Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

Marriages can survive infidelity. But can the couple really thrive? This is a question I get asked a lot, and in this episode you'll understand why the answer is a resounding YES!

Rebuilding a marriage after infidelity requires some specific tools and mindset shifts. It requires resiliency, curiosity, and a determination to change the narrative surrounding the infidelity.

In this episode, you'll learn what these tools and skills are, and how to implement them. You'll be able to identify what areas you are stuck in and concrete solutions to truly moving forward and building a marriage that is stronger and more intimate than what you had before.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Pornography in marriages can feel threatening, shameful and impossible to overcome. In today's episode, guests Lindsay and Danny Poelman share their story of overcoming the grip of pornography and creating a marriage much stronger than the one they had before.

For so many, porn use can feel crippling. Many men (and women) feel intense shame around porn use which ultimately keeps them stuck. In this episode, you'll learn how changing the narrative around porn use and empowering the individual can transform a marriage.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Frequently called "the green-eyed monster," jealousy is an emotion we don't often want to admit experiencing. We judge ourselves for feeling it, as we wonder what is wrong with us, and wind up in all kinds of painful mind drama.

After experiencing infidelity, jealousy can feel like a constant companion. Those pesky intrusive thoughts that creep in? The images you see? The incessant thoughts about "the other woman"? These are all normal to experience after a betrayal, but are rooted in fear and doubt.

In this episode, you'll learn how envy and jealousy are different emotions, with different fear meanings attached to them. When you understand the root cause of jealousy and envy, you'll know how to help release yourself from their grip.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Most of us have been conditioned our entire lives with the messaging that we should just be happy and filled with pleasure at all times. When we don't feel happy all the time, we avoid the negative emotion by buffering from what is actually real.

In this episode, you'll learn the real reasons why you buffer, and what it is costing you. When we buffer, we give ourselves a false sense of safety and security, but we are missing the opportunity to understand why we are buffering in the first place. We miss what the uncomfortable emotion is that we are avoiding, and why it keeps showing up.

Learning to stop buffering is where life becomes really good. You stop needing false pleasure because you know how to create it with your mind. You aren't afraid to feel any emotion. You stop hiding from yourself and start creating the life you actually want.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Perfection is a myth, yet so many of us think that we should be perfect to be acceptable and loveable. We can easily fall into being over-achievers or under-achievers, both as veils to hide our perceived insecurities and flaws.

This kind of thinking stifles our own development, and keeps us from developing real, vulnerable relationships with others where we allow ourselves to be seen. We may also block our own ability to really see others as they are.

In this episode, you'll learn if you are a perfectionist (you may be surprised by some of the ways perfectionism rears its head!), how it is affecting you and your loved ones, and you'll be provided clear tools that will help you grow in your capacity to love yourself in your imperfections.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

When life doesn't go the way we thought it would, it can be easy to blame God. Sometimes in our darkest moments we can wonder if He abandoned us. In this episode, guest David Butler and I will be discussing ways to cope with this painful experience.

David Butler is a best-selling author, co-host of the acclaimed "Don't Miss This" podcast, and educator. His unique view on God and scripture brings insight to this topic that will help listeners understand that they are not alone.

In this episode, you'll gain a greater understanding of how transactional relationships can hurt us, how Jesus Christ is the perfect example in all things, and why we are sometimes left seemingly alone. You'll know how to turn back to God, and heal the trust that has been lost.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'll be diving into why it is worth leaning into the "cognitive dissonance," or the space in between black and white where things feel a little more fuzzy. It is in this space that we grow. We try on new ideas, understand others on a deeper level, and create a safe place for ourselves, even when we don't have all the answers.

Even more importantly, when we can allow the discomfort of the gray area, healing takes place. If we can believe that someone who hurt us is both good and bad, it becomes possible to heal the relationship, and to give ourselves that same consideration.

Listen to gain a deeper understanding of where you may be stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, and what you can do to broaden your view.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Thoughts create our feelings, but feelings are the fuel that create our experience with life. When we learn to leverage the power of feelings, there is nothing you are unwilling to do, because you will be willing to feel any emotion in service of the result you want most.

In this episode, you will learn specific tools that will help you create the emotion that you want, and have an understanding of why both positive and negative emotions can be useful. Everything you could ever want is on the other side of learning to use your emotions as fuel.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

When faced with an uncomfortable situation, our natural tendency is to get out as quickly as possible. Sometimes we physically or emotionally check out in an attempt to avoid pain. In today's episode, you'll learn why your greatest growth comes from increasing your tolerance to discomfort - not avoiding it altogether.

By paying attention to what we want most in life, our willingness to allow discomfort will grow. When there is an understanding that the discomfort is in service of your ultimate goal, we are more willing to lean into the growth.

The more we grow, the more bold we become in the conversations we are willing to have, and in the things we try. We go after our dreams. We allow ourselves to mess up. We give permission to others to mess up. We become the most honest versions of ourselves.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

When faced with decisions, our brains automatically point out all the things we don't know, all the reasons it won't work, and why we should be afraid. In this podcast, you'll learn why starting with what you do know will help you solve what you don't.

For as long as humans have existed, our primal response to any kind of threat or danger is to get defensive, confused, and go looking for safety outside ourselves. Although this has kept us alive, it is outdated and does not ultimately help us create the kind of life we want on purpose.

In this episode, you'll learn in more depth why your brain automatically takes you to negative thinking, and how to override it with thoughts and beliefs that help you move forward. Remembering what you know first helps bring the brain back to a grounded, calm place, and can serve as a filter for all of the fears and doubts that follow.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles