Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

For many people, D-day, or discovery day (the day they found out about their spouse's infidelity) is a heavy, traumatic day. When they have the anniversary of that day coming up, it can fill them with dread.

In this episode, I'll be sharing ways to think about discovery day that can bring relief, and even hope.

It does not have to be an awful day. It can be a day with some emotion as you remember what happened, but it can be many other things as well.

Listen to this week's episode to learn how to think about this (and other) potentially hard days in ways that help you move forward.

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Resentment. This is an emotion I see in almost all of my clients, whether they be the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying. While it is a common emotion that many of us struggle with, it can be deadly if left unchecked.

In this episode, I'll cover where resentment comes from and why it can be so tempting to hold on to it. You will hear real life examples of clients I work with who are grappling with this and seeing how it is keeping them from moving forward.

You will also learn what to do with this powerful emotion. Listen to learn how to cut through resentment and turn it into something much more useful and sustainable.

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Many would agree that infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences to endure. In this episode, rather than taking that statement at its word, I dive into the impact of infidelity and the ways it affects us.

Just like all things in life, there are some things that are out of control, and some that are very much in our control. Even with infidelity, there is much that we can choose. We can choose just how much we allow the choices of another to impact us. This episode will help you see where you are making the experience more painful for yourself and what you can do about it.

To work with me, schedule a 1-1 call to see if my upcoming Know in 90 group is right for you. We begin in November!

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In this episode, I interview Luke Schillings about his personal experience with experiencing and healing from infidelity. He has used his own painful experience to now work with men who are navigating that space. Listen for some amazing wisdom of how to let go, heal, and move on.

Luke is a 40 something father of two who recently escaped the 9-5 to chase his dreams of becoming a relationship and infidelity coach. UK based and Lincolnshire born and bred, he can often be found running in the countryside, volunteering, drinking coffee or engrossed in an Excel spreadsheet. He now takes much of his life experience, combined it with his unique coaching skills to help those who have been through infidelity trust again and move forward with their lives."

Luke's Info:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Facebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachluke
• Instagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke
• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachluke
• After the Affair Podcast on Apple
• After the Affair Podcast on Podbean

To work with Andrea, schedule a 1-1 call to see if her upcoming Know in 90 group is right for you. We begin in November!

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

To celebrate 100 episodes, tune in to hear snippets from the top 5 episodes thus far. You, my dear listeners, have been a delight to show up for, and I want you to know which episodes have been the most listened to. You may just learn that others are right where you are, and that you are not alone in struggling with the same things.

Thank you for your love, support, shares, and reviews. Here's to the next 100!

To work with me, schedule a 1-1 call to see if my upcoming Know in 90 group is right for you. We begin in November!

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A question I get asked a lot is, "Will it always hurt?" For most people, infidelity is one of life's experiences that can shake up your very foundation. It can be hard to imagine a time when it doesn't hurt every day.

In this episode, I share not only the good news that you won't always hurt, but steps to take to make sure you don't. Your healing does not have to be outsourced to anyone but you -- you can do things right now that will help you feel peace, calm, and start healing your heart.

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When you think of the future, do you feel a sense of foreboding, or hope?

Much of what you anticipate can be traced to past, unresolved experiences with your partner. In this episode, you'll learn what probably happened and didn't happen before the infidelity that is creating problems now.

Once you understand what is happening and what you can do about it, you'll be able to choose how to view the future and be very intentional about what you are creating.

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After infidelity, it can be really easy to feel like your spouse owes you something. He needs to make it up to you, right? It makes sense that one might feel this way, but in this episode you'll learn how this attitude can keep you from the very things you want most - peace, calm, and healing.

Entitlement is also what can set some people up to cheat in the first place and keep them stuck after infidelity. This episode will be useful for both the one who strayed and the one who was betrayed.

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Validation is something we all enjoy as humans. We want to feel connected, heard, and seen.

For many of us though, especially if we were shot down a lot as kids, we grow into validation dependence and have difficulty functioning if someone is not constantly telling us how great or right we are.

In this episode, you'll learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy validation, how to spot it in yourself and your partner, and how to strengthen your own sense of self so you won't be as reliant on others to validate you.

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Some questions that come up a lot with clients is, "What about sex after finding out? Is it bad to be intimate? What if I don't want to? What if I do?" To answer these questions, I interviewed sex coach Amanda Louder.

Amanda Louder is a Certified Life Coach who helps women from conservative Christian backgrounds love their sex life. She helps women embrace their sexuality to help them strengthen their relationship with themselves, their spouse, and God.

In addition to being a coach, Amanda is also a wife to Kevin, and mom and step-mom to 5 kids, ranging in ages from 14-22. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, fishing, and camping.

To hear more from Amanda, you can find her on Instagram @AmandaLouderCoaching, on her podcast "Sex for Saints" where she talks about all things sex and marriage, or on her website AmandaLouder.com.

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The August group is enrolling NOW and begins on August 16th. Want a spot? Come talk to me here.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles