Coping with Ghosting

Narcissistic behavior often hides in plain sight, especially in relationships. Recognizing the signs of narcissism before entering a relationship or while you are already in one can be the first step toward protecting your peace of mind.

In this episode, Dr. Harold Shinitzky, Psy.D., breaks down the different types of narcissism, how narcissistic traits show up in relationships, and what real support and healing can look like.

You’ll learn about:
• Gaslighting, love bombing, mirroring, and future faking
• Put-downs, smear campaigns, and projection
• Control, surveillance, and emotional manipulation
• What actually motivates change in narcissists
• Boundary phrases that shut down manipulation
• Resources to help you move forward with clarity and confidence

Dr. Shinitzky is a highly sought after presenter nationally and internationally. He is the developer of A Champion’s Mindset™, and The Winning Zone ©. He also co-authored the book, “A Champions Mindset: 15 Mental Conditioning Steps to Becoming a Champion Athlete” and works with Olympians and professional athletes (PGA, NFL, MLB, ATP, WTA, NBA, NHL) and nationally ranked juniors. Dr. Harold E. Shinitzky, Psy. D. is located in St. Petersburg Florida.

Connect With Dr. Shinitzky: drshinitzky.com

Read Dr. Dr. Shinitzky's Book:  Me, Myself, and I: A Narcissist’s Mindset: A Self-Help Handbook for Victims-Survivors of a Narcissist

Connect with Gretta:

Free Guide: What to Say To A Ghost
Free and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.com

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. 

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Have you ever longed for someone who didn't feel the same way? If you have a deep infatuation or an obsessive pull toward a person, you may be experiencing limerence. In this episode, host Gretta is joined by Kati Morton, LMFT, author, public speaker, and creator of a popular mental health YouTube channel, to unpack the emotional complexities of limerence.

Discover:

• The difference between limerence and healthy love
• Limerence and how it relates to anxious attachment, BPD, and OCD
• Why manifestation won’t change a limerent object
• Supportive ways to move through limerence
• And more!

If limerence is something you’re experiencing, this conversation will help you reclaim your time, your calm, and your peace of mind.

Connect With Gretta

❤️‍🩹Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect with Kati Morton, LMFT | YouTube | Instagram | katimorton.com 

Kati Morton, LMFT, is a licensed therapist, bestselling author, and mental health educator with a global community of over 1.5 million subscribers. Kati’s work helps people understand their emotions, break unhealthy patterns, and build resilience. Her upcoming book, Why Do I Keep Doing This? (Dec 9th, 2025), explores how to break free from self-sabotage. Get your copy here!

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Want to stop ghosting before it happens? While you can never entirely prevent ghosting, there are signs it may occur in the future. Join host Gretta and licensed therapist & dating coach Kelsey Wonderlin as they share practical tools for spotting emotional availability in dating.

Discover how to:

• Use questions to screen for emotional maturity
• Pace dates to slow attachment
• Date with confidence
• Spot vulnerability versus polished talk

Whether you're single and dating or already in a relationship, this conversation provides ways to protect your energy and prioritize partners who show up. 

Connect With Gretta

❤️‍🩹Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect with Kelsey Wonderlin, Licensed Therapist and Dating Coach

💕Kelsey's Website |  Instagram 

Kelsey has dedicated her career to helping women use evidence-based psychology principles to attract emotionally available men, fast. Her proprietary methods have been featured in The New York Times, TIME Magazine, NBC, and more. If you're a single woman and want to find true love, check out her courses!💕

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

In this episode, host Gretta, Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, reveals exactly what to do when the person who ghosted you reappears and wants to come back to your life. You’ll learn how to protect your heart, set clear boundaries, and decide with confidence whether a reunion is truly right for you. You’ll discover:

• The types of relationships that aren't safe to go back to
• How to be a ghostbuster and shut down the haunting
• How to identify if the person who hurt you has grown and evolved to the point where they are unlikely to vanish again
• How to know if you feel ready to rekindle a spark with your former partner
• The first steps to getting back together with a rehabilitated ghost

By the end of this show, you’ll understand what you need and what they must show in order to begin building a healthy relationship.
Note: While this episode focuses on romantic reunions and dating, many of the insights can also be applied to friendships and family relationships.

Connect With Gretta:
👻Free Guide: What to Say To Your Ghost
✨Coaching With Gretta
❤️‍🩹Free and Private Facebook Support Group | 🌻 Instagram | YouTube ✨copingwithghosting.com

Resources Mentioned:

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233

12 Signs You’re in a Healthy Relationship - Cleveland Clinic Article

Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Happiness, and Confidence by Dr. Debi Silber
 
Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. 

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

In this episode of Coping With Ghosting, Gabriela Vazquez, AMFT, APCC, and Gretta discuss why ghosting is an ambiguous loss that causes frozen grief.  If you have been rejected, led on, or abandoned in a relationship - you are not alone. In this episode, we cover why it's healthy and essential to grieve the loss of your ghost. 

Connect With Gretta

❤️‍🩹Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect with Gaby

@therapycongaby on Instagram 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. 

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

When women end a friendship, the heartbreak can be devastating, yet we rarely talk about how hard it is to grieve somebody who is still alive.  Susan Shapiro Barash joins Gretta to explore the complex world of female friendship estrangement based on her groundbreaking research interviewing 150 diverse women. Her new book, "Estranged: How Strained Female Friendships Are Mended or Ended," challenges the lifelong "best friends forever" narrative that has left countless women feeling down when their closest friendships crumble. From the faithless friend who betrays your trust to the green-eyed friend consumed by jealousy, Barash identifies different types of toxic friendships that lead women to the painful decision of ending relationships they once cherished.  Whether you've been ghosted or betrayed by a friend, are healing from a friendship breakup, or seeking to build healthier connections, this episode offers compassionate guidance for navigating one of life's most under-discussed transitions. 

Connect With Gretta

❤️‍🩹Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Susan Shapiro Barash 

Read Susan's Book: Estranged: How Strained Female Friendships Are Mended or Ended | Susan's Website

Susan Shapiro Barash has written more than a dozen nonfiction books, including Tripping the Prom Queen, Toxic Friends, and You’re Grounded Forever, but First Let’s Go Shopping. For more than 20 years, she taught gender studies at Marymount Manhattan College and has guest taught creative nonfiction at the Writing Institute at Sarah Lawrence College. Her fiction is published under her pen name, Susannah Marren.

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

If you've been abandoned in a relationship, this episode is for you. Whether a friend disappeared, a business partner left you on read, or the love of your life ghosted - this episode will explain why it's not personal. It's not your fault, and you didn't deserve this. This show was initially published in 2022. 

*NOTE: Being "ghosted" is different from leaving an abusive situation without a goodbye - that is "self-protection." It's also different from disappearing after a boundary has been violated; that is "self-respect."

Connect with Gretta:

Private Coaching with Gretta

Free Guide: What to Say To Your Ghost

Free Coping With Ghosting Guide

Free Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.com

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. 

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

This episode originally aired on April 4, 2021.

Want healthy ways to cope and heal after being ghosted? Listen as Gretta explains seven healthy ways to get over the ghost so that you can quickly move on with your life. These tips are practical, and ones that you can implement into your life today.

Want more ways to heal after being ghosted? Download your Free Coping With Ghosting Guide that pairs with this episode. 

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | coachgretta.com | Email [email protected] to request topics for the upcoming book about ghosting in love!

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies to help clients transform after heartbreak, betrayal, and life’s toughest moments. 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Has your life veered dramatically off course from what you planned? Whether through ghosting, betrayal, or an unexpected life challenge, many of us find ourselves struggling with the gap between expectation and reality. This powerful conversation between Host Gretta and Kate Berski, mental health advocate, and author of "30 Phobia: Why Your 20s Suck and How to Get Unstuck," offers liberating perspectives for anyone feeling lost, behind, or simply different from the "normal" timeline. Learn about:

• The “expectation gap” that can make us feel behind in life
• Why social media comparisons fuel misery
• Why loneliness spikes during life transitions
• Mindset shifts for when you feel behind in career and finances
• The myth of the “arrival fallacy” and chasing milestones
• Kate’s 4-step framework for finding joy in the journey

Ready to break free from society's timeline and create a life that's authentically yours? This episode will help you redefine success on your terms and find peace exactly where you are.

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | coachgretta.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies to help clients transform after heartbreak, betrayal, and life’s toughest moments.

Connect With Kate Berski 

Kate's Website | Instagram | Read "30-Phobia" 

Kate Berski helps women take back their 20s and build a life that truly fits. She normalises being normal and busts societal ‘milestone myths’ with real facts and fresh data. 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

“Loneliness doesn’t come from being single; it comes from believing the lies that you’re not enough on your own.” - Fanny Tristan  In this episode, host Gretta speaks with women’s empowerment coach and licensed trauma therapist Fanny Tristan, LCSW-R, for a powerful conversation about healing from loneliness, trust issues, and the pressure to be in a relationship. This conversation offers guidance and hope for women and everyone else alike.
 Together, Fanny and Gretta explore:

• How to push back against societal pressure to be coupled
• Practical strategies for self-soothing and moving forward when feeling lonely
• Ways to rebuild trust and create supportive community connections

Tune in to break free from cultural expectations and say “yes” to a richer, more fulfilling life.

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Fanny 

Fanny Tristan is the founder of Her Soul Supply and a licensed clinical social worker with over 15 years of experience supporting women of color through life’s transitions. Her deep understanding of the unique challenges faced by Black and Brown women fuels her commitment to empowering them to thrive—on their own terms.

Her Soul Supply | Instagram

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a communicated boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."