Pour a drink and settle in for another Clair and Janice happy hour full of girl talk and making fun of pop culture. This month we explore the first two movies of the Twilight franchise and our horror and amusement watching them from the perspective of two breakup coaches who value equal, healthy relationships. Buckle your seatbelts, this conversation takes a few twists and turns!

Some highlights: We discuss the messaging that the plot and characters send to young women, how relationships should be based on more than sex (or smell) appeal, and of course Jacob’s abs.

With drinks in hand, we take a deep dive into Twilight and New Moon, two films that were all the rage earlier in the century, yet are problematic, to say the least. And we don’t hold ANYTHING back (for better or worse!). And spoiler alert: we don’t think Bella and Cullen are a good example of a healthy relationship. 

Did you like the Twilight books or movies? Or, did we go too far in our critique? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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Who gets to say what is “normal” as far as grieving a relationship goes? Messages like “move on” or “you’re better off” can leave us feeling like there is something wrong with the fact that we are still feeling pain from our breakup.

But guess what? We are brought up in a society that does not provide the time and support that most people need when they end a relationship. This can leave us feeling as though there is something wrong with us rather than comforted. We want you to embrace the healing journey that you are on and accept your experience. You deserve it.

Struggling with lingering pain over a breakup? Grab a drink of choice and listen as we discuss:

-What “moving on” really means

-Our own experiences with leaving exes behind

-Why society sucks when it comes to letting people heal from breakups

-Expectations about time to grieve

-Sex and the City and the rule about taking half the time of the relationship to recover from it

PLUS  - we introduce a brand new segment: Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering?

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

This week we bring on another one of our fabulous coach friends to talk about one of our favorite topics: pleasure!

Pleasure and sensuality make life joyful and even easier. Emma Pleasure has made experiencing pleasure in each moment a foundation of her life and is on a mission to support other women to integrate it into their lives. This conversation was just as juicy as it sounds. Some of what we discussed:

-How a sip of water can be a pleasurable moment

-Getting started with sensuality as a single person

-Communicating about sexual needs inside of a relationship

-Self-care practices that can become sensual in our everyday lives, if we let them

-The problem with faking it

You deserve to have rich and satisfying experiences every day!

Emma Pleasure is a coach who supports women to experience fully aligned, fully embodied pleasure in life and bed, so they can create a life that truly sustains them and lights them the fuck up even if they're currently in overwhelm. If you would like to see what she is up to or learn more about her work you can find her on IG at @emma.pleasure. 

What role does pleasure play in your life? Or, what holds you back from giving yourself all that you get from a partner? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Breakups wouldn’t hurt if there hadn’t been feelings for the other person. And in the early days or a breakup, our minds are flooded with happy memories in addition to intense emotions such as grief and stress. This combination easily lends itself to the question of all breakup questions: “will I ever love like that again?”

Just because this is a common way to think doesn’t mean that it is easy to cope with or that it’s not scary or painful. We have a lot to say on why we think this way, how to love yourself when you feel this way, and why you are amazing and WILL manifest the love you want and deserve.

Have you worried about loving again after a breakup? Did you get over the fear? Or, what did you think of our take on this breakup conundrum? Let us know what you think! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

How do you process the emotions that come after a breakup? In this episode, Clair dives into the popular RAIN mindfulness technique as a way to gain acceptance of a breakup and the emotions that come with that loss. She also shares a tool for when you're all processed out and need to interrupt a rumination spiral that you can't seem to shake. Yes, we need to process our emotions and not avoid them, but we also need to continue to experience life because life is beautiful and that doesn't change even after a breakup!

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!

If the relationship wasn’t working and needed to end, why do we often dwell SO much on the good times after a breakup? Well, our minds can play tricks on us during the grieving process, and remembering the good times doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship itself was good. From science to our own personal experiences and a couple of acronyms along the way, we will let you know why this common breakup dynamic occurs. More importantly, we will let you know what you can do to speed up this phase of your healing journey.

A lot of people go through this and we want to support you in recognizing that it is normal and okay and learn some positive ways forward. And, we want to hear what you think of our take on remembering the good times or an experience you have had with it. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. If you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Solo episode time! Today, Janice touches on her past relationships and how she discovered that she has codependent tendencies after leaving an abusive relationship. She explains what codependence really looks like (and what it doesn’t), some signs of being codependent, what has helped her to work on her less-than-positive relationship patterns, and some tips for learning and recovering from codependent relationships. She also shares how she has seen codependency show up outside of her love life and what she learned from that discovery as well.

Remember, you are not alone. If you are struggling with codependency we highly recommend Codependents Anonymous and the works of Melody Beattie.

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Our second guest interview is with the shiny and sparkly Kristina Michaelis, who shares her experience going through a divorce last year and what she has learned since. Kristina has thrived as she has started her new life and has used the tools of Human Design and astrology to navigate the dating game out in the wild and online. We were SO inspired by her determination and by the self-loving way that she has gone about things and know you will be too. Want to find out more about what Kristina is up to? Find her on IG here. 

AND - we are excited to be partnering with the podcast Human Design Delight in sharing this episode with their community as well. Human Design Delight is a podcast collaborative of 5 amazing female business owners who come together to talk about life, personal growth, and their interest in Human Design. To check out more of their episodes, find them on your favorite podcatcher here.

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

We became breakup coaches because we don’t want anyone to feel alone during a breakup. Getting positive support can make SUCH a difference in your healing journey and putting things behind you in a positive way. And there are ways that you can go about asking for support that honors your loved one’s time and allow you to get exactly the type of support you need. This can even be an opportunity to strengthen a friendship if you approach things in the “right” way.

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!