Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

Some questions that come up a lot with clients is, "What about sex after finding out? Is it bad to be intimate? What if I don't want to? What if I do?" To answer these questions, I interviewed sex coach Amanda Louder.

Amanda Louder is a Certified Life Coach who helps women from conservative Christian backgrounds love their sex life. She helps women embrace their sexuality to help them strengthen their relationship with themselves, their spouse, and God.

In addition to being a coach, Amanda is also a wife to Kevin, and mom and step-mom to 5 kids, ranging in ages from 14-22. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, fishing, and camping.

To hear more from Amanda, you can find her on Instagram @AmandaLouderCoaching, on her podcast "Sex for Saints" where she talks about all things sex and marriage, or on her website AmandaLouder.com.

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A question I get asked regularly is about letting go - how to let go of the pain and hurt of infidelity.

In this episode, I will cover things we hold on to, why we hold onto them, and how to let them go. You'll learn how your brain is trying to protect you from future harm and what to do to quiet it down.

Infidelity can be trauma-inducing, and the more you understand the ways this shows up for you, the easier it will be to heal.

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Shame. An emotion we all feel but no one wants to talk about. It's heavy, all-consuming, and keeps us isolated and stuck.

This episode is all about letting go of shame. First, you'll learn about the origins of shame and how it often pretends to be useful. You'll learn how shame sabotages our efforts to heal and doesn't allow us to see things as they really are.

Want to know what the cure is to shame? Give this episode a listen and you'll have real steps to take to manage the shame of your spouses' infidelity. It will set you free!

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In the aftermath of infidelity, there can be a period where you wait and watch.

Sometimes there is waiting to see how much initiative our partners take, and sometimes we are just waiting to feel calmer before we make big decisions.

Either way, there are things you can do to help settle your mind during this space.

In this episode, you'll learn four things you can do during this time to help keep your mind focused on why you are waiting and what you are waiting for.

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Do you ever wonder if you can ever really truly move forward from the darkness you are feeling?

A question I get a lot is, "Can I really do this?" and "Will I ever feel normal again?"

Yes, my friend. I promise.

In this episode, you'll hear the stories of four past clients of mine who have moved forward and are thriving. Some stayed in the marriage, some did not. But all are happy and doing well.

There is hope, and they all did some things that ensured that they were moving forward from the strongest place. Listen to this week's episode to learn what those things are.

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One thing I hear all the time from my clients is that they struggle with comparing themselves to their spouse's affair partner. It can get to the point where they can't be in public with their spouse because they worry so much about what the spouse may be thinking about other women they see. It can be crippling.

In this episode, you'll learn why we compare, and how you can help yourself navigate it. Even though comparing is a very natural thing to do, you'll come away with tips to help yourself when you find your mind wandering.

Comparing is normal. We all do it. But it does not have to be destructive or take over your mind. Don't miss this episode to learn how to reign in those wandering thoughts that lead nowhere helpful.

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Have you ever looked at a couple and thought, "They look so happy and in love," only to find out that they had major problems and were going through divorce?

It is likely that couple was engaged in a "polite" marriage. They may check all the boxes and genuinely look very happy together. They may show each other public affection and seem fond of each other. But there are likely issues underneath.

In this episode I go through two different kinds of "polite" marriages and share the differences between the two, and what each one can lead to.

Then I teach the opposite of the polite marriage and what richness and happiness can ensue when courageous people move beyond what feels comfortable and safe.

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Do you wonder if you are settling in your relationship? Do you feel shame and guilt when you think about it?

In this episode, I clear up what it means to settle and help you drop any negative feelings around the idea.

In real examples, you'll be able to recognize if you have some things to shake up or if your job is to just keep going exactly as you are and keep trusting the process.

Rather than looking for outward signs of settling, you'll learn what it feels like inside of you, and how to fix any inward signs of settling.

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Do you ever cover up how you feel and what you are thinking? This is called mind masking, and we all do it. In this episode, we'll dive in to why we all lie, either my commission or omission. But some lies can be more blatant, deliberate and harmful than others.

As deceit is a part of infidelity, understanding it is important. You'll also learn areas you may not be being completely honest in.

Lastly, you'll learn how to spot lying and what to do about it.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

For many of us it is easy to give, but harder to receive. Why is this?

In this week's episode you'll get an inside look into your brain and why you resist love and other good things. Hint: It is because of your thoughts about you, thoughts about others, or beliefs of how the world works.

Want to know how to become more open to love? And how it is hurting you not to be open to it? Make sure to give this episode a listen.

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