Help Me Be Me

Ep 179: Difficult Relationships + the power of projection


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For anyone who is dealing with a friend or family member (or anyone, really) who feels you are critical, rude, insensitive or always in the wrong. And when this happens, you are baffled...

 

Projection is powerful. What we see we believe but most of it is created by our inner world. The reason I’m doing this episode is because projection is also a major factor in how someone charts their course in life. So if that person is self-loathing, unhappy, insecure and angry – they will be making decisions based on this set of feelings – including as it relates to their relationship with others. That person may choose to cut off contact with you, feel offended by you, or think of you as insulting them in the most average of situations. In other worlds, all they can see is how they feel inside. Regardless of how irrational, they see their reasoning as valid, and this is like a welcome escape from their inner world. Because it’s out there! Not me. It’s them.

 

This episode has tools for setting boundaries with a person like this – and also tools for orienting yourself in the face of this.

 

For more of my work and to make a donation, head to Yaywithme.com

 

The two articles I mention in this episode are here:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/projection

https://www.britannica.com/science/projection-psychology

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