Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

This is the last episode of Amie and Kim Day's virtual lunch date and conversation around a very difficult topic. With awareness and acceptance of reality being addressed, the next step is the power of action. Now that you see what you have control over, what's your next step. You get to pick up the pieces and rebuild your house. You start with what resonates with you, what feels right and you take it one step at a time. 

As Kim and Amie mention throughout this whole series, please reach out to a professional who is experienced with this topic to help you navigate this journey. You don't have to do it alone and in many cases you can't. Please call 1800-799-SAFE if you are in immediate danger of abuse.

Amie continues her conversation with Therapist Kim Day as they discuss why it's so imperative to not only be aware of what IS REAL, but to then accept the reality of what's happening. When you can see things as they really are you put yourself in a place of empowerment, power to act. When you avoid reality and stay in denial you are stuck as a victim. Until we get to a place where we can accept the truth, it can feel very ugly and dark. Accepting what IS, moves you into truth and towards the light, hope and healing.

Join Amie and Kim's as their virtual lunch date continues.

On today's show we welcome Kim Day, LMHCA, CCPS therapist who specializes in relational abuse. For the next three weeks Kim and Amie discuss the different elements of abuse in relationships. We start the discussion today by discussing the importance of awareness. 

"I spent a lot of time studying addiction and I knew that was a component, but there was this nagging feeling like I was missing something.  And it wasn't until I read Lundy Bancroft's book, Why Does He Do That? That I started to put it in this other and make sense of this other picture that I had never seen. It just hadn't really crossed my mind that there was abuse in the relationship."

If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship please reach out to someone who is trained to help you navigate your path and healing. 

Please call 1800-799-SAFE for more information and help with abuse

This week join us as we explore thoughts and stories that keep us stuck. As we look deeper into why we create stories, which ones are helpful, and which ones imprison us, we can break free from the trauma and continue to move forward. 

If you are ready to do your own individual work, visit Chooserecoveryservices.com and check out our team to choose YOUR healing.

For more information and to register for the YSA dating program please go to Lifecoachingwithamie.com/YSA

This episode is from Amie's first webinar ever! Tune in today as she shares parts of her own journey and talks about how to move forward when you feel like you have an ocean in front of you and an attacking army behind you. 

Using the biblical story of Moses and the children of Israel's escape from bondage, she likens her own to the fear that comes from moving forward and how essential it is to notice and seek the miracles in our life.

Miracles will look different to all of us, sometimes what we think isn't ever going to be miraculous ends up being the greatest miracles of all. 

We know that everyone has a different journey, different paths and our desire is to help you move forward, however that looks. 

We at Choose Recovery are here to help you choose healing, choose recovery and choose YOU!

Book a session today by visiting Chooserecoveryservices.com

To hear more webinars and vlogs from Amie visit Lifecoachingwithamie.com

Join us this week as we explore the stages of grief with betrayal trauma along with how to not get stuck in any one stage. 

In this episode, Alana shares the critical parts of healing from betrayal and why allowing yourself to grieve is so important to your healing.

As they've studied betrayal trauma, they have found that the healing from that, directly parallels the healing of the trauma of losing a loved one suddenly. And so many of the steps that you go through when you lose one suddenly is very similar to the steps that you go through with trauma. 

When you discover the sexual betrayal of your primary attachment, it plunges you into place of pain, loss and grief, and the losses are extensive. You have the loss of trust in your partner. You have the loss of the relationship that you thought you once had. This and so many more.

Our hope today is that as you learn more about what this grief looks like, you will allow for it, and make space for it. Because allowing for the grief is choosing to heal, choosing to recover and choosing YOU

To schedule an appointment with one of our coaches or therapists, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com

In this episode Amie has a discussion with the women form her YSA Dating course. They talk about the struggles with dating in todays world, the fears that they have and how through this 11 week dating course they have found hope for their future and are learning to love themselves FIRST!

The YSA Dating Course is led by Amie Woolsey and is for single women ages 18-30. It is a weekly, online course that not only discusses pornography awareness and how to have the conversation in healthy ways, but how to recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships, notice red flags, boundaries, the different levels of intimacy and so much more!

Most importantly Amie focuses on helping these women become empowered and learn what healthy looks like for themselves first. Healthy You, Healthy dating. The next class starts SEPTEMBER 7th 6:00pm MST - Share with a woman you now and SIGN UP TODAY!

Register HERE:https://ysacourse.youcanbook.me

or visit Lifecoachingwithamie.com for more info. 

Today Amie is talking about how trauma can effect our ability to feel, to make decisions and to stay in reality. Learning to feel again, to connect your brain and body again takes time and practice. It's something that can keep many who have experienced trauma stuck and from moving forward for years. Learning to feel again is critical to your healing and is possible. As you practice you will start to see progress in your healing, you will have more clarity and be able to move forward. 

It's so important to do the work, and we continue to encourage you to reach out to us at Choose Recovery Services to help you CHOOSE recovery, CHOOSE healing and CHOOSE YOU! 

Resources mentioned in todays episode:

The Body Keeps The Score 

By Bessel van der Kolk

Feelings Buried Alive Never Die

By Karol Kuhn Truman

Overcoming Trauma Through Yoga

By David Emmerson

ADDO Recovery Yoga

Today Alana and Amie continue last weeks discussion and dive into what full therapeutic disclosures are, and what they are not.  There can be lots of confusion around how this works and what our expectations are. There are key things to consider before having a full disclosure as well as helpful tips and tools to prepare you to have a successful one. Choose Recovery Services is committed to helping you get a full disclosure in the most healthy and professional way possible. For more information on full disclosures and to know if you are ready for one, please reach out to us and we will be happy to walk you through this. You don't have to do this alone and hope and healing IS possible. 

Visit:ChooseRecoveryServices.com or email us at [email protected]

Join Amie and Alana as we discuss trust after betrayal as we dig into some common myths and expectations. 

Looking for more resources and help in your healing work? Visit https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/ and let us help you to choose recovery, choose healing and to CHOOSE YOU!