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Embark with us on a transformative expedition toward self-emancipation from the clutches of toxic relationships and narcissistic entanglements. We unravel the heavy cloak of pleasing and appeasing, guiding you to the lightness of being your true self. Through intimate conversation, we lay bare the urgent need to detach from the narcissist's control, helping you to rediscover and celebrate your personal identity. We promise a heart-to-heart discussion on the essential steps to reclaim your life, shining a spotlight on the power of self-recognition and the courage to choose joy over judgment in your pursuit of happiness.

The journey doesn't end with breaking free; it's about cultivating a loving relationship with oneself. In this episode, we invite you to join our Heal to Thrive program, offering a sanctuary for those ready to heal from trauma and learn the art of self-love. We share insights on transforming fear into freedom, highlighting the necessity of nurturing a compassionate inner dialogue. Our candid revelations will leave you equipped with the resilience to rise above past pains and embrace a future full of self-acceptance, joy, and fulfillment. Join us for an episode that's not just about survival but about thriving in the aftermath of adversity.

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A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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"I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in the supermarket, the car park, or your own kitchen. This episode is the question nobody has asked you.

"I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in your own kitchen at 9.47 on a Wednesday morning, holding a cup of tea you don't remember making. You walk upstairs to find something and forget what you came for. Something in you has been quietly slipping for a while.

You're intelligent. You're capable. You've read the books. You've done the therapy. Maybe the coaching. Maybe the courses, the retreats, the breath work, the parts work. You know your patterns. And you still cannot make yourself move forward the way you used to.

You're probably wondering what is wrong with you. But that's the wrong question.

In this first episode of the show's new era, Dr. Amen Kaur introduces the question that actually matters. Not "what is wrong with me" but "who is in charge of my life right now?" Because the Self at the centre of your intelligence system has stepped back from the seat, and your thinking mind has stepped in to cover. It cannot. Not because you are not clever enough. Because thinking was never designed to run the whole system.

Drawing on the work of Manos Tsakiris at Royal Holloway, Antonio Damasio's research on the Self as an integrator, Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley on interoception, Eckhart Tolle, and Bessel van der Kolk's neuroimaging findings on trauma and the brain, this episode names what has been happening under the surface and offers one small practice you can carry for the week.

THIS EPISODE COVERS:

• Why the woman you used to be feels out of reach, and what is actually happening underneath
• The Self as an integrator, not a place in the brain (Tsakiris, Damasio)
• The sun and the rays: a new way to understand your intelligence system
• The Einstein principle applied to your overthinking
• The part of you currently in charge is not your enemy. It is scared.
• One question to carry with you every day for the next seven days

This is the first episode of the show's new era. If you have been listening for a while, welcome back. If you are new, welcome. What we do here is return, not reinvention.

The full Human Intelligence Framework lives inside the free masterclass at https://linktr.ee/dramenkaur It is where starting over actually starts.

New episodes every Wednesday.

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Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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A difficult boss, a toxic relationship, or people who never saw your worth can leave you doubting yourself, even when you know you're good at what you do.

So when someone finally praises you, you brush it off. Or it makes you want to cry. The problem isn't that you can't take a compliment. It's that difficult people chipped away at your sense of your own value, and your brain is still predicting from that old map.

In this episode, I share five lessons to help you know your value again and take back your confidence:

1. Why deflecting praise is a signal, not a flaw
2. How judgment and shame keep good things out, and why the people who can't see you may not have the capacity to
3. Why comparing your weaknesses to other people's strengths hides your real value
4. How self-compassion gets your problem-solving brain back (the one most people get backwards)
5. Why your value grows as you express it

Along the way, we look at the brain as a prediction machine, a famous experiment with kittens, and what the research says about judgment, stress and self-doubt.

Know your value. Express your value. Receive your value.

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Research mentioned:

Baumeister et al. (2001), Bad is stronger than good

Tangney, shame and guilt

Blakemore and Cooper (1970), visual development in kittens

Festinger, cognitive dissonance and social comparison

Dickerson and Kemeny (2004), stress and social evaluation

Gerber, Wheeler and Suls (2018), social comparison meta-analysis

Vazire (2010), self-other knowledge

Arch et al. (2014), self-compassion and stress

Crocker and Wolfe (2001), contingencies of self-worth

Vallerand, harmonious and obsessive passion

Arnsten, stress and the prefrontal cortex

David Linden, Johns Hopkins, and Lisa Feldman Barrett on the predictive brain

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This is so important for you to hear, if you have been in an abusive relationship or if you are in a toxic relationship.  

The truth is that this has been so misunderstood, and it's important to understand so we can let go of feeling guilty for being with someone that deep down we knew was treating us so badly.  

There is a reason we can't 'just' leave, once we understand the mechanics of how our brain and emotions work within trauma bonding, you can start to take action to heal, survive and then THRIVE!  

Once you understand this, you will no longer judge yourself or feel bad about staying in an abusive relationship.  You will understand why you felt the way that you did.  

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Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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The biggest issue for anyone who has been in a toxic relationship is getting themself back. 

Getting their thoughts and feelings back to how you used to be. 

To feel like you can achieve your dreams again. 

After being in a toxic relationship people can feel different to how they used to be and not understand why. 

Listen to this podcast to find out more. 

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Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship that drains your spirit? I'm Dr. Amen Kaur, and in our latest conversation, we're peeling back the layers of narcissistic abuse and uncovering strategies to detoxify your life. With the "Let Them Theory" as our compass, we navigate the stormy seas of manipulation and emerge stronger, more self-aware, and ready to prioritize our well-being. This episode is a heartfelt exploration, inspired by my own trials this past week, and it's imbued with the collective wisdom of our supportive community.

Embarking on this journey, we delve into the concept of the 'pain body' and the narcissist's insatiable ego, as illuminated by Eckhart Tolle. The realization that we cannot change them, but only ourselves, acts as a key to unlock our freedom. We dissect the narcissist's quest for 'supply' and why empathy is beyond their grasp, equipping you with the understanding necessary to conserve your energy and step toward personal growth. The discussion is laced with practical advice, such as the 'grey rock' method, and anchored in the power of self-awareness, providing a roadmap to navigate these treacherous relationships.

Wrapping up our heartfelt session, we celebrate the power of words in the healing process. The episode culminates with an empowering affirmation: you are love, you are loved, and you are worthy of love. It's a call to rediscover your voice, reclaim your story, and step into the life you deserve. Join me as we embrace the tranquillity of letting go and the strength found in authenticity, all the while reconstructing the narrative of our lives with the threads of self-care and love.

Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Have you ever wondered if you could spot a narcissist in just five seconds? Join me, Dr Amen Kaur, as I offer you the ultimate guide to shielding yourself from the toxic influence of narcissists. In this eye-opening episode, we'll dissect the glaring contrasts between empaths and narcissists, revealing how empaths yearn for genuine connection while narcissists are relentless in their pursuit of "supply"—your precious time and attention. Equip yourself with the knowledge to recognize and repel these individuals swiftly, empowering you to protect your self-belief and confidence from their manipulative grasp.

In the latter half of the episode, we examine the indispensable value of guarding your time and attention. Learn how past traumas can subtly erode your boundaries, making you more susceptible to narcissistic tactics. Discover strategies to consciously invest your time and attention, fostering positive energy and a sense of achievement. We'll also uncover the significance of slowing down to identify narcissistic patterns, particularly during the love bombing phase. By understanding these dynamics, you can reclaim your power and maintain control over your life. Tune in to gather essential tools to safeguard your most valuable assets and thrive amidst the chaos.

Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Unlock the Power of Self-Discovery with Dr. Amen Kaur: The Science and Spirit of Healing

Are you ready to break free from toxic patterns and reclaim your life? Join Dr. Amen Kaur as she reveals the powerful connection between spirituality and neuroscience, offering groundbreaking insights to help you release trauma and shatter personal barriers. Discover how true transformation comes from within—not from external solutions—by learning to harness emotional intelligence and convert emotions into purposeful action.

In this episode, we dive into the gripping story of a client who escaped the grip of a toxic relationship by rewiring thought and emotional patterns, proving that real change starts with introspection. Explore the magnetic pull of toxic relationships and uncover the hidden reasons we stay stuck—are illusions of stability and false rewards holding you back from real growth?

Learn how emotional awareness, coupled with the brain’s incredible ability to heal trauma, can help you break the cycle of self-defeating habits. Dr. Kaur sheds light on the role of the amygdala and hippocampus in emotional recovery, showing why deep, engaged therapy is the key to unlocking your full potential. It’s time to stop seeking external validation and start focusing on what really matters—your well-being. Your journey to self-realization begins now.

Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Breaking free from scarcity isn't about willpower — it’s about healing the invisible codes you’ve inherited.

What feels like procrastination, self-sabotage, or “not being ready” is often ancient survival programming encoded in your nervous system. These aren’t mindset flaws — they’re protective patterns passed down from ancestors who faced persecution for their gifts, intuition, and visibility.

Scientific research on Holocaust survivors and Syrian refugees confirms what mystics have long known: trauma leaves chemical markers on genes that shape how future generations respond to expansion, safety, and success.

For many women called into healing, leadership, and entrepreneurship, this shows up as fear of being fully seen. For men, it's often a disconnection from their intuitive gifts, labeled as “too sensitive” or “too much.” Regardless of gender, your biology may still whisper:

This isn’t just about money. This is about your capacity to hold wealth, visibility, love, and joy without your body shutting down.

True prosperity requires nervous system safety — not just strategy. You’re not here to force expansion through pressure, but to embody wealth through regulation, presence, and soul alignment.

In this episode, we unpack:

• The hidden trauma blocking your wealth
• How ancestral programming creates invisible upper limits
• Why your nervous system still perceives success as a threat
• The 4 stages of wealth embodiment
• And how to finally rewire your system for safe, sustainable expansion

You are not behind. You are not broken.
 You are carrying stories your soul came here to transmute.
 And now, it’s safe to lay them down.

It’s time to return to remembrance, reclaim your wealth frequency, and rise into embodied leadership — for you and the generations to come.

Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Welcome.  In today’s episode, we invite you into the powerful space of the Effortless Money Flow Activation—a soul recalibration rooted in ancient wisdom and backed by science.

Host Dr Amen Kaur guides us through a sacred remembrance: What if true wealth isn’t created by hustle or hard work, but by embracing the deepest alignment with your authentic self? We unravel the old myths that claim struggle is the price of success, and instead, attune to a state where abundance flows as naturally as breath.

Through soulful stories, poetic metaphor, and grounded teachings on the energetic and neuroscience foundations of prosperity, Amen explores the three levels of flow, showing how genuine wealth is a resonance we embody—not a prize we chase. Discover how pushing only creates resistance, and how to shift into the magnetic, receptive field where money and opportunities flow to you effortlessly.

This episode is an invitation to soften what’s been hard, to align with the river of abundance, and to embody your most prosperous, nourished state. Join us as we blend trauma-informed wisdom, legacy leadership, and the science of aligned success—so you can welcome overflow, not through striving, but by remembering you are the river.

Take a breath, lean into this remembrance, and allow yourself to receive. Let’s begin.

Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

Watch it free at https://linktr.ee/dramenkaur

About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

Learn more at amenkaur.com/about

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.