Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

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In this episode, Andrea is a guest on the "Love Starts Here" podcast with life coach Melissa Snow.

This episode covers the tough topics of how to trust again and whether or not it is a wise decision to do so, and the importance of building up trust in yourself first before deciding to trust someone else.

We also discuss Andrea's #1 tip for how to decide to stay or leave so you can make that decision without second guessing yourself.

Melissa Snow is a Certified Life Coach who helps women improve their relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves. She is passionate about helping women learn to love and value themselves, so they don't have to rely on men to show them their worth. She hosts the Love Starts Here podcast, is an international speaker and is the author of "Ten Secrets to Having the Love You Want."

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https://lovestartsherecoach.com/ www.lovestartsherepodcast.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovestartshere https://www.instagram.com/melissasnow.lovestartshere/

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In this episode, Andrea is interviewed by Life Coach Mikki Gardner about how to put emotion aside and show up as the kind of parent you want to be after infidelity. This will be useful wherever you are on your journey.

When emotions are running high, it can be very difficult to think clearly, especially when it comes to parenting our children. You want what is best for them, but we also may be in "survival mode," not really seeing the big picture.

This episode will help you navigate the rocky terrain of co-parenting when emotions are high and help you make decisions that you will be proud of.

Listen to the three points Andrea shares that serve as powerful reminders of what is possible for you.

Mikki is the host of the Co-Parenting with Confidence Podcast and has a private one-on-one coaching practice, where she helps moms ditch the conflict and frustration of divorce and become a strong, loving, confident co-parent.

Find more about Mikki Gardner at https://mikkigardner.com/

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A few themes of this podcast are that we always have choices even when we feel we don't, that the hardships we experience can catapult us towards our greatest growth, and that we can create the future we want. In this episode, Andrea gets personal with her recent experience of welcoming a new baby girl into the world and how it has enforced in her mind that things are always working in our favor.

As difficult as infidelity and betrayal can feel, Andrea reminds her listeners that they have a bright, fulfilling future in front of them. Listen to the 3 points Andrea shares that serve as powerful reminders of what is possible for you.

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Does your relationship ever feel so tangled up with your spouse that you don't know what thoughts and feelings are his and which are yours? In this episode, I interview guest therapist and Master coach Aimeé Gianni about what untangling is, how to spot it, and how to untangle.

Most of us were raised to believe that we are responsible for the feelings of others. "Did you hurt their feelings?" is a question we were probably all asked. The problem this creates is that we can end up spending much more time trying to manage others' feelings and forget all about our own.

When healing from infidelity, it is crucial to do the work of untangling. It is an exercise in self-trust that allows for letting go of things that are not yours to take responsibility for, while learning to listen to your own thoughts and feelings at a deeper level.

Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist, and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Relationships & Health and the connection between the two. She helps her clients create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love; full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being. It's her favorite thing to do! You can learn more about her work at AimeeGianni.com and follow her on Instagram @aimeegiannims.

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Have you wondered why your spouse strayed and if your marriage can ever be good again? You don't want to miss this episode.

Show guest Elisa Fucci shares, with transparency and honesty, her experience with infidelity and how her marriage is now better than it ever was before. She shares why she strayed and how she had to go through the difficult work of understanding herself and why she was prone to getting attention outside the marriage.

For those of you who want to stay, but wonder if it's possible to really feel happy in your marriage, this one is for you. Yes, trust can be re-built. Yes, marriages can thrive after infidelity, even if the marriage was never great to begin with. Listen to this episode to learn what it takes to get there.

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Email - [email protected] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/elisa_fucci_/

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What kind of home did you grow up in? Were you allowed to speak your mind, be your own person and choose how you wanted to spend your time? How you related to your family as a child largely affects what kind of adult relationships you have.

In this episode, I'll be talking about a concept called differentiation which is all about our ability to keep hold of our own thoughts and feelings around those we care about without getting sucked into their thoughts and feelings and making them our own.

You'll hear many examples of what high-level and low-level differentiation homes look like, which will help you gain a deeper awareness of your own patterns in relating to others. This will also help you understand your own unique response to infidelity and why certain parts of it are harder or easier for you than for others.

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Clear, open communication can be a hard skill to learn for anyone, but can be especially difficult for someone who has felt betrayed by their spouse. Yet it is a vital skill to learn, regardless of if you choose to stay married or not.

In this episode, we'll go into detail about why it can feel so unsafe to communicate with your partner, and how to help yourself feel safer. We'll also discuss ways to enter the conversation, and when to shut it down.

You'll learn how to be a better advocate for yourself in any relationship, but especially in the one with your partner/spouse/ex-spouse. There is no downside to learning this skill, and this episode will help you grow in your ability to communicate effectively.

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How do we know if our spouse is taking responsibility for their infidelity? How do we know if we are really moving forward or just doing the same things we have always done? How long do we wait for something to happen before we make something happen ourselves?

These are questions I hear a lot, and ones that are important to answer. Part of re-building trust after infidelity is knowing that our partner is not only being transparent with the facts, but also holding themselves accountable for the choices they made.

Another big piece in moving forward is understanding where we are taking too much responsibility upon ourselves for the actions of others, and where we are not holding ourselves accountable for our own growth.

In this episode, you'll learn the difference between taking responsibility and passing it off to someone else, and specific markers to look for in evaluating the progress of your partner. You'll also be able to see in yourself where you are passing off responsibility to someone else, waiting for them to change so you can feel better.

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What if making mistakes is not a problem? What if the real problem is what we make those mistakes mean, or what others make them mean that we then internalize?

In this episode, I'll uncover a few of the reasons we are so afraid to make mistakes, and how we can build our own tolerance and resilience to the things we judge ourselves for. When we understand the difference between using mistakes as weapons to punish ourselves with and as tools to help us grow, we can open up to taking risks, speaking up, and letting others judge us without it completely derailing us.

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