Confidence

It's the season finale!! This will be the last episode until January 6th, 2025! It's been a crazy year filled with tough lessons, transformative moments, and some serious inner work. In today's episode, I share some final thoughts about happiness, deep love, emotional healing, and over-accountability. We all have a vision of the type of relationship we want in life, but sometimes, that vision can make you lose sight of who you truly are and what is genuinely meant for you. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally, your life transforms, your relationships evolve, and you find the strength to forgive your past while healing your present. It's time to stop forcing, controlling, or allowing yourself to be controlled. True happiness starts within. Give love, let go of self-judgment, and accept what is!

I'm sorry. I am sorry for how I have shown up in my relationships this year. Maybe an apology is unnecessary, but when you hold yourself to a higher standard, sometimes you need to admit when you didn't get things right. In today's episode, I will share some of the biggest lessons I have learned about dating this year. I open up about my deepest fear in relationships and how I have not truly been in my worthiness. With death, there is a rebirth and a new opportunity to reconnect with yourself and get things going in the right direction. It's time to find yourself again, you and me both.

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Unrequited love, also known as one-sided love, is when someone has romantic feelings or a strong desire to be close to another person, but that person doesn't feel the same way. If you have ever really cared bout someone, you know how hard it is when that love is not returned. How long do you hold on knowing that what you want or need is not fully fulfilled? At what point is enough enough? In this episode, I share a personal voice note expressing my unreciprocated feelings and set the hard boundary I've been so reluctant to address. I also shared a video on why some women unconsciously push serious men away from them. You can't control when someone is ready for you or even ready for themselves, and sometimes, that truth can be hard to swallow.

It's been a long relationship road for me in 2024. I have dealt with heartbreak, inconsistent energy, and the breaking of old relationship patterns. In this episode, I share the final chapter of how that uncomfortable growth led me to my breaking point. I tackle the concept of ego love versus authentic love. How do you handle dealing with a partner who hasn't shown up for you? When is enough enough? I also answer the question: Do I believe in right person wrong time? Can two toxic, unhealed people take their space and come back together to form a loving relationship? I also discuss the most important shared value in relationships and why nothing else matters without it.

The talking stage: where red flags look green, and commitment is always just another day away. In this episode, I explore the science behind why we often lose our good judgment during this phase and why attachment tends to deepen after sex. Managing feelings during this phase can be challenging, so here are some steps to help you navigate the anxiety of dealing with uncertainty and hot-and-cold partners. Then, we have a most unexpected update on a long-standing story for the OG podcast listeners: the tea is hot.

17:11 Steps to Detach in the Talking Stage

41:25 An Update for The OG Podcast Listeners

What happens when you catch feelings for someone who might not see you the same? Do you share your true feelings or play it cool? In this episode, I share a story of catching quick feelings, noticing inconsistent behavior, and the hardship of sharing your vulnerability while trying to balance holding great boundaries. I then tackle your question on how to heal self-abandonment after experiencing losing yourself in an unhealthy relationship. Someone also submitted the statement, "I've worked on myself so much now I'm unrelatable and addicted to being alone." This week's audience question is about deciding if she should confront her ex on a major lie, which she found out after the breakup. Once you think you have it figured out, you probably don't, but that's okay because dating is fucking hard.

Are you stuck in a hot-and-cold relationship? Did they say they weren’t ready, but you still can’t seem to let go? Today, I’m going to help you get the power back! I will give the exact steps necessary to knock them off that pedestal and get the respect you deserve. I also got a question from a listener about what to feel if they do come back. We'll talk about the uncomfortable truth about power dynamics in relationships and how your worthiness dictates the energy you receive back from your partner. Plus, I’ll share some straight-up feedback on a situation from one of you where your end goal with your current partner isn’t lining up. If you’re feeling stuck, we’ll cover exactly how to move forward when you’re at a standstill.

00:00 How to Take the Power Back

26:36 Should You Take Them Back?

35:15 Audience Question

This week, I will take you through everything you need to know about anxious attachment. I start by describing how people might develop anxious attachments from childhood. From there, I’ll walk you through practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs, manage that hypervigilant inner voice, and learn to spot—and choose—more secure partners. I also get into why anxious people typically get caught in the negative dating cycle of meeting new people and never being chosen. Welcome to your wake-up call to lean into yourself, set better boundaries, and show up as a partner worthy of love.

You asked me, "If an avoidant is hot and cold... saying he loves me, then ghosting me... is there any way to get his initial version back and rekindle the relationship? He reminds me of you, Chris."

Yikes!! (Spoiler alert: You're not wrong!!)

This week’s episode is a full deep dive into avoidant attachments and the nuances of dealing with an avoidant partner.

I start by breaking down the two types of avoidants: disorganized/fearful avoidant versus dismissive avoidant. I'll explain their differences and how you might develop these attachment styles. I also open up with a very personal story about my own experience leading to my own avoidant tendencies.

From there, I'll give you the full playbook on communicating and setting boundaries effectively with an avoidant partner. Together, I will help you determine if getting your relationship back on track with an avoidant is possible.

If you're currently dealing with an avoidant—or see yourself in the avoidant attachment style—you’re going to love this episode.

Being single ain't easy, but you know what’s even harder? Thinking that being single means you can’t be happy. In this episode, I dive into the toughest parts of being single and how to handle them. We’ll talk about the discomfort of sleeping alone, the lack of intimacy, the fear of never finding your person, comparing yourself to others, and—most importantly—how to fall in love with your life as deeply as possible.I also follow up on a question from the last episode about motivated men.Yeah, it can feel lonely sometimes, but I’d rather be alone than settle for someone who doesn't feel like home.

13:30 Overcoming the Hardships of Being Single

25:16 Sleeping Alone

39:02 Lack of S*x

43:36 Fear of settling vs. not finding a relationship

50:15 Biological Clock and Comparison

58:07 How to Love Yourself