Earn Your Happy

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One thing that’s holding you back is an attachment to permanency. Believing that you’re supposed to find a great job and stay with that company forever, or you meet a partner and stay together forever, or you plant roots and stay in the same city forever. When you’re not attached to permanency, you’re allowed to dabble, to experiment, to try new things and see if they are right for you. And it’s only through that experimentation that you find what works best.

When you’re worried that you’re holding yourself back from making decisions because you feel attached to the permanency of your current situation, even if it’s making you unhappy, it’s time to start asking yourself some questions. First, “What’s the worst that could happen if I make a new decision?” Oftentimes, that worst case scenario is the exact same situation you’re in now, so don’t be afraid of making a new decision when the outcome might be the same as no decision at all – it could be so much better.

Many times we’re afraid of losing the good things about where we’re at now if we make a different decision. Maybe you’re afraid of losing your friends or your favorite restaurant. But what if you got really intentional, took inventory of what you loved, and made a focused effort to do those things (or similar) in a different situation? It’s possible to preserve the good while making even more room for new greatness.

So stop focusing so much on permanency. Life isn’t meant to be that way. If something isn’t serving you in the way that it could, try something new. Be intentional, focus on maintaining what you already have, and keep changing things to get even better.

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I have been obsessed with Mel Robbins for longer than I can remember, so it’s a dream come true to be able to sit down with her and talk to her about The High 5 Habit. We’re all quick to give our friends high fives, cheer them on, be their biggest supporters… but what about the person in the mirror? When do we ever give ourselves a high five? And what would happen if we made a habit of it? That’s what Mel’s going to share, and let me tell you, it will absolutely change the game for you.

My friend Mel Robbins, one of the most requested motivational speakers in the world, is hosting a five-day online challenge on GrowthDay called The High 5 Challenge. She’s offering it to my community for free here:

https://app.growthday.com/challenge/high5?via=heylori

This free Challenge is an incredible opportunity to break through self-doubt, stay encouraged through these uncertain times, and take back control of your life.

The High 5 Challenge runs from October 4th to October 8th. You can sign up now for free, and you’ll even get Mel teaching LIVE every day until the start of the Challenge!

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Mel Robbins is one of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author. Her work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, and the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. 

Her groundbreaking work on behavioral change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.

As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month, and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time.

There’s nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people’s lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.

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Ladies. You have GOT to stop apologizing for asking for what you want. And you have to stop apologizing for just being yourself. You are who you are, some people aren’t going to be OK with that… and that’s OK! Because the people who are – YOUR people – are going to love you anyways, and they will find you no matter what.

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Some people hate talking about money… but they still wish they had more. Here’s a secret nobody tells you: making more money won’t actually make you feel more abundant. That feeling can exist at any financial level. It’s just a mindset. We’re going to share our top tips for crushing scarcity, and moving into abundance.

Our first tip is this: stop focusing on what you don’t have and take inventory of what you do have. You have four tiers of assets, but many people only look at the first tier: cash on hand. We rely on that number to feel abundant, even though how we feel about that amount may change from day to day. Get off that roller coaster and start focusing on all four tiers:

Abundance doesn’t come from what you have on hand, but your ability to create money out of thin air. Anytime you’re not feeling abundant, just recognize that you have those untapped talents that people would pay you for that you can turn into real money whenever you need.

Our second tip is to hang out with rich people. You want to be in the room with people who are doing the things that you want. This can mean getting creative – for instance, the Nordstrom worker who’s networking with everyone he helps put himself in the position to be surrounded by people doing the things he wants to be doing. This can also mean springing for something premium outside of your comfort zone that’s going to put you around those people – premium memberships, hair salons, hotels, and more. These are the rooms where the opportunities and ideas are.

These are the best ways to create more abundance in your life. You have to stretch your thinking beyond where you already are and look for the limitless possibilities out there.

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Lacey Johnson is a magical wordsmith. Anytime she speaks it’s like pure honey. She’s been on the show before, but a LOT of life has happened since then. She’s had to deal with some seriously traumatic events, and, thankfully, she’s managed to turn those experiences into something positive. We catch up on where she’s been, what she’s doing now, and her upcoming book which is just going to be LOADED with deep truths.

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Lacey Johnson is a doting wife and mom, self-belief enthusiast, and multi-passionate, award-winning journalist who sparks conversations that unlock hearts, energize minds, and celebrate the human experience. Having worked with a fascinating range of famed entrepreneurs, spiritual thought leaders, and top mental health professionals (including Deepak Chopra, Daymond John, Gabby Bernstein, and Dr. Caroline Leaf), her words can be read in a collective of top magazines and media sources including Oprah.com, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, POPSUGAR, O, The Oprah Magazine, Woman’s Day and more – many of which have been syndicated by Apple News, MSN, and Yahoo! millions of times.

With a deep intrigue for human beings, and a fiery passion for smacking her readers in the face with comfort and truth, she calls upon her vault of compelling experiences such as a family-wide tragedy in early childhood, life-long grief, domestic violence in young adulthood, infertility, a collective of personal and professional heartbreaks, and a near-death experience a year ago. Her writing and bold reporting unlock possibility and invite epiphany. While in the process of finishing a massive book project about transforming pain and setbacks into providence and power, she recently released a digital workbook as a prelude, entitled The Radical Life Renovation: A Guided Program to Anchor Joy, Explode with Confidence and Redesign Your Future. It’s garnering rave reviews, grateful shares, and tearful praise from readers.

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You have to proclaim what you desire in order to claim it. I know you’ve got big dreams, but if you are not speaking it out in public, getting into rooms with likeminded people, and willing it into the world, it’s not going to happen. So stop being afraid of bragging or being embarrassed, and start putting your dreams out there. The fastest way to get what you want is to tell the world and see what happens next.

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Making big, disruptive decisions in life can be hard. We’ve been making some massively big decisions in our life over the past few years, and we’ve developed a rhythm to making them and vetting whether they feel right. Whether it’s a decision to move, start a business, sell a home, or any other big life decision, we run them through a three-step process to make sure it’s the right move for us.

The first question we ask ourselves before making a decision is this: will this decision give me extreme energy? Is it so aligned with your goals that, even when things get messy, it is still going to provide you with energy? When you’re making a decision, you tend to focus on the energy you’re feeling in the moment, not the long term energy that’s going to come – or leave – based on that decision.

The second question to ask yourself is: are you OK with the worst possible outcome of that decision? You don’t have to feel good about that happening. You surely don’t want it to happen. But would you be OK if it happened? It’s a hard question to answer, but it is crucial if you want to move forward without regret.

And third: do you have a support system to help you through the decision? This doesn’t mean you have to know the exact people that are going to be there for you, but you have to know that they are out there and that you can find them. If you know that you have the support system in place for this decision, you need to move forward, knowing you can tap into it.

Imagine how that decision would play out, all the way to the end. If you are happy with the outcome then move forward. If you’ve answered these three questions, then there’s nothing stopping you from changing directions if things don’t end up the way you expected, but at least you won’t be paralyzed by the fear of deciding in the first place.

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Amy Porterfield is one of the best in online marketing and podcasting. She’s someone you’ll be thankful to have on your side when it comes to growing your business, and she is SO generous with the information she provides. No matter where you are in your business – or even if you don’t have one and are focused more on your career – Amy’s advice is going to help you skyrocket to success.

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Amy Porterfield is an online marketing expert and the host of the top-ranked podcast, Online Marketing Made Easy. Before building a multimillion dollar digital course business, Amy worked with Peak Performance Coach, Tony Robbins, where she oversaw the content team and collaborated on ground-breaking online marketing campaigns. Through her bestselling courses and popular podcast, Amy’s action-by-action approach proves that even the newest online entrepreneurs can bypass the overwhelm, and instead generate exciting momentum as they build a business they love.

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What can you do to expand your capacity for joy? Sometimes we get caught up in a routine that we don’t even realize is keeping us down. But sometimes taking a step away from that routine makes you realize all of the things that have been causing you stress and overwhelm that you can then reevaluate. I’m going to share how you can create more joy in your life – because that is where all great ideas come from.

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As we’ve been traveling, we’ve been listening to a ton of podcasts that are reeducating and inspiring us to do our best work. Again and again, we are having these reminders of lessons that are imperative to our success.

One of the first reminders we had was from a podcast with Lewis Howes and Rob Dyrdek. Rob does a great job of living his life to the fullest while also achieving incredible things and reaching massive success. He talked about living a life without compromise and following where your energy leads you.

Another lesson is the power of manifestation – but not in the way you might expect. Truly taking the time to embody and visualize the feeling of what you want. Whether you’re inclined to more logical or mystical thinking, this still works. Logically, picturing and feeling what you want is going to wire your brain to take conscious and subconscious actions that bring you the results. Or you may believe that the power of asking the universe is actually bringing you closer to your goals. Either way, this is a powerful tool.

And lastly, we were reminded of the power of rituals and boundaries. Setting clear boundaries and expectations of how long you are going to work, how long you’re going to spend with your family, who you’re going to spend time with, what you’re going to track, and more. You need to exercise your boundaries in order to live a life within the container you want.

There are so many things you can learn from plugging in and listening to things that inspire and motivate you. You are more powerful than you realize, it just takes finding something to spark that memory and then taking the action to prove it.