"They don’t mellow with age—they just master new ways to manipulate."
In this insightful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we explore the 10 key behaviours of the ageing narcissist—from guilt-tripping to rewriting history, and everything in between.

"Age doesn’t soften narcissism—it sharpens the need for control."
As narcissists grow older, their usual tools—like charm and intimidation—may lose their power. What takes their place? Increased emotional manipulation, health-based guilt tactics, and a desperate scramble for relevance.

Their fear of being forgotten fuels their most toxic behaviours.
I’ll share real-life stories from my counselling practice, including ageing parents who use declining health to control adult children, or narcissistic elders who deny any wrongdoing from the past. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic parent, partner, or even a colleague nearing retirement, this episode will help you spot the patterns and protect your peace.

You’ll also learn how the ageing narcissist’s fragile ego drives attention-seeking, denial, and blame-shifting—and what you can do to emotionally detach and safeguard your boundaries.

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How do You Set Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse?

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How can I start setting boundaries after everything I’ve been through?” this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is exactly what you need. Boundaries are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, but they can feel like unfamiliar territory when you’ve spent so much time walking on eggshells or putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own.

In today’s episode, we’ll break down what boundaries really are (hint: they’re not about being selfish, despite what a narcissist might say!) and why they’re critical for your recovery. We’ll talk about the common struggles survivors face when setting boundaries, like fear of conflict, guilt, or not knowing where to start.

I’ll share actionable tips for creating healthy boundaries—whether it’s with a narcissistic ex, a toxic family member, or even in new relationships—and how to stick to them without backing down. We’ll also discuss how to handle the inevitable pushback from a narcissist and why their reaction doesn’t define your worth.

If you’re ready to take your power back, protect your peace, and finally put yourself first, this episode is your guide. Let’s dive into the “how” of setting boundaries and start building the life you deserve.

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20 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Tips for 2025 – Happy New Year!

Welcome to a brand-new year and a fresh chapter in your healing journey! In this empowering episode I share 20 transformative tips to help you recover from narcissistic abuse in 2025. Whether you’ve just left a toxic relationship or are deep in the healing process, these practical strategies will inspire hope and give you the tools you need to thrive.

From setting boundaries that stick, to breaking free from trauma bonds, I explain how to prioritise your well-being, rebuild your self-esteem, and create a brighter future. 

This episode is packed with actionable advice to start the year strong, reminding you that healing is possible and that 2025 can be the year you reclaim your power. So grab a notebook, settle in, and join me for a motivational start to the new year.

Listen now to 20 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Tips for 2025 and step confidently into a year of growth and healing!
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This isn’t just about surviving this Christmas —it's about reclaiming your peace and setting boundaries that protect you. 

In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of going no contact with a narcissistic family or partner for the first time during Christmas. The first Christmas of no contact can produce a myriad of emotions, from sadness to anger to relief and peace. 

You might be feeling torn, perhaps wondering if you've made the right choice around no-contact and battling feelings of guilt. Maybe you have others (Flying Monkeys) telling you to "be the bigger person", making you feel obligated to attend to keep everyone else happy.  There might even be feelings of loneliness as you think of others celebrating while you're left questioning what "family" really means.
Listen to this episode to understand the situations that typically take place to get you to break no contact,  that your feelings are valid, and the importance of maintaining rock-solid boundaries. 

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 "Wolf of Wall Street"s ex wife  Dr Nadine Macaluso, shares her story.

In this episode I speak with the inspirational Dr. Nadine Macaluso, known to her patients as Dr. Nae. Dr Nae is the real-life inspiration behind Naomi Belfort's character in "The Wolf of Wall Street." She survived a turbulent eight-year marriage to Jordan Belfort, marked by abuse, greed, and trauma.
Following her experiences, Dr. Macaluso relocated to California. Her journey of trauma and healing inspired her to return to school at age 39, where she earned her Master's in counseling and a Ph.D. in somatic psychotherapy. She further specialized with a two-year postdoctoral training in the Neuro-affective Relational Model (NARM).

As a therapist, Dr. Macaluso combines her education and personal experiences to help others heal from trauma. Her practice focuses on assisting patients in connecting with their authentic selves, fostering confidence, resilience, and agency. Dr. Macaluso firmly believes in the potential for post-traumatic growth, instilling hope in her patients and guiding them to reach their potential in life and love.
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If you have a female narcissist in your life or you know someone who does,  then you don't want to miss this episode!

In this episode, I talk about the female narcissist and the toxic abuse strategies she uses. Narcissistic abuse is not gender specific, and female narcissists (Mothers, Friends, Colleagues and Bosses) can be just as destructive as their male counterparts.

Female narcissists and male narcissists share core traits like a lack of empathy, a sense of entitlement, a need for control, and an insatiable need for attention. However, female abusers can often be more challenging to identify due to societal expectations and stereotypes. The female narcissist knows how to use these stereotypes to her advantage!

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In this episode, I'm joined by Amanda Stern. Amanda provides amazing insights into healing from narcissistic abuse through journaling. She empowers her clients and community to embrace journaling as a path to self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-love so they can own their worth, find success on their own terms, and write their way to a life they love.
We discuss how journaling helps you process those confusing and painful emotions, gain clarity, and rebuild your self-esteem after being entangled in a toxic relationship. Amanda shares practical tips on getting started, even if you’ve never journaled before, and how to use it to reflect on your experiences and track your growth.

You’ll learn why journaling isn’t just about venting but about reclaiming your voice, uncovering your authentic self, and creating a safe space to express thoughts you may not feel ready to share with others. 

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Have you ever felt like you’re losing your mind when dealing with a narcissist? Like no matter what you say or do, somehow, you’re the one who’s “too sensitive” or “overreacting”? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I discuss one of the most common—and maddening—questions victims of narcissistic abuse ask: Are they doing this on purpose? Spoiler alert: Yes, they are.

I’ll break down the sneaky, calculated tactics narcissists use to make you feel like you’re losing your mind using tactics like gaslighting,  projection, deflection and word salad. But most importantly,  this episode will help you to realise that 
You’re NOT “crazy,” and you’re definitely not alone.

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What’s driving your abuser’s behaviour?" Is it narcissism? Could it be ADHD? Or maybe it’s something else entirely? And does putting a label on it even matter when the abuse keeps happening?
In this episode, I tackle these questions many victims of abuse find themselves grappling with.
I talk about the differences and similarities between narcissistic traits and other conditions like ADHD, explaining how these behaviours can sometimes overlap. 

I break down why this mindset can be both understandable and harmful. I discuss how abusers often use mental health labels as a shield to deflect accountability, leaving victims confused and trapped in cycles of empathy and forgiveness.

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The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, love, and togetherness, but what happens when a narcissist is part of the family? In this eye-opening episode, we dive into the chaos a narcissistic family member can bring to your Christmas celebrations. From subtle manipulations to outright control tactics, narcissists have a knack for making everything about them—and ruining the holiday spirit for everyone else.

We’ll explore the common games narcissists play during festive gatherings: creating drama, triangulating family members, pulling surprise stunts, and turning the spotlight on themselves. 

If you’ve ever dreaded a holiday because of a narcissistic family member, this episode is for you. It’s time to take back the joy of Christmas!

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