Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

In this episode, I'll uncover why it feels safer to avoid wanting, and teach you what avoiding this question is costing you.

You'll come away with some strategies to use to tap into your own desires and wants, along with a strong reason "why" for pursuing the answer to that question.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Although many of my clients choose to stay with their spouses after infidelity, many decide to leave their marriages. Over time, some of them decide they want to start dating again. There is much fear, trepidation, and often self-doubt that can surface.

In this episode, I am interviewed by fellow coach and dating after divorce expert, Sade Curry. I share my personal story of dating my current husband and some of the challenges I dealt with.

To be sure, dating can be an opportunity to see what areas need looking at for growth, and to understand yourself more fully.

Even if you have chosen to stay married, I share how I had to navigate trust issues even though I was dating someone who did not break my trust. Wherever you are in your infidelity journey, listen to understand some of the issues that I dealt with and how I overcame them. You may find we have a lot in common!

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When life as we know it is turned upside down, it becomes very easy to believe we are alone, powerless, and a victim to what has been handed us. While we have been the victim of the deception of another, we tend to forget that in all things, no matter what, we still have choices.

In this episode I will share through powerful analogies how we can use our own strength and wisdom to harness the power of the brain. When we learn how to manage our own brain, we take control back in our lives and intentionally create the life we want.

Knowing what our choices are and that we can powerfully own the choices we make is key to healing and moving forward from infidelity. Ultimately our choices are what set us free. Listen to understand how this is true, and what choices you can make for yourself today.

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Is it love or attachment? Many of my clients want to stay in their relationships because they can't imagine life without the other. Or their spouse says they want to stay married but my clients don't feel safe or loved by their spouse. This can lead to a lot of confusion for everyone involved.

If you wonder if you are truly in love with your spouse or just the idea of him, this episode is for you. Or if you wonder if your spouse is attached to the idea of you or of being married, but may not necessarily love you, don't miss this episode.

You'll hear real examples of partnerships where both elements are present, and gain some awareness on where your relationship stands, as well as how to proceed.

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As parents, we naturally want to protect our children from hurt and pain. We want them to be happy and thriving, right? So when we are trying to make decisions like if we should stay married or not, or feel the pain of sending them to another parent's home, or deciding how much information to share with them, it can feel very uncomfortable.

In this episode, I will shed some light on new ways to think about your children. You'll hear client experiences, my own experience, and some perspectives that you may not have considered before.

What if the goal is not actually for our kids to be happy, but something much more meaningful? What if allowing them their experiences, even the really hard ones, will help equip them for a fulfilling life where they know how to bounce back?

Listen to this week's episode to challenge your own beliefs about what your kids "should" or "shouldn't" experience. You just may feel some relief.

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Do you know how to question your own brain? Do you challenge your own thoughts? Some of us are pros at challenging others' beliefs but struggle to challenge our own.

Learning to ask your own brain good questions is a skill that will serve you for the rest of your life. Rather than taking your thoughts at face value, a good question encourages digging deeper. This is where the truth comes out about what we are making things mean and how we are holding ourselves back.

We can only change the narrative in our brain when we know what is there in the first place. Asking good questions will help you get to know yourself on a deep level, and give such great awareness that you will be able to change your thoughts to create what you want on purpose.

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Grief. It's an emotion we all experience as part of life. If we form attachments to anything, we risk feeling grief if we lose the thing we are attached to.

Regardless if you choose to stay married or not following infidelity, grief is something that has to be processed to be able to move forward with life.

In this episode, you'll learn various stages you may be in with grief, what to look out for, and how to move forward. You'll learn how grief can pretend to be other emotions, and why we often avoid stepping fully into grief.

You'll also learn about PTSD surrounding infidelity and how to know if you may need additional help to heal.

Grief is as common as breathing, yet we can be so afraid of it. Learn to drop the fear, step fully into grief, and come out the other side ready for all the good that is in store for you.

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Are you good at showing compassion to others? How do you feel when someone else is suffering? For many of us, compassion for others comes naturally. But when it comes to self-compassion, it can be much harder. Why is this?

In this episode you'll gain an understanding about why self-compassion can feel scary and threatening. When we really understand something, it becomes easier to see our own behaviors and learn how to navigate our own painful experiences and emotions.

Self-compassion can be difficult to develop, but is key to creating space within yourself to heal. Just as we would allow others their own feelings and struggles without judgement, when we can do the same for ourselves, true healing begins. We stop judging, expecting perfection, and just allow ourselves to be in the moment we are in.

Don't miss this episode as you'll learn three powerful questions to ask yourself when you are stuck in self-judgement. These questions can open you up to compassion, and ultimately to deeper healing.

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Most of us have been taught that we should decide what we want and need out of relationships, communicate those things to our partners, and expect them to come through for us. Unfortunately, this sets us up for a whole lot of disappointment.

In this episode, I'll be going over the difference between wants and needs, and how to get those met. Instead of waiting for someone to take care of us, you'll learn how to advocate for what you want without handing that responsibility over to someone else (and often feeling let down).

You'll also learn how to tell the difference between wants that will encourage personal growth, and those that are born of insecurity and scarcity.

Knowing what you want and taking full responsibility encourages individual development, while letting those around you see who you really are.

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Something I often hear from clients is that they just want closure. They want to hear the apology. Know why it happened. Be free from all of it so they can move forward. Sounds good, right?

We all want certainty, and we believe it would feel good to wrap up this messy, difficult time in our lives with a bow and put it behind us forever, whether we stay married or not.

The problem with this is we often give the responsibility of this to someone else, thinking that if they just acknowledge our feelings, or say they are sorry, then we would get to feel better.

But what if that apology never comes? What if what they say doesn't actually make us feel better?

Listen to this episode to learn how to give yourself closure. It is much more empowering to give yourself closure, to decide for yourself what happened, and determine what you want to take with you and leave behind.

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