Do you get easily triggered? One of the biggest struggles that you will face in finding or maintaining secure relationships is a lack of awareness of how your past trauma affects your current reactions. I've always known that I could be reactionary, but I never really understood it until today. In today’s episode, I’m taking you inside the work I’ve done to break the cycle of fear, abandonment, and over-performance in relationships. We’re talking about understanding your emotional triggers, handling rejection with confidence, and why your fear of looking “needy” is keeping you stuck. Then, I’m reacting to some wild dating takes from Threads, I am going to break down the debate on whether healthy men are actually bad texters.

Chapters

00:00 - Breaking Free from Insecure Attachment

46:39 - Reacting to Wild Dating Takes on Threads

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Buckle up, it's avoidant attachment week. In today's episode, we are NOT talking about how to deal with an avoidant partner, but what to do if you ARE the avoidant partner! And let me tell you, many of you are more avoidant than you think you are. Let's get into what makes someone avoidant, why you struggle with intimacy, and how to finally find the love you have always wanted.Plus, I’m answering a listener’s question: How do you get to a place where you actually want to date again after a toxic relationship? Chapters00:00 Intro & Today’s Topic02:30 Signs You Might Be Avoidant10:15 How Avoidant Attachment Starts18:45 Why Avoidants Struggle in Relationships29:00 Breaking the Cycle40:45 Listener Question50:10 Final Thoughts & TakeawaysWork with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠⁠

You start off mysterious, independent, and playing it cool—then you finally show real interest, and suddenly, they’re gone. What the hell happened? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why people crave the chase, the science behind dopamine in dating, and why some people are addicted to uncertainty. You’ll learn why their mixed signals feel so intoxicating, how to spot the difference between real attraction and those who love to play the game and the mindset shift you need to stop taking rejection so personally.

Isn't it wild how you can know a relationship wasn't for you and still miss that person? Maybe you feel guilty or want a further explanation. In today's episode, I share why it's so hard to move on (even when you know it's not right). I will break down why you cling to the familiar, how you romanticize the past, and why you're struggling to accept your reality. I then hit you with the cold hard truth of how you are holding yourself back from saying goodbye for good! I’m also answering a listener’s question about women making the first move in dating. Is it too much? Does it work? Let's let go of what was and focus on what's next.

Dating these days? A whole mess. In this episode, I break down why the dating scene feels so ghetto right now, based on your responses to my question box. From hookup culture to emotional unavailability, we’re diving into the stats, the struggles, and the straight-up nonsense. I’ll call out why so many people are stuck chasing unavailable partners, why connection isn’t the same as commitment, and how your own mindset might be holding you back. Plus, we’re talking boundaries, raw honesty, and why taking things slow is your best dating strategy. This episode is your wake-up call to start dating smarter and showing up better.

Everybody’s scared. Scared to put themselves out there, scared of looking needy, scared of being turned down. And that fear? It’s keeping you stuck. Ghosting, playing games, hyper-individualism—this is modern dating, where everyone sits behind a screen hoping something magical just happens. In today's episode, I share why the fear of rejection is a self-fulfilling prophecy designed to keep you stuck. I then detail all the different walls you subconsciously put up to avoid the intimacy you crave. This isn’t about erasing fear; it’s about owning it and moving anyway. Confidence is being bold enough to ask for what you want and sticking to your standards. Let’s talk about how to stop playing small, stop settling, and stop hiding who you are.

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We’re back, baby! A new year means new opportunities and another chance to create real change. In today’s episode, I breakdown the causes and differences behind the patterns of validation-seeking, approval-seeking, and people-pleasing behaviors. I talk about how these habits lead to chasing relationships, prioritizing others’ needs over your own, and losing touch your true self. It’s time to let go of the need to control, stop forcing relationships, and quit trying to prove your worth to others. To wrap it all up, I answer an audience question about dating someone who finds out their ex is pregnant—yeah, it gets interesting.

It's the season finale!! This will be the last episode until January 6th, 2025! It's been a crazy year filled with tough lessons, transformative moments, and some serious inner work. In today's episode, I share some final thoughts about happiness, deep love, emotional healing, and over-accountability. We all have a vision of the type of relationship we want in life, but sometimes, that vision can make you lose sight of who you truly are and what is genuinely meant for you. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally, your life transforms, your relationships evolve, and you find the strength to forgive your past while healing your present. It's time to stop forcing, controlling, or allowing yourself to be controlled. True happiness starts within. Give love, let go of self-judgment, and accept what is!

I'm sorry. I am sorry for how I have shown up in my relationships this year. Maybe an apology is unnecessary, but when you hold yourself to a higher standard, sometimes you need to admit when you didn't get things right. In today's episode, I will share some of the biggest lessons I have learned about dating this year. I open up about my deepest fear in relationships and how I have not truly been in my worthiness. With death, there is a rebirth and a new opportunity to reconnect with yourself and get things going in the right direction. It's time to find yourself again, you and me both.

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Unrequited love, also known as one-sided love, is when someone has romantic feelings or a strong desire to be close to another person, but that person doesn't feel the same way. If you have ever really cared bout someone, you know how hard it is when that love is not returned. How long do you hold on knowing that what you want or need is not fully fulfilled? At what point is enough enough? In this episode, I share a personal voice note expressing my unreciprocated feelings and set the hard boundary I've been so reluctant to address. I also shared a video on why some women unconsciously push serious men away from them. You can't control when someone is ready for you or even ready for themselves, and sometimes, that truth can be hard to swallow.