Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

When it comes to healing from infidelity, acceptance is key to moving forward. This does not mean agreeing with it, liking it or not being sad about it. Acceptance means acknowledging that it happened instead of arguing with it.

When I first start working with new clients, they generally switch back and forth between making themselves wrong for the infidelity, or making their spouse wrong. Both stories have the potential to bring up strong emotions, and they often use those emotions against themselves instead of processing them.

In this episode, you'll learn the 3 stages of growth and how acceptance is a key ingredient to moving forward. You'll learn what acceptance is, and what it isn't. You'll understand the freedom that emerges when we let our thoughts be just thoughts, and aren't threatened by our own feelings. As we allow ourselves to just be, we create a safe place to feel, process, and ultimately create the life we really want.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

If you've been listening to the podcast for awhile, you know how much I talk about the growth that can happen following a life-changing (and un-asked for) event. In this episode, I talk with my first podcast guest, Master Coach Krista St-Germain, all about post traumatic growth.

Krista is very familiar with grief, loss and having plans change. In this episode, she'll share her own story of loss and how it propelled her into challenging her beliefs, leaning into future possibility, and ultimately helping others grow after loss.

If you've ever wondered how you can be even stronger after infidelity, this episode is for you. You'll hear us talk about grief, loss, post traumatic growth, and how to manage regret. You'll leave with new hope for what is possible in your life. You don't want to miss it!

To learn more from Krista, you can check her out here:

• Website: www.coachingwithkrista.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

For most of us, being wrong feels like a threat. If we are wrong, what does it mean about us, our judgement, and our ability to make wise choices in the future? In this episode, you'll learn why it's actually good news that you could be wrong.

When we give ourselves permission to be wrong about our assumptions of ourselves and others, it makes space for other thoughts and emotions. We can get curious about new possibilities. We can challenge thoughts we've had about ourselves that feel factual but cause a lot of pain.

In this episode, you'll hear various examples of how allowing yourself to be wrong can be the tool that helps you move forward. From thoughts about yourself, thoughts about others and what you are capable of achieving, you'll learn how to talk to yourself in a way that allows for error and helps you change the narrative.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

It's the beginning of a New Year, and for many of us it means setting goals for 2021. Statistically, even the most well-intentioned goals often fizzle out and we end up feeling like we failed. Today, you'll learn how to make goals that actually stick.

Most of us have been taught to go after goals that scare us, but our brains are naturally inclined to run from things that feel hard. That is why most people quit.

In this episode, you'll learn exactly how to set goals that are both challenging and doable. Goals that keep you progressing, but also feel accomplishable. You'll also understand why it can be very healing to work towards something that helps you get out of "survival mode" and start thriving.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

All of us have days when we may feel anxious anticipation, but sometimes those days can become more frequent after infidelity, divorce, or other life-changing events. This episode will dive into how to prepare for hard days.

Whether it is a custody situation, an anniversary, or being around people who may ask tough questions, it is possible to not let those events de-rail you.

Listen to understand how to best prepare for those days so you can set yourself up for success. You'll know how to handle your emotions, how to be the best version of yourself, and how you can create the outcome in your mind before the day happens.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

On last week's podcast, you learned about the different kinds of trust and how to build trust in yourself. In this episode, you'll learn some of the pitfalls to building trust and what you can do to create a more trusting environment for yourself and others.

You'll learn how we can mis-read disappointment as a betrayal, and why it is important to learn to differentiate between the two. You'll also understand the importance of cultivating an environment of trust in your relationships, whether you are staying married or not.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

One of the most common questions after experiencing infidelity is, "Can I ever trust again?" In this episode, we'll explore different kinds of trust and how to build the most important kind of trust, a trust in yourself.

When faced with infidelity, the foundation of trust can be broken, and it takes time to repair it. In this episode, you'll learn how to make "temporary" fixes, and how to make more lasting, solid repairs that will lead to the most fulfilling relationships.

Learning to trust is a process that requires patience, but ultimately allows the betrayed partner to fully engage in the relationship, and learn to trust themselves, no matter what choices anyone else makes.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

You may have heard that journaling can be a healing process, but there are benefits you may never have thought about.

In addition to being a healing tool to our physical bodies, journaling is proven to be an emotional regulator and healer as well.

In this episode, I will share how impactful journaling has been for me, how to journal, and why I encourage you to make it a part of your daily practice.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Healing from infidelity can seem so overwhelming, undefined and unattainable. In this episode, I'll share 6 things that help in the process of healing.

In a simple online search, you can find many varying opinions about how healing actually happens after infidelity. Can it actually be done?

Yes. Listen to understand why some traditional views on healing (such as the saying, "Time heals all wounds") aren't necessarily true if we don't know what to be actively doing with that time. You'll learn how valuable self-compassion is, and more tools to help you process your emotions as you move forward.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Do you ever wonder if you can just feel "good"? In this episode, you'll learn why we aren't programmed to feel good all the time, and why it's actually a positive thing.

Most of us spend our life feeling just a few main emotions, and wonder why we keep getting the same results. When you learn that life is best when we allow both the positive and the negative, doors open up that were once closed. There is literally nothing you won't do if you know you can handle any emotion.

Listen to understand how some of your emotions may be holding you back, how even negative emotions can serve you, and how to feel more of what you want.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles