Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

Can you think of a decision you are putting off? Most of us aren't very good at making decisions. We get in our own way by second-guessing ourselves, doubting our ability to decide, and worry about getting it wrong.

In this episode we'll be diving in to why we drag out decision making, and look at how much it is costing you to put it off. There are many seemingly good reasons we put decisions off, but it always comes at a price to ourselves.

You'll also learn about how to make decisions quickly, and how to support yourself after the decision has been made so you can move forward.

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We all like to know how things will turn out. Our brains crave certainty, and because of this we often believe that if we can control things, we can dictate how they will turn out. But there is a better way, especially when it comes to trying to control other people.

We can influence others by how we show up around them, and it is far more powerful (and likely to get us the results we actually want) than trying to control them.

In this episode, we'll talk about the difference (sometimes subtle) between control and influence, and how to tell how you are showing up for those around you. You'll understand why influence is so much more powerful than control, and how you can become a more influential person in all of your relationships.

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This week I am joined by Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss the intricacies of infidelity. There are many misconceptions surrounding infidelity, and those misconceptions can keep you stuck. In this episode, we take a closer look at how infidelity can be the catalyst for growth in both parties, why people engage in infidelity, and how to recover from it.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.

In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in-person and online), she teaches online relationship and sexuality courses designed to foster self and sexual development and create happier relationships and individuals. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many live workshops and retreats for couples and individuals.

Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and writes articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health, and faith.

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In this episode, I share my thoughts on when it may be time to consider ending a marriage. Although in truth we can leave a marriage whenever we want, there are a few specific questions to evaluate within yourself and your spouse that will ultimately serve you in the future after the decision is made.

While divorce can be a very hard thing to consider, let alone go through with, if one leaves for reasons they feel solid about, it sets them up for healing and a positive outcome on the other side of divorce.

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Do you know who you are? When is the last time you answered that question? Most of us go through life thinking that who we are is what others define us to be.

Knowing ourselves is the most important work we will ever do. The more we learn who we are, both strengths and weaknesses, the more we are able to accept all of us and challenge ourselves to grow. This in turn allows us to show up in relationships the way we want to, not the way we feel pressured to or expected to.

Listen to this episode to learn more about why it is crucial to know yourself, and how to get to know yourself better.

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Most of us don't know how to feel. We find all kinds of creative ways to block our emotions, mostly because we weren't taught how to feel, or were shut down when we did express a feeling.

In this episode, guest Sariah Bastian will share her story of going from years of unhealthy marriages and being cut off from herself to becoming an expert in finding safety inside her own body.

Sariah is a betrayal trauma expert, as well as a master yoga instructor. With over 15,000 hours of instruction helping women heal, she has learned many important truths about healing that she will share in this episode. Don't miss it!

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We all deal with problems in different ways, but attachment theory can shed some light on why you do the things you do, and why infidelity has affected you in the way that it has.

In this episode, you'll learn what attachment theory is and the three different types of attachment. You'll also learn how to develop into the kind of attachment that will help you show up in your intimate relationships the way you want to and that will have the most impact.

Most of all, you'll learn how to have compassion for where you are, and an understanding of how you can help yourself feel more secure and safely attached.

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If you listen to podcasts and read self-help books, you have probably heard the terms "abundance mindset" and "scarcity mindset." However, in this episode I will be talking about each of those things and how they pertain to you and your life.

There are four areas where we experience abundance and scarcity (time, money, relationships and health). When we learn how to experience abundance in one area, it often trickles to the others. It is a way of being and thinking.

When you understand what kind of mindset you are coming from and what you can do about it, suddenly possibilities open up to you that you thought were just for other people. You learn to create the life you want rather than "taking what you can get."

Listen to this episode to gauge where your mind is, how to identify if you are in abundance or scarcity, and how to create more abundance into your life.

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To truly move forward from infidelity, internal changes need to be made. When we change on the inside, it becomes impossible to be the same as we were on the outside. It is very possible that our changes become uncomfortable for others to be around, which can make us second guess ourselves and our growth.

In this episode, you'll hear about 3 different clients and how I helped them navigate the changes they experienced in their families, whether they chose to stay married or not.

Understanding how our own changes can be uncomfortable for others helps us grow our own tolerance for their discomfort. We stop trying to make others feel better at our own expense. We understand that it is ok for them to be wrong about us, and let go of the painful assumptions we may be carrying about what others think.

Allowing for changes in relationships is part of moving forward. Listen to learn how to navigate those changes with more grace, compassion for self and others, and resolve to let others see you.

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Most of us don't look forward to pain. We often resist it, run away from it, or go into painful experiences with dread and fear. In this episode, I'll shed some light on how our most painful moments can become the most useful, and even sacred experiences we draw from.

Whether it is emotional or physical pain, we can use the power of our minds to not only help us manage our pain, but to make it a powerful experience for us.

Although pain is a part of the human condition, seeing it through the lens of something useful and resilience-building can make it almost sweet. Listen to understand how you can use your current pain to serve you in your life.

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