#215: My favorite little sister, Genie Albina, joins me today to discuss family systems from the perspective of being a change agent. Genie is a certified Parent Coach who works with both teachers and parents, a mom of two kiddos, and is now an official coach inside Anchored.

Making intergenerational change takes a lot of strength, courage, and self-reflection. So, what do you do when you’re the intergenerational trauma bond breaker, or the one doing ancestral healing, and that’s not what’s happening in the rest of your family system? Find out in this episode.

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#214: This week, hear a conversation I had recently with Cass and Emma of the Honeydew Me Podcast where I broke down the different attachment styles and explored how we can begin moving towards secure attachment. 

Learn how our attachment styles bleed into all of our relationships, what secure attachment looks and feels like, and how to practice inner caretaking as you begin understanding and reframing your attachment style.

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#213: If you are ready to see what your life might look like without the substances of your choice, listen in. I’m sharing why I’m no longer available for substances to dysregulate me, the realizations I had when I removed caffeine from my life, and some questions you can ask yourself as you take a step back from substances of dysregulation.

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#212: It’s amazing to be able to step out of the life we’ve been living to take time, go on retreat, and step into deep inquiry about the experience of being human. While I love retreats, I also live in this world that includes a shadow side, hard edges, and a tenderoni nervous system. This is where the literal and metaphorical notion of meditating with our eyes open comes into play.

Discover how the concept of meditating with your eyes open is a way to come home to yourself while also being in and receiving the world exactly as it is. You’ll hear how it trains your mind and body to find calm and stillness while meeting the challenges before you, and how it helps you flow with life, instead of against it.

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You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you.

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#211: A sense of belonging is so core to the human experience, but for us folks living in codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing mindsets, we unwittingly hold on to stories that work against our human endeavor of belonging. 

For us emotional outsourcers who are always looking outside ourselves for approval and validation, being mindful of and healing our stories about our ability to belong is vital, and that’s what we’re doing today. I’m exploring what to do when you struggle to feel like you belong, why cultivating connection is actually an inside job, and how to begin fostering it.

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You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you.

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#210: I’m delighted to introduce you to Charlene Lam, a certified grief coach, curator, speaker, and founder of The Grief Gallery. Charlene is here to share her experience of being in Anchored and her thoughts on group coaching. She shares how somatic coaching in Anchored differs from anything else she's experienced, why she now has a deep affection for her mind, body, and spirit, and how learning to tend to herself has transformed every aspect of her life. 

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#209: If you’re tired of spending another day of your precious life in the fawn response, and instead, you’re ready to speak your truth and live in your sacred anger, you’re in the right place, my love.

This week, I share three signals of chronic fawning so you can start to see where you might identify with this habit. You’ll hear how it is a survival skill that simply isn’t necessary anymore, and how to heal from the damage of living in a chronic fawn response so you can reclaim your right to healthy, sacred anger. 

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#208: You’ve likely heard of fight, flight, and freeze nervous system responses as ways we protect ourselves when our boundaries are crossed, but there is a fourth: fawning. Fawning shows up for a lot of people, especially for those of us raised as girls and living as women, and this week, we’re exploring what it looks and feels like, and why you might have developed this habit in the face of anger.

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#207: Join me this week to hear how the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits we live with can be understood in the context of healthy anger, and how reclaiming that anger is one path that helps us heal. I’m sharing the socialization and conditioning that minimizes our experience of anger, guiding questions you can ask in the midst of anger, and the remedies for beginning to reconnect to your healthy anger. 

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#206: If you can relate to fearing or simply not knowing how to voice your anger, the notion of healthy anger may be radical to you, and you’re going to hear all about it this week. Join me to discover what healthy anger means, and why it’s your birthright to feel and express it. You’ll hear what causes us to lose touch with and talk ourselves out of anger, why anger is actually our friend, and how to begin giving voice to your healthy anger. 

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You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you.

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