Dating Intentionally

In this episode, I'm covering how attraction actually works when you're dating for a long-term relationship, from how to know if you're attracted to someone and what's "enough," to how long to give it before walking away, to how attraction can grow over time and what it actually takes for that to happen. I'm also answering a few listener questions, and at the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about a confusing Bumble interaction.

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• Free dating FAQ guide
• Stop looking for attraction on the first date
• Dating outside your type
• Flirting tips episode

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I'm chatting with Keltie Maguire, a life coach who specializes in helping people navigate the kids-or-child-free decision — a topic we've never covered on this show before. After spending years as a fence-sitter herself before ultimately choosing a child-free life, Keltie now helps individuals and couples gain clarity on one of the most complex decisions they'll ever make. We're discussing everything from why "you'll just know" is terrible advice to why a pros and cons list won't actually help you, how to approach this decision when you're ambivalent, and why both people in a couple need to be willing to compromise. Keltie also shares how to talk about the kids question while you're dating: when to bring it up, what to put on your profile, and what to do when your person isn't sure. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a woman who's finally found a stable, kind man she feels safe with, but she's embarrassed by how he looks.

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Kids or Child Free Podcast (Keltie's pod)

We Are Child Free Podcast

The Baby Decision (book)

Amanda White's Substack, Fence Sitter

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Don't let your situationship stop you from getting into a relationship. In this episode, I'm getting into how situationships happen in the first place to why leaving feels impossible to the exact words to use when you finally end it. I share my own 2-year situationship story, break down the difference between situationships and casual dating or friends with benefits, and give you a real plan for healing that works. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about how to handle inconsistent communication early on when someone takes three days to confirm date plans.

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• Signs you're in a situationship (ep 69)

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I'm chatting with Amy Chan, relationship expert, retreat founder, and author of the brand-new book Unsingle, about why most people are just a few strategic adjustments away from finding their match. We're discussing everything from the dating funnel (and which stage you're most likely sabotaging) to the spectrum between having no standards and over-icking yourself out of love to why dating is a personality game, but relationships are a character game. Amy also breaks down the difference between preferences and non-negotiables, why narcissists are actually great daters, and how to build intuition so you stop overriding your gut. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about taking it slow with a work crush you've known for seven months.

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In this episode, I'm covering one of the biggest sticking points in early dating: feeling connected between dates. I'm getting into the mindset work and how to stop the spiral, including my top practical tips for building connection between dates without overdoing it. Along the way, we talk about the role of phone calls, texting habits, and how to bring this up on a date without making it awkward. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who's questioning her long-term compatibility with an on-and-off boyfriend of 2 years.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Ep 244: Building inner security

Epi 209: Why self-trust is key to feeling safe

Ep 138: Developing self-compassion

Texts that are better than "how are you?"

1. What are you looking forward to this week?
2. What was the best part of your day?
3. What’s a win you had today?
4. What’s the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?
5. What did you see recently that’s living rent-free in your mind?
6. If we could skip to the weekend right now, what's the first thing you’d do?
7. What food are you currently craving?

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I'm chatting with Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine, the husband-and-wife hosts of Dear Shandy, one of my favorite reality TV recap podcasts. We're discussing everything from what Love Is Blind contestants keep getting wrong (and how it mirrors real life) to why Andy believes online dating is the slow death of modern romance, to how to bring up the "big" topics on a first date. This episode is packed with practical dating advice from a couple who have seen it all. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who's not sure whether her boyfriend's travel issues are a dealbreaker.

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Ruby the dog: @shandyspoo

My 5 needs in a partner

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I went on about 150 dates with over 60 people in a year before I met my now husband, and don't for a second think "hope" is what got me through it and kept me motivated. In this episode, which originally aired in 2024, I'm sharing why hope is useless and what to focus on instead: your beliefs. I didn't hope I'd meet someone; I believed it was inevitable. Listen to this episode if you're ready to work on your beliefs so you don't burn out after the rejection, false starts, and ghosting (that's also inevitable if you're dating). At the end, I get into a new dating dilemma about a dramatic reaction to a last-minute date switch-up.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Episode #68 with Jackie Glaser (self-worth + beliefs)

Thank you, More Please by Lily Womble

F the Fairytale by Damona Hoffman

Breakup Bootcamp by Amy Chan

How to Identify Your Needs course

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I'm chatting with Rebecca Ore, a relationship coach and former anxiously attached dater who transformed her own relationship experience after discovering thought work and coaching. We're discussing everything from why you feel totally fine when you're single but fall apart the second you start liking someone, to what it actually means to stop trying to control your partner and start coming back to yourself. Rebecca also shares her personal experience of learning to separate her self-worth from how others treat her, and how that shift changed everything in her current relationship. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who had a five-hour first date and hadn't heard from them two days later.

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In this episode, I'm answering four listener dating dilemmas, from deciding whether a "boring" but stable guy is worth more dates to navigating attraction when everything else aligns, to catching feelings for a newly single college friend, to dealing with a breadcrumbing bartender. I'm sharing how to tell the difference between "boring" and "bored," a better way to think about attraction, and why "right person, wrong time" is a trap.

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I'm chatting with Dr. Jennie Young, creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method and author of the brand-new book Burn the Haystack, on round two! This time, we're getting into everything from her own success story to how to spot toxic dating coaches to why the "ick" deserves way more credit than it gets. Jennie also breaks down how she uses Burn the Haystack beyond the apps, the rhetorical patterns that didn't make it into the book, and the exact opening prompt that reveals her matches political affiliation 99% of the time. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a woman two and a half months into a relationship with a really nice guy she just isn't falling for.

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Listen to our first conversation about Burned Haystack

Read Jennie's Substack

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