Coping with Ghosting

In this episode of Coping with Ghosting, host Gretta Perlmutter is joined by Rahim Thawer, MSW, RSW, a racialized, queer social worker and author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys: Skills to Cope and Thrive as Your Authentic Self. Together, they explore the emotional toll of ghosting specifically on gay, bi, trans, or queer guys, and how internalized shame, dating app culture, and communication gaps uniquely affect this community. Rahim offers insights from his new book, shedding light on how queer guys can navigate rejection, heal from ghosting, and reframe their experience. This candid conversation calls for more empathy and open dialogue in modern queer dating.

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❤️‍🩹Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Rahim 

🌈Read the book! The Mental Health Guide for Cis & Trans Queer Guys  |  Instagram | YouTube

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Have you or somebody you care about ever been in a toxic relationship? If so, it's possible that it was a trauma bond. Knowledge is power, and understanding and recognizing the signs of this type of relationship can be life-changing. In this show, host Gretta interviews Jordanne Sculler, LMHC, about trauma bonds and ghosting. Jordanne is a licensed therapist and mental health expert in New York City, and is dedicated to helping individuals and couples unlock their potential for growth, self-awareness, and authentic connection. 

Tune in to Discover:

• The Trauma Bond Stages: love bombing, trust and dependency, criticism, gaslighting, emotional addiction, loss of self, and resignation
• Why ghosting happens in trauma bonds and toxic relationships
• How to break out of a trauma bond and heal 

To anyone out there who is healing after being in a trauma bond: You can get better. Please take it one day at a time. 

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Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Jordanne 

Website |  Instagram

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

If you’ve been gaslit, manipulated, betrayed, ghosted, or are feeling emotionally distressed in a relationship, this episode is for you. Therapist Shannon Petrovich, LCSW, LISAC, BCD—who brings over 30 years of clinical experience—joins host Gretta to explore narcissistic and other toxic relationship dynamics. Together, they offer tools to help you set boundaries, release emotional pain, reclaim your strength, and start your healing journey.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

• Tell the difference between overt and covert narcissists
• Spot trauma bonds and manipulation tactics
• Understand why someone would ghost you without blocking you
• Outsmart a narcissist without losing your peace
• Reframe emotional triggers as healing guides

Shannon also shares grounded insights on emotional detachment, self-care, and practical ways to protect yourself from toxic patterns so that you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

Shannon Petrovich, LCSW, LISAC, BCD, is a therapist with 30+ years of experience. Through her work, Shannon helps women heal from narcissistic and other toxic relationships.

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Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect with Shannon

Out of the FOG, into the CLEAR; Journaling to Help You Heal from Toxic Relationships | YouTube

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

What if confusion is a virtue? In this episode, Host Gretta interviews Giovanna Silvestre—creator of Confused Girl in the City and author of the new book Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos. Together, they explore how the uncertainty that follows ghosting and betrayal can become a springboard for positive transformation. Giovanna offers a refreshing, hopeful perspective for anyone who’s been ghosted and left questioning their worth.

Tune in to discover:
✨ How to reclaim your voice after being ghosted
✨ Practical strategies to rebuild self-love after betrayal
✨ How to cultivate self-worth without relying on external validation

Whether you’ve been betrayed in dating, friendship, or family relationships, this episode will help you find peace in the chaos. 

Connect With Gretta

What to Say To A Ghost - Free Guide | Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Giovanna 

Instagram |  Book Launch Maui Giveaway 

❤️Dating episode mentioned: Protecting Your Heart in the Digital Dating World

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Should you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted? Whether you're dating or single, Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, has answers. Julie is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. In this show, she offers powerful insights on building secure relationships after experiencing the pain of ghosting. 

Discover:
• The four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure
• Essential inner work for preparing for healthy relationships after being ghosted
• Managing triggers after being ghosted, conflict resolution skills and de-escalating arguments
• How to rebuild a relationship with the person who ghosted you...and so much more!

Ready to break free from painful relationship patterns? Secure, loving relationships are possible even after being ghosted. 

Connect With Gretta

Coping With Ghosting 101 | Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, and Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach delivers evidence-based strategies to transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Julie

Julie's Website | Instagram

Special offer: Join Julies's Individual and Couples Group and use code: COLLAB10 on any order for 10% off! 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Ending a relationship is never easy, but doing it with dignity and respect can make all the difference for you and the person you're breaking things off with. In this anti-ghosting episode, Gretta interviews relationship experts Dr. April Brown and Kanya "Coach Kay" Ford, who share their profound wisdom on how to break up nicely and not resort to ghosting. 

Discover:

• How to know if you should break up with someone
• Practical strategies to prepare for a breakup
• How to structure a breakup conversation with respect and clarity
• What to do about no contact
• How to heal after a breakup 

Dr. April Brown is a Licensed Mental Health Christian Counselor, National Certified Counselor, Certified Sex Therapist, Approved
EMDR Therapist, Gottman Level 3 Therapist, and a Qualified Clinical Supervisor. Coach Kay owns Love & Intimacy 101, LLC, a life, love, and intimacy coaching practice. Together, they co-host Bringing Intimacy Back Podcast. 

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Coping With Ghosting 101 | Coaching Sessions | Free and Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

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draprilbrown.com/ | Facebook | Linkedin | Instagram | Twitter 

Connect With Coach Kay

Instagram | YouTube 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

In this engaging episode, Gretta speaks with Topaz Adizes—Emmy award-winning writer, director, experience design architect, and creator of The Skin Deep—as he shares his transformative journey through challenging relationships and his path to finding true love. Topaz opens up about his experience with ghosting and the valuable lessons he's learned along the way. He shares strategies for attracting real love and the profound impact of asking the right questions to deepen connections. Tune in for an insightful and heartfelt conversation emphasizing vulnerability, introspection, and the power of shared experiences.

Topaz is an Emmy award-winning writer, director, and experience design architect. He is an Edmund Hillary fellow and Sundance/Skoll stories of change fellow. His works have been selected to Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and SXSW; featured in New Yorker magazine, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times; and have garnered an Emmy for new approaches to documentary and Two World Press photo awards for immersive storytelling and interactive documentary. He is the founder and executive director of the experience design studio The Skin Deep.

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Coping With Ghosting 101 | Coaching Sessions | Free and Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Coping with Ghosting delivers evidence-based strategies that transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for change.

Connect With Topaz Adizes and The Skin Deep:

topazadizes.com | TikTok | Instagram | YouTube 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Has being ghosted left you feeling disconnected or not quite yourself? If you're wondering whether you're experiencing depression or just going through a tough time, this episode will help you understand your emotions and find a path forward. Jeremy Godwin, host of the popular "Let's Talk Mental Health Podcast," writer and coach/counsellor from Australia, joins Gretta to explore the nuances of grief associated with being ghosted, ways to recognize signs of depression, and practical steps to seek help and foster healing. Listen to discover:

• Jeremy's personal experiences with being ghosted and mental health
• How to recognize the difference between grief and depression 
• Strategies for self-compassion and emotional recovery 
• The role of daily habits in managing mental health 
• Reframing negative experiences into personal growth 
• Encouragement to remember one's self-worth in the face of rejection

This episode will be comforting to anyone who's been ghosted, whether it happened in love, dating, family, friendship, or business. 

Connect With Gretta:  

Coping With Ghosting 101 | Coaching Sessions | Free and Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Coping with Ghosting offers high-value 1:1 coaching with Vogue-featured expert Gretta Perlmutter, delivering evidence-based strategies that transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for change.

Connect With Jeremy Godwin:  

Jeremy's Website | Let's Talk Mental Health Podcast | Instagram 

International Suicide Hotlines

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Attachment styles profoundly impact how we experience love and relationships, particularly regarding ghosting. Understanding these dynamics helps heal emotional wounds and pave the way for healthier future connections. Bev Mitelman, M.A. - Certified Attachment Practitioner & Founder of Securely Loved, shares profound insights about dating, ghosting, and attachment in this show. 

Tune in and learn about:

• Attachment theory and its origins in childhood 
• Secure vs. insecure attachment styles and how they show up in dating, and which style ghosts the most
• How to weed out potential ghosts in dating 
• Why you long for the person who ghosted you
• What draws people to "bad girls," "bad boys," and so much more!

Bev's areas of expertise include attachment styles in the workplace, romantic relationships and sexuality, and respectful parenting. Bev offers a variety of corporate training programs and individual counselling.

Connect With Gretta:  

Coaching Sessions | Free and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Coping with Ghosting offers high-value 1:1 coaching with Vogue-featured expert Gretta Perlmutter, delivering evidence-based strategies that transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for change. Gretta’s platform empowers individuals from diverse backgrounds to heal, build renewed confidence, and experience breakthrough personal growth.

Connect With Bev Mitelman, M.A.:  

Securely Loved Website | Instagram | YouTube

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. 

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

What happens when someone vanishes from your life without a word? In this episode, host Gretta dives into the social phenomenon of ghosting with insights from researchers Yejin Park and Nadav Klein. Together, they unpack the latest research on ghosting, specifically YeJin and Nadav's study, Ghosting: Social Rejection Without Explanation, But Not Without Care. Surprisingly, some ghosts believe that disappearing without a trace is the kinder choice. While this doesn't justify ghosting, it offers a deeper look into the psychology behind it. Join us as we explore the emotional dynamics of human behavior in relationships and challenge the way we think about ghosting.

Connect With Gretta:
Coaching Sessions
Free and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Coping with Ghosting offers high-value 1:1 coaching with Vogue-featured expert Gretta Perlmutter, delivering evidence-based strategies that transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for change. Gretta’s platform empowers individuals from diverse backgrounds to heal, build renewed confidence, and experience breakthrough personal growth.

The Paper:
Ghosting: Social rejection without explanation, but not without care.

Connect With Yejin Park and  Nadav Klein:
[email protected] | [email protected]

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. 

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."