaching session at https://janiceformichella.com/

#breakups #stagesofgrief #breakuptips #brokenheart 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

_______________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

-Do you avoid dating “avoidants?” Do you struggle with avoidant attachment and want to be more understood? This week’s episode is for both of you! 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Yay! I am having a great “attachment nerds” chat today with colleague and — certified attachment coach Ashley Kaylor about all things related to the dismissive/avoidant “type.” We break it down! A few things we cover: 

-The characteristics of dismissive/avoidant attachment behavior 

-Some “causes” of avoidant attachment 

-Navigating dating someone who with dismissive/avoidant attachment tendencies 

-Overcoming dismissive/avoidant attachment 

-Myths and misconceptions about “avoidants” 

Go show Ashley some podcast love! 

Learn about her work at Ashleykaylor.com

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

____________________________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakup? Schedule a free coaching session here. 

There are stages of grief that are specific to divorce and breakups. I have developed the concept of Breakup Stages of Grief: 

Devastation

Denial

Realization

Relief 

Today I am going to be focusing on the “devastation” stage and how to navigate the shock of a breakup. 

Resources mentioned in this episode: 

Episode 201: Breakup? It’s time to indulge. 

Blog post: Broken heart? Spoil yourself! 

Episode 103: Stages of grief for breakups

Remember! I am here to help. Schedule a free first breakup coaching session or hit me up on IG to discuss: 

@janiceformichella⁠⁠

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

______________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? I hope you will join me to use the remaining weeks as a chance to educate yourself, spread awareness, advocate, and create visibility for this often under-discussed societal issue. 

Domestic violence (also known as intimate partner violence, battering, or spouse abuse) is a pattern of abusive behavior used in a relationship to gain control and power over an intimate partner. It happens to everyone across race, gender, socioeconomic status, education, and sexual orientation.

Every minute, roughly 20 people are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States.

Every year in the United States, more than 10 million women and men become victims of domestic violence. 

More women lose their lives to intimate partner violence than any other means. In the U.S. alone, more than 55 percent of murdered women are killed in relation to intimate partner violence.

 Nearly one million women have been shot by an intimate partner and have survived.

Nearly 1 in 10 women (9.4%) in the US have been raped by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

It is a persistent issue that finds victims feeling powerless and without means of support or escape. Most female victims of intimate partner violence were previously victimized by the same offender at rates of 77% for women ages 18 to 24, 76% for ages 25 to 34, and 81% for ages 35 to 49.

Domestic violence continues to go unnoticed by many because it is underreported with only 52% of victims reporting the crime to the police in 2019.

What you can do this month to support victims and survivors: 

1. Educate yourself. Read up on the issue.

2. Share what you learn with others. Post on social media. Be brave. Be bold. 

3. Learn about what to do if someone comes to you for support. I will drop a separate mini-sode on this issue. 

4. Make a donation to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. You can visit them at https://ncadv.org/ and using the link in the show notes. 

5. Don’t just consume true crime for entertainment. A lot of the stories portrayed in our favorite documentaries and podcasts are sad examples of the terror that a lot of women around the country are faced with daily. Share what you consume and talk about the content and the stories with friends and on social media. Again, be brave. 

6. Commit to sharing content on the topic all year long. 

Thank you for listening. Please keep following my podcasts as I will be dropping more content through the month.

This show is about healing. And this episode is about how you can help someone else to do it. 

Get a pen and paper - today I am going to tell you five of the best ways to help a friend through a breakup. These are tips based on my own experience and what I have seen as a breakup coach. 

Be the friend that will add useful support to your friend’s healing journey. 

I share:

-How/why to give your friend time

-The usefulness of suggesting activities 

-Resisting giving un-asked-for advice

-Taking sides: should you?

-Reserving being flaky for another time 

Want to support my work? Join my Patreon here. 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

____________________________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Always be learning! In this fun, FUN rewind one of my besties and I chat about the relationship lessons we learned in the year prior to recording. 

EACH - EVERY relationship and breakup teaches us something……….IF we let them. In this classic episode Jessie Maree and I chat about the lessons: 

Want to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here. 

1. When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.

2. Actions always mean more than words. 

3. It’s okay to take a break or re-calibrate. 

4. Take relationships slow! 

5. It is OKAY to end things.

6. Don’t date someone’s potential. 

7. Single is awesome! 

8. It is CRUCIAL to maintain your support network no matter what your relationship status. 

Enjoy! 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

____________________________________________________________________________

Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.