Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella

When we find ourselves stuck and unable to make progress after a breakup it is almost always because of the thoughts and stories about the relationship or breakup that we are telling ourselves. And these thoughts are VERY often far removed from the reality of the situation. 

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But the annoying thing about our thoughts is that we often don’t even realize that they are holding us back. We often don’t realize how little they have to do reality they have become. 

I am here to help! In this episode I am going to help you identify the limiting beliefs you may be holding onto so that you can release them, reclaim your future, and put your breakup in your review mirror. 

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I cover: 

🔐 What limiting beliefs are

🔐 How limiting beliefs sabotage our breakup success

🔐 The top FIVE limiting beliefs I hear from my clients and listeners

🔐 How to THROW AWAY each of them 

Ready to tell me your breakup story? Schedule a time on my calendar here.

❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Discounts available! Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Ready to join my Patreon membership? Hang out with me here.

I am in awe of the people who are brave enough to take matters into their own hands and engage me as their breakup coach.

What I learn helps to inform my ever-growing breakup coaching practice and continue to add more support to people who are struggling with a broken heart.

My clients are strong, brave people. Each time one of them reaches out for support the first time it is heart-warming. Each time one of them hires me it is an honor. And each time I see them step into the unknown for the sake of their healing it is a gift to witness. 

Today I am sharing five things I have learned from my clients: 

-Faith in the process leads to the most long-term results 

-Long-term no-contact WORKS

-It is possible to turn things completely around/break habits

-Solo time is empowering 

-Scheduling in time for projects WORKS

Want to connect?

Email: [email protected] 

IG: @janiceformichella

Website: JaniceFormichella.com

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakups are more than pesky life events. They are highly stressful and can lead to negative impacts on our health, some that can become long-term. But don’t worry - I am here to help! 

If you are intentional about looking after yourself you can either prevent negative health consequences or find that they come and go as you go along your healing journey. 

Ready to schedule time with me? Get direct access to my calendar here.

In this week’s episode I cover: 

🩺Five ways a breakup can impact our health.

🩺The physical consequences of severe stress

🩺Breakup brain symptoms

🩺Watching your diet after a breakup

🩺The importance of routines after a breakup

🩺How no-contact can lead to better health outcomes 

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❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

💙💜

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Let me be your breakup buddy! ⁠Schedule a free 1:1 session with me here. ⁠

Sometimes we stay stuck after a breakup because we find ourselves full of regret over everything that happened. The source of that regret is that we are remembering and ruminating the good times and the good qualities of our ex over the bad. 

This is a normal and natural thing to do. But it does not mean that the breakup was a mistake. 

It does not mean that you should break no-contact with this person. 

It means that you are a human with a great capacity to love. 

Getting over this hurdle will allow you to move to the next phase of the healing journey. So today I am sharing FOUR ways to stop idealizing your ex so that you can RECLAIM your life and move on. 

I share: 

-The importance of intentionally moving on from this stage of the healing journey. 

-Putting your thoughts back in context. 

-Missing is a choice - reaching out to someone is a decision. 

-Developing habits that will support your healing. 

-The importance of preparing to make space for grief. 

❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

💙💜

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Some breakups come after a long period of unhappiness in the relationship. Other times, they seem to come out of nowhere. The latter is becoming more common with “blindside divorces” on the rise. That’s what VICE writer Ashley Fike and I are chatting about today. 

Ashley and I talk about the many dynamics of a breakup that seems sudden, from all angles including the perspective of the one ending things. AND we give powerful, practical guidance for anyone struggling with a sudden breakup. We discuss: 

🖤Both of our stories with being involved in a blindside divorce. 

🖤”Perceived suddenness.”

🖤Why blindside divorces are becoming more common. 

🖤The grief the person ending things feels. 

🖤5 tips for healing from a blindside divorce or breakup. 

Ashley is doing a lot of cool writing these days! Connect with her on LinkedIn.

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❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

💙💜

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

You don’t have to navigate your breakup alone. Download my free guide, Breakup Brain here.

Bad breakup? Yet are you still thinking about all of the good times? 

The good things about your ex? 

The love you had that you think you will never find again? 

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I am here to normalize this stage in the breakup healing journey so that all my listeners will know that this is just that, normal, natural, and even healthy. 

There are so many reasons why you might be thinking about the good times in the midst of a bad breakup. Today I will cover just five of them. 

What do you think? Can you relate? Let me know in the comments. Questions about this stage? Include it and I will answer it in an upcoming episode. 

Do you want the free resource on the psychology of breakups that I mention in the episode? Download my free guide, Breakup Brain here.

❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

💙💜

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

I hope you will enjoy this gem from my archives!

Want breakup support? Schedule a FREE first 1:1 session here.

Did you know that I have a breakup workbook? Buy The Broken Heart Repair Kit here.

I hope you will enjoy this BONUS episode from my sister podcast, Sex and the Solo Girl.

When did you lose your virginity? Did you lose it later than those around you? If so, do you consider yourself to be a late bloomer? This week’s guest does, and he has an inspirational story to share with anyone who has ever felt like a square peg. 

Welcome to the show Dillon Birdsall, the director of the film The V-Card. 

Watch it here: https://allthebirdsllc.gumroad.com/

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I REALLY liked this chat! 

In this memorable conversation Dillon Birdsall and I chat about: 

💮What it meant to Dillon to be a late bloomer

💮Dillon’s virginity story

💮Janice’s virginity story 

💮The crosses we all bear in life

💮The manosphere and the Incel movement

💮Words of wisdom for “late bloomers” 

Curious about The V-Card? Here’s the link once again: https://www.allthebirdsllc.com/films 

AND - check out the production company on IG: https://www.instagram.com/all.the.birds.film/

The their website: http://www.allthebirdsllc.com 

❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

💙💜

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

You don’t have to navigate your breakup alone. Download my free guide, Breakup Brain here: https://janiceformichella.com/resources/#BreakupBrain

And for even more breakup resources, download my podcast, Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On wherever you listen to podcasts here: https://janiceformichella.com/breakups-broken-hearts-and-moving-on/ 

Are there “negative” emotions? What does your gut tell you? 

Is rage a negative thing to feel? Maybe…or it might be a gift and a teacher that shows you what your priorities are, what you value, what you will not tolerate, or what you need to shift in your life. 

Patty Alfonso is a powerhouse of wisdom and I highly recommend her work. She has a program that any woman who wants to embrace their erotic curiosity should explore. Visit ⁠http://www.pattyalfonso.com/innocence⁠ to learn more and connect with her about an intro call. 

When we allow rage to become a teacher we can also allow it to become scared. Something to help guide us. 

In this powerful episode, Patty Alfonso and I connect to talk about: 

-The definition of rage

-Our early experiences with rage

-”Seeing red” 

-The times I have been most angry in my life

-How to recognize rage

-Tips for working rage through our bodies

-Preventing rage from becoming toxic

-Allowing rage to become sacred

🍷🍷Want to buy me a glass of wine? Head to my Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/c/janiceformichella   🍷

❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

💙💜

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

I know that no-contact works. And I know how hard it can be. 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Schedule a free 1:1 session here.

This episode is for all of those who may know that no-contact will help but aren’t quite there yet. My goal is to help you develop faith in the process. That is the first step to executing this radical form of self-care and preservation. 

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Quotes from this episode: 

“Even if you don’t exchange harsh words, words can hurt. If you are suffering because of your breakup it is important to show up for yourself and go to great lengths to prevent more suffering. No contact is a sure-fire way to do that.” -Janice Formichella 

“You cannot heal from pain if you are continuing to put yourself in contact with the source of it.” -Janice Formichella

“You will continue to get burned if you keep putting your hand in the fire.” -Janice Formichella 

“You cannot wean yourself from something harmful if you keep taking it.” -Janice Formichella

❓Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

💙💜

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.