Earn Your Happy

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Learning from people more successful than you
• Getting comfortable with discomfort
• Prioritizing yourself over people-pleasing 

Resources:

• instagram.com/drinklitepink

Show Notes:

Welcome back to Questionably Awesome! Today, Evans and I are going to be answering your questions around building confidence.

@rowellty asks: How do you overcome being intimidated by being in the company of those you admire or are more successful than you?

@melissa_wucinick asks: How do I overcome people pleasing? I know I am doing it but can't stop, and need the validation on social media.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• The commonalities between leadership and relationships
• Giving feedback in the moment
• Being honest, open, and building trust
• What gets recognized gets repeated

Resources:

• Visit outstandingfoods.com/lori or use code LORI for 25% off your first order!

Show Notes:

There are some common threads between being a good leader and being a good romantic partner. Nobody is going to be great at either when they’re just starting out — just think back to your first relationship and I’m sure you’ll agree — but with some intentional practice, we can become better leaders and better partners at the same time.

Give feedback in the moment

Nothing is worse than letting a grievance sit and then coming back to it after the other person has moved on. Some people get over things much more quickly than others. If you try to bring something up later, the other person may get confused, defensive, or angry. And small things left unaddressed continue to build up until they become a huge roadblock in your relationship. That can all be avoided by bringing it up in the moment.

Being honest, open, and building trust

Building off of that last point, giving feedback in the moment is what is going to make people learn to trust you. Being honest also empowers other people around you to open up and be their best, and that is the sign of a good relationship in business AND life.

What gets recognized gets repeated

When you see the kind of behavior you want, you have to work to recognize it in a way that acknowledges the other person. This will help that behavior stick and give further clarity to the types of behaviors you want. This also opens the trust door for feedback and makes it easier to breach the conversation around what can be improved.

If you take in these three tips, you’re going to make it a lot of the way towards being great in both leadership AND relationships.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Getting over the fear of asking
• Building an obsession-worthy personal brand in 2021
• Expanding who you are
• Getting on your path
• Surrounding yourself with people who love you
• Showing up as yourself

Resources:

• jessicazweig.com
• Read: "Be."

Show Notes:

Jessica Zweig is a girl on FIRE. Not just because she’s doing big things in the world, but because she’s truly tapped into the power of being herself. You hear it all the time: Being your authentic self is your superpower. But how do you do that? Jessica is going to show you how you can activate this power inside of you at this very moment, reminding you how to get out of your head and figure out what it is about you that makes you unique and apply it to everything you do.

Question Highlights:

• How did you get comfortable asking for things outside of your comfort zone?
• What does it mean to build an obsession-worthy personal brand?
• What do you do when you think you’ve found yourself and then you go and do something new?
• Why should you build a personal brand in the first place?
• How do you start building out a personal brand?
• What is something that you wish more people knew about you?

Guest Bio:

Jessica Zweig is the CEO of the SimplyBe. Agency, a premier personal branding firm based in Chicago, serving clients across the globe. Named a “Personal Branding Expert” by Forbes, a Top Digital Marketer To Watch by INC, and honored with the Gold and Silver Stevie® Award for “Female Entrepreneur of the Year” in 2018 and 2019, Jessica facilitates sold-out workshops and speaks on the power of personal branding to corporations including Google, Salesforce, Virgin, Nike, Motorola, Red Bull, and Bank of America. She also hosts the top-ranked marketing podcast The SimplyBe Podcast. Jessica’s debut book, Be: A No Bullsh*t Guide to Increasing Your Self Worth and Net Worth by Simply Being Yourself, launches in February 2021 with Sounds True, an imprint of Macmillan. 

After growing up in Highland Park, IL, and attending the University of Illinois Urbana Champaign, Jessica co-founded CheekyChicago, one of the premier lifestyle magazines in Chicago. The website was a huge success, and although Jessica was known as a Top 10 Chicago “It” Girl, behind the scenes her life was far from perfect. The website began to lose money, and Jessica’s relationship with her co-founder turned toxic, but she still strove to maintain the façade of success. After overdrafting her checking account and unable to pay her cell phone bill, Jessica realized she wasn’t being her authentic self. Instead, she was operating from a place of fear which prevented her from true success. This revelation led Jessica to found her own company, SimplyBe. Agency, in 2014.  

At SimplyBe., Jessica and her team work with corporate executives, entrepreneurs, and creatives to become recognized industry experts and thought leaders. SimplyBe works with clients including Heineken, Morningstar, Blackstone, Mars, Vishen Lakhiani, Jason Rosenthal, Andrea Levoff, Larry Jordan, and many more to successfully develop their personal brands while highlighting their greatest business asset: their authenticity. Her business provides customized branding, marketing, and creative services with an emphasis on core values like kindness, truth, service, and of course, authenticity. 

Jessica believes authenticity is the key to true success, and that being yourself opens up a new world of empowerment that’s not just about how much money you’re making. She’s also on a mission to debunk the perception that personal branding is an act of vanity; instead, when done right, personal branding is an act of service, a social responsibility, and a positive investment toward a positive future. 

Jessica has brought her life-changing and trademarked methodology to clients around the world, taking many from unknown experts to recognized thought leaders. In her free time, she loves traveling, meditating, journaling, working out, and reading. She is involved with multiple charities including the Humane Society, The Human Rights Campaign, I Grow Chicago, Black Lives Matter, and more. Jessica currently lives in Chicago with her husband and two dogs. 

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Being in rooms with people that call you up
• Choosing discomfort
• Imagining the pain of staying in your comfort zone
• Picturing the reward for breaking the pattern

Resources:

• instagram.com/drinklitepink

Show Notes:

You are always going to be uncomfortable for one of two reasons: you’re either leaving your comfort zone or you are staying in it too long. They both create discomfort, so which would you rather choose? Staying in your comfort zone never creates the result that you want; you don’t grow, and still end up experiencing pain when the universe decides it’s time to wake you up. Or, you can choose to leave your comfort zone on purpose and move through the discomfort to reach the next level — you’re going to be uncomfortable either way, so you might as well have something to show for it.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Being consistent on social media
• Creating structure
• Outsourcing when you need help
• Dealing with greed
• Exploring your deep motivations

Resources:

• instagram.com/drinklitepink

Show Notes:

Welcome back to Questionably Awesome! Today, Evans and I are going to be answering your questions about consistency and greed.

@miss_evab asks: I'm struggling to be consistent with my business social media account!

@danigmorris asks: Can you talk about how to overcome GREED? I'm seeing it become an addicting habit.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Why you need to choose your pain
• Getting from good to great
• Choosing God-sized dreams
• Welcoming pressure

Resources:

• Text ELITE to 310-421-0416 or visit fortheloveofmoney.com/mastermind to see if you’re a fit for Chris’ elite mastermind group
• Visit plushcare.com/happy to start a free 30-day trial with Plushcare

Show Notes:

There are two types of pain points in life: The ones you are dealt and the ones that are chosen. If you aren’t choosing the pain that you face, life is going to choose for you — and it may not be the kind of pain you want. But any pain you face is going to help you grow, so if you need pain, make sure it’s the pain you choose.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Creating a communal class structure around boxing
• Starting a new business
• Adapting to COVID-19
• Embodying perseverance
• Bringing people together

Resources:

• boxunion.com
• Visit digital.boxunion.com and use code FELICIA for 33% off your monthly subscription
• Instagram: @feeslalaland

Show Notes:

Felicia Alexander is the cofounder of BoxUnion, a boxing fitness studio sparked by her dream of empowering communities and helping others discover their greatness. In 2020, her business went digital in order to adapt to what was happening in the world, taking her reach from California to global. We talk about pivoting, opening a business, and leaving behind the life you thought you were going to lead. It’s an awesome, inspiring conversation that you’re going to get a ton of value from.

Question Highlights:

• Where did your love for boxing come from?
• What did it look like when you were getting BoxUnion started?
• What was an eye-opening lesson you’ve had since starting this business?
• What did your business look like when COVID hit?
• What does it feel like when the future is so unknown right now?
• What does perseverance mean to you and how do you bring it into your life?

Guest Bio:

Felicia’s love of community and fitness started at a young age. While her grandfather was an amateur boxer, it wasn’t until after the sudden death of her father when she was only 16, Felicia discovered her love of boxing.

A graduate of Stanford University and the UCLA Anderson School of Business, Felicia went on to have a successful career as a Sales & Marketing executive for companies including Sun Microsystems, Sony, Mattel, and Leaf Group, all the while recruiting friends and members of her team to come together through fitness.

In 2016, she decided to leave corporate America to chase her childhood dream of empowering the community through boxing and helping others discover their true greatness through fitness— no matter their age or ability. Together with her business partner, Todd Wadler, Alexander launched BoxUnion in Santa Monica, CA in April of 2017. After the success of the first studio, BoxUnion opened a second location in West Hollywood, CA in January of 2019. In April of 2020 BoxUnion Digital launched allowing consumers all over the world to stay healthy, de-stress, and build their mental strength from anywhere at any time.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Discerning what needs to move fast and slow in your life
• Making temporary decisions
• Changing your mind
• Believing you will figure it out

Resources:

• instagram.com/drinklitepink
• instagram.com/girlfriendsandbusiness

Show Notes:

I’ve had a lot of people reach out to me about how I’m able to get so much done so fast in my new company. I want to dive into that topic, showing how I am getting some things done fast, what is taking me longer, and the things that need to intentionally go slower in order to do them right. Making decisions is a muscle that needs to be worked, so get flexing!

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• What to do when you hate your job but don’t know what comes next
• Reframing what you’re doing
• Stepping into your purpose
• Putting it all on the line
• Dressing for success

Resources:

• instagram.com/drinklitepink

Show Notes:

Welcome back to Questionably Awesome! Today, Evans and I are going to be answering your questions about overcoming struggle.

@sambamfarley: I hate my day job and want to quit but don't have enough income to support me. What should I do?

@samantha_haffner : Struggling with motivation! I have been lacking motivation and need to kick my own butt. Help please!

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• The importance of knowing your numbers
• The benefits of competition
• How every person and product is unique
• Being authentic to where you are at

Resources:

• Text ELITE to 310-421-0416 or visit fortheloveofmoney.com/mastermind to join my elite mastermind
• Instagram: @chriswharder | @loriharder

Show Notes:

Fear of competition scares a lot of people away from even taking the first step towards a business, but there’s no reason that competition should hold you back. So, we’re going to break down the reasons why you shouldn’t worry about competition and why you should actually be wary of starting a business that has no competition.