Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

In this episode, I interview special guest Ashlee Boyson.

Ashlee Boyson is the author of the blog and book series titled "The Moments We Stand," in which she shares her family's journey of healing after the infidelity and murder of her husband Emmett in 2011, just months after giving birth to their fifth baby.

Ashlee has been given the unique experience of sharing Emmett's story on Dateline, Dr. Phil, American Monster, Investigation Discovery, True Crime Daily, and several other murder mystery investigation documentaries.

After feeling alone for many years and fighting to find her voice through the pain, Ashlee now proudly stands as an advocate for victims and families impacted by loss, grief, widowhood, murder, and infidelity. In an effort to help others not feel alone, she has grown to love sharing her story to help shine light on a path for others still stuck in the dark … a place she knows all too well.

Ashlee is the founder of A Reason to Stand -— a nonprofit focused on healing and empowering survivors. She is preparing to launch a series of online courses in May 2022. With a degree from Utah State University in family, child, and human development, Ashlee loves teaching moms about baby sleep and has a passion for all things parenting. She loves helping parents navigate their role in their children's own healing journey after trauma and loss.

Ashlee is remarried to Scott Boyson and they have recently added two more kids to their full house, totaling 7 kids ages 17, 17, 15, 13, 11, 3 and 1.

Ashlee believes that each day is a gift and feels grateful for the grace and hope she has found in her story. She speaks out to share truth of the light she knows shines within all of us.

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Do you ever get frustrated that you are not further along than you think you should be? Do you have moments where you feel like you are back at square one?

While this is all normal, in this episode I will teach you about "the messy middle," the space between where you are and where you are going. This space can feel very uncomfortable, frustrating, and like you are taking a step backwards.

Listen to understand the crucial steps to moving from the messy middle to the other side where you are healed, happy and feeling like yourself again.

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Do you have thoughts that you can't seem to keep at bay? You are just going about your day, and something comes to mind that you can't stop thinking about? Then you need to go ask, or go look at phones, emails and messages on a frantic search for answers. Sound familiar?

Although this is very common, it can be a setback to healing and moving forward. In this episode you will learn the difference between helpful things to watch out for and ones that will lead you nowhere. You will also know what to do with runaway thoughts so you can stay in a peaceful place more of the time.

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As common as hearing about mental strength may be, we don't often hear about it in reference to infidelity. We talk a lot about feelings, healing, forgiveness, and moving on. But where does mental strength come in?

Developing mental toughness is everything when it comes to infidelity. When we get hurt, our brains want to keep us safe from future pain by giving us all the warnings of any real or perceived danger. After experiencing infidelity, it can become difficult to get out of thought loops that play over and over and get you nowhere.

By developing mental strength, you identify what your personal pitfalls are, how to get out of them, how to avoid them, and how to truly move forward with your life.

Listen to this episode to do a check-in with yourself as to how mentally tough you are and locate the areas that can use some more reps. Growing this muscle is what will help you most in truly creating an amazing life post infidelity.

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In the aftermath of infidelity, relationships often change. While there are many reasons for this, it can be painful and lonely. We are all wired for connection - we seek and crave it, yet it can seem harder than ever to make solid friendships.

In this episode, I interview guest Jewel Hohman about the importance of friendship and some practical ways of developing new relationships that last.

Jewel Hohman is a friendship expert and a professionally certified coach. She helps people stop overthinking their relationships and feel confident being themselves, so that they can create the deep friendships they have been craving. Jewel is on a mission to end the loneliness epidemic by having people take back their fundamental needs of connection and community.

Links to Jewel's info:

https://www.instagram.com/jewel.hohman/

https://www.jewelhohman.com

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It is human nature to see faults in others, and much more difficult to see it in ourselves.

In this episode, I'll teach you why self-confrontation is an essential ingredient to growth, intimacy and healing. We can ask others to tell us what we want to hear, but it does not promote real growth.

Self-confrontation allows us to see ourselves as we really are rather than what we want to see. Even though it can be painful, it allows us to expand into fuller, more mature versions of ourselves.

Listen to hear real examples of self-confronting. Hint - it is very different than self-punishing and can be kind and loving as you'll hear in the examples in this episode.

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To show up as our best selves in any relationship, we must know how to calm ourselves down when emotions become overwhelming. Many of us have been taught that it is the responsibility of our partner to help calm us when in reality, it is our own.

In this episode, we'll go in deep as to why learning how to self-soothe ultimately is the greatest gift you can give yourself as you navigate infidelity or any other challenge. When we don't give someone else responsibility for how we feel, we get to decide how to feel, know how to take care of ourselves, and how to deal with the discomfort of personal growth.

Listen to understand areas where you can increase your ability to self-soothe and why it matters so much.

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In every relationship there will be issues that one of you will care more about than the other. This is normal. Where we get ourselves in trouble is when we get into marital gridlock and stay in it.

In this episode, I will cover various ways high desire/ low desire shows up in marriage and other relationships and why we respond the way we do to our loved ones. When we understand our reactions better, we are better able to decide how we want to show up and stand up for the things that matter to us, even if we are misunderstood.

Showing up in the way shown in this episode will help move things forward- either together or apart. Be sure to listen to see areas you are stalling out in and how you can keep yourself moving and invite those around you to do the same.

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Do you have moments (or days, or weeks) where you feel small, invisible and not at all like "yourself?" As flawed humans, it can be very easy to lose ourselves when faced with conflict yet learning the art of holding onto ourselves is what will help us move forward the most.

In this episode, you'll learn what it means to hold on to yourself and why this is a game-changer for healing relationships. Instead of deferring to your spouse to let you know who you are and if you are okay, you'll learn how to validate and strengthen yourself.

Whether you are single or married, this is a vital skill to learn (and one that takes a lifetime of practice). Taking steps toward holding on to yourself will give you peace, clarity and forward motion now, whether he is coming with you or not.

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Every relationship has moments in time that make all the difference in which way the relationship goes. We either show up for ourselves or we don't. We show up for our spouse or we don't, and the consequences can be monumental.

In this episode, you'll learn about "Sliding Door Moments" and how these small snippets in time often determine the direction of our lives. Once we can identify what those moments are (the ones where we self-betray and the ones where either we don't show up the way we want to or our spouse does not show up for us), we can see what we have made those moments mean. Even more importantly, we can clearly see how those moments have shaped where our current relationships stand.

Only then can we course-correct, communicate more clearly and create the lives we want. Listen to this week's episode to go deep into what your sliding door moments are and how you can heal them.

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