We all have those little tasks that we say we’ll do later, but what if there were a simple way to finally get them done? In this episode, we’re breaking down the idea of a “dreadsprint,” a simple way to batch those annoying, lingering tasks and finally get them off your mental list. We’re talking about why these unfinished tasks can take up so much mental energy, how we each approach them very differently, and how you can create a system that actually works for your personality. If you’ve got a list of things you’ve been avoiding, this might be the motivation you need to knock them out. Key Topics Covered <ul><li>The difference between a dreadsprint and a typical to-do list</li><li>Finding the right approach based on your personality and tendencies</li><li>Using batching, timers, and small rewards to make dreaded tasks easier</li><li>Why completing a task fully can help close the loop in your brain</li><li>Making your own health, appointments, and responsibilities a priority</li></ul> LINKS AND RESOURCES:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: <a href='http://betterhelp.com/herself'>http://betterhelp.com/herself</a> Patreon Book Club: <a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'>https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> Listen to episode 337: Do You Actually Want to Change? Listen to This with Karin Nordin: <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000767168604'>https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000767168604</a>  Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'> PATREON</a>: <a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'>https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>AMY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>ABBY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href='https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/'>Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

We all have those little tasks that we say we’ll do later, but what if there were a simple way to finally get them done? In this episode, we’re breaking down the idea of a “dreadsprint,” a simple way to batch those annoying, lingering tasks and finally get them off your mental list. We’re talking about why these unfinished tasks can take up so much mental energy, how we each approach them very differently, and how you can create a system that actually works for your personality. If you’ve got a list of things you’ve been avoiding, this might be the motivation you need to knock them out. Key Topics Covered The difference between a dreadsprint and a typical to-do listFinding the right approach based on your personality and tendenciesUsing batching, timers, and small rewards to make dreaded tasks easierWhy completing a task fully can help close the loop in your brainMaking your own health, appointments, and responsibilities a priority LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Patreon Book Club: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Listen to episode 337: Do You Actually Want to Change? Listen to This with Karin Nordin: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000767168604 Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We all have those little tasks that we say we’ll do later, but what if there were a simple way to finally get them done? In this episode, we’re breaking down the idea of a “dreadsprint,” a simple way to batch those annoying, lingering tasks and finally get them off your mental list. We’re talking about why these unfinished tasks can take up so much mental energy, how we each approach them very differently, and how you can create a system that actually works for your personality. If you’ve got a list of things you’ve been avoiding, this might be the motivation you need to knock them out. Key Topics Covered <ul><li>The difference between a dreadsprint and a typical to-do list</li><li>Finding the right approach based on your personality and tendencies</li><li>Using batching, timers, and small rewards to make dreaded tasks easier</li><li>Why completing a task fully can help close the loop in your brain</li><li>Making your own health, appointments, and responsibilities a priority</li></ul> LINKS AND RESOURCES:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: <a href="http://betterhelp.com/herself" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://betterhelp.com/herself</a> Patreon Book Club: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> Listen to episode 337: Do You Actually Want to Change? Listen to This with Karin Nordin: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000767168604" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000767168604</a>&nbsp; Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer"> PATREON</a>: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">AMY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">ABBY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href="https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

358: This Hack Could Change Your Life

We often think communication is the key to a strong marriage, but what if the real secret is friendship? In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to actually be friends with your spouse, how that can get lost when life gets busy and kids need more from you, and the ways we’ve each seen this play out in our own marriages. We’re also sharing some simple ways to rebuild connection that can help you find your way back to liking each other again.Key Topics Covered:<ul><li>How to show genuine interest in your partner’s hobbies and interests</li><li>The mental load and how sharing responsibilities can create more room for connection</li><li>Why small acts of kindness and quick repairs matter</li><li>Ways to turn toward your partner instead of away during frustrating moments</li><li>Creating more opportunities for fun and shared experiences</li></ul> LINKS AND RESOURCES:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: <a href='http://betterhelp.com/herself'>http://betterhelp.com/herself</a> MOMCOZY: 20% off with code HERSELF <a href='https://momcozy.com/'>https://momcozy.com/</a> Listen to episode 10 with Molly Millwood: <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000466502777'>https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000466502777</a> Grab the books mentioned in the episode:To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood: <a href='https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi'>https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi</a> Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less by Tiffany Dufu: <a href='https://amzlink.to/az0xopPThIfNo'>https://amzlink.to/az0xopPThIfNo</a> Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: <a href='https://amzlink.to/az0P01tackqJA'>https://amzlink.to/az0P01tackqJA</a> Read the blog post from The Gottman Institute: <a href='https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/'>https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/</a>  Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'> PATREON</a>: <a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'>https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>AMY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>ABBY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href='https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/'>Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

We often think communication is the key to a strong marriage, but what if the real secret is friendship? In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to actually be friends with your spouse, how that can get lost when life gets busy and kids need more from you, and the ways we’ve each seen this play out in our own marriages. We’re also sharing some simple ways to rebuild connection that can help you find your way back to liking each other again. Key Topics Covered:How to show genuine interest in your partner’s hobbies and interestsThe mental load and how sharing responsibilities can create more room for connectionWhy small acts of kindness and quick repairs matterWays to turn toward your partner instead of away during frustrating momentsCreating more opportunities for fun and shared experiences LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself MOMCOZY: 20% off with code HERSELF https://momcozy.com/ Listen to episode 10 with Molly Millwood: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000466502777 Grab the books mentioned in the episode: To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood: https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less by Tiffany Dufu: https://amzlink.to/az0xopPThIfNo Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzlink.to/az0P01tackqJA Read the blog post from The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/ Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We often think communication is the key to a strong marriage, but what if the real secret is friendship? In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to actually be friends with your spouse, how that can get lost when life gets busy and kids need more from you, and the ways we’ve each seen this play out in our own marriages. We’re also sharing some simple ways to rebuild connection that can help you find your way back to liking each other again.Key Topics Covered:<ul><li>How to show genuine interest in your partner’s hobbies and interests</li><li>The mental load and how sharing responsibilities can create more room for connection</li><li>Why small acts of kindness and quick repairs matter</li><li>Ways to turn toward your partner instead of away during frustrating moments</li><li>Creating more opportunities for fun and shared experiences</li></ul> LINKS AND RESOURCES:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: <a href="http://betterhelp.com/herself" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://betterhelp.com/herself</a> MOMCOZY: 20% off with code HERSELF <a href="https://momcozy.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://momcozy.com/</a>&nbsp;Listen to episode 10 with Molly Millwood: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000466502777" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000466502777</a>&nbsp;Grab the books mentioned in the episode:To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood: <a href="https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi</a>&nbsp;Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less by Tiffany Dufu: <a href="https://amzlink.to/az0xopPThIfNo" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://amzlink.to/az0xopPThIfNo</a>&nbsp;Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: <a href="https://amzlink.to/az0P01tackqJA" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://amzlink.to/az0P01tackqJA</a>&nbsp;Read the blog post from The Gottman Institute: <a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/</a>&nbsp; Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer"> PATREON</a>: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">AMY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">ABBY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href="https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

356: The Most Underrated Secret to a Strong Marriage

In this episode, we’re diving into something that Abby has struggled with for most of her life: the feeling that she’s never doing enough. Whether it’s parenting, work, or her home, she shares how she can hit one goal and immediately move the bar higher, which makes it hard to actually feel proud of what she’s accomplished or be present in the moment. We talk about where this drive comes from, how it can turn into overfunctioning and burnout, and what it looks like to start letting go of the constant pressure to do more. She's still figuring this out, but Abby's learning that being “enough” isn’t something she can achieve. It’s something she has to decide.Key Topics Covered:<ul><li>The connection between achievement, praise, and belonging</li><li>How comparison can fuel negative self-talk</li><li>Why rest and play can feel uncomfortable for high achievers</li><li>Prompts to help redefine your priorities and recognize when you’re already doing enough</li><li>Letting go of perfection without losing the parts of yourself that make you a high achiever</li></ul> LINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  <a href='https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_campaign=agwp&utm_medium=sponsor&utm_source=herself&utm_content=&utm_term=&rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+The+Herself+COMMUNITY'>drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF</a>  FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest <a href='https://www.eatforage.com/'>location</a> Grab a copy of the book The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level: <a href='https://amzlink.to/az0Vz8f52wrL6'>https://amzlink.to/az0Vz8f52wrL6</a>  Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'> PATREON</a>: <a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'>https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>AMY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>ABBY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href='https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/'>Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

In this episode, we’re diving into something that Abby has struggled with for most of her life: the feeling that she’s never doing enough. Whether it’s parenting, work, or her home, she shares how she can hit one goal and immediately move the bar higher, which makes it hard to actually feel proud of what she’s accomplished or be present in the moment. We talk about where this drive comes from, how it can turn into overfunctioning and burnout, and what it looks like to start letting go of the constant pressure to do more. She's still figuring this out, but Abby's learning that being “enough” isn’t something she can achieve. It’s something she has to decide. Key Topics Covered:The connection between achievement, praise, and belongingHow comparison can fuel negative self-talkWhy rest and play can feel uncomfortable for high achieversPrompts to help redefine your priorities and recognize when you’re already doing enoughLetting go of perfection without losing the parts of yourself that make you a high achiever LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location Grab a copy of the book The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level: https://amzlink.to/az0Vz8f52wrL6 Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

In this episode, we’re diving into something that Abby has struggled with for most of her life: the feeling that she’s never doing enough. Whether it’s parenting, work, or her home, she shares how she can hit one goal and immediately move the bar higher, which makes it hard to actually feel proud of what she’s accomplished or be present in the moment. We talk about where this drive comes from, how it can turn into overfunctioning and burnout, and what it looks like to start letting go of the constant pressure to do more. She's still figuring this out, but Abby's learning that being “enough” isn’t something she can achieve. It’s something she has to decide.Key Topics Covered:<ul><li>The connection between achievement, praise, and belonging</li><li>How comparison can fuel negative self-talk</li><li>Why rest and play can feel uncomfortable for high achievers</li><li>Prompts to help redefine your priorities and recognize when you’re already doing enough</li><li>Letting go of perfection without losing the parts of yourself that make you a high achiever</li></ul> LINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:&nbsp; <a href="https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_campaign=agwp&amp;utm_medium=sponsor&amp;utm_source=herself&amp;utm_content=&amp;utm_term=&amp;rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+The+Herself+COMMUNITY" rel="noopener noreferrer">drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF</a>&nbsp; FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest <a href="https://www.eatforage.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">location</a> Grab a copy of the book The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level:&nbsp;<a href="https://amzlink.to/az0Vz8f52wrL6" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://amzlink.to/az0Vz8f52wrL6</a>&nbsp; Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer"> PATREON</a>: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">AMY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">ABBY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href="https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

357: Abby's Issues Explored: Part 1

Today, we’re talking all things motherhood, mindset, and youth sports with Chandler Ashcraft, the creator behind @chanwiththeboys and founder of Moms Away. Chandler brings her background in education and her experience raising four boys to the conversation, sharing why perspective can help us take the pressure off, how to set developmentally appropriate expectations for our kids, and why confidence often comes from being willing to do hard things. We also get into the reality of youth sports, from the pressure to do more to the mental load that comes with keeping everyone’s schedules moving, and how to make choices that actually fit your family. Key Topics Covered <ul><li>How exposure to hard moments builds confidence and resilience</li><li>Teaching kids to take ownership of their attitude, effort, and response</li><li>Why confidence, especially for women, is built through failure and trying again</li><li>How to evaluate the tradeoffs that come with youth sports</li><li>Keeping the long game in mind when making decisions for your family</li></ul> CONNECT WITH CHANDLER:Instagram: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys'>https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys</a>TikTok: <a href='https://www.tiktok.com/@chanwiththeboys'>https://www.tiktok.com/@chanwiththeboys</a>Learn more about Moms Away:Website: <a href='https://www.momsaway.co/'>https://www.momsaway.co/</a>Instagram: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/moms.away'>https://www.instagram.com/moms.away</a>  LINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  <a href='https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_campaign=agwp&utm_medium=sponsor&utm_source=herself&utm_content=&utm_term=&rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+The+Herself+COMMUNITY'>drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF</a>  SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit <a href='https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/welcome-herself25'>https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself</a> for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'> PATREON</a>: <a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'>https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>AMY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>ABBY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href='https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/'>Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

Today, we’re talking all things motherhood, mindset, and youth sports with Chandler Ashcraft, the creator behind @chanwiththeboys and founder of Moms Away. Chandler brings her background in education and her experience raising four boys to the conversation, sharing why perspective can help us take the pressure off, how to set developmentally appropriate expectations for our kids, and why confidence often comes from being willing to do hard things. We also get into the reality of youth sports, from the pressure to do more to the mental load that comes with keeping everyone’s schedules moving, and how to make choices that actually fit your family. Key Topics Covered How exposure to hard moments builds confidence and resilienceTeaching kids to take ownership of their attitude, effort, and responseWhy confidence, especially for women, is built through failure and trying againHow to evaluate the tradeoffs that come with youth sportsKeeping the long game in mind when making decisions for your family CONNECT WITH CHANDLER: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chanwiththeboys Learn more about Moms Away: Website: https://www.momsaway.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moms.away LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today, we’re talking all things motherhood, mindset, and youth sports with Chandler Ashcraft, the creator behind @chanwiththeboys and founder of Moms Away. Chandler brings her background in education and her experience raising four boys to the conversation, sharing why perspective can help us take the pressure off, how to set developmentally appropriate expectations for our kids, and why confidence often comes from being willing to do hard things. We also get into the reality of youth sports, from the pressure to do more to the mental load that comes with keeping everyone’s schedules moving, and how to make choices that actually fit your family. Key Topics Covered <ul><li>How exposure to hard moments builds confidence and resilience</li><li>Teaching kids to take ownership of their attitude, effort, and response</li><li>Why confidence, especially for women, is built through failure and trying again</li><li>How to evaluate the tradeoffs that come with youth sports</li><li>Keeping the long game in mind when making decisions for your family</li></ul> CONNECT WITH CHANDLER:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys</a>TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@chanwiththeboys" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.tiktok.com/@chanwiththeboys</a>Learn more about Moms Away:Website: <a href="https://www.momsaway.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.momsaway.co/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/moms.away" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/moms.away</a>&nbsp; LINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:&nbsp; <a href="https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_campaign=agwp&amp;utm_medium=sponsor&amp;utm_source=herself&amp;utm_content=&amp;utm_term=&amp;rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+The+Herself+COMMUNITY" rel="noopener noreferrer">drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF</a>&nbsp; SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit <a href="https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/welcome-herself25" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself</a> for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer"> PATREON</a>: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">AMY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">ABBY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href="https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

355: Hot Takes on Youth Sports with Chandler Ashcraft

We’re so excited to welcome Dr. Marisa Franco back to the podcast for the third time to talk about something so many of us struggle with: feeling worthy. We’re diving into why simply telling ourselves to “love ourselves” doesn’t always work, how our past experiences continue to shape the way we see ourselves today, and what it can look like to meet ourselves with more understanding instead of trying to force ourselves to feel differently. We also talk about how our own self-worth impacts the way we show up for our kids and how we can help the next generation build a healthier relationship with themselves. Key Topics Covered<ul><li>Why insecurity can actually be an adaptive response</li><li>How attachment theory can become another form of perfectionism</li><li>Why some people struggle to receive compliments</li><li>The connection between self-worth, memories, and our emotional responses</li><li>How to recognize, regulate, and respond to difficult emotions</li></ul> CONNECT WITH DR. MARISA FRANCO: Follow on Instagram: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco'>https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco</a>  Check out her website: <a href='https://drmarisagfranco.com/'>https://drmarisagfranco.com/</a>  Pre-order Marisa’s new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment here: <a href='https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxb'>https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxb</a> Listen to her past episodes on HERself:  59. The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230'>https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230</a>  314. Attachment Styles in Adult Friendships <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904'>https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904</a>  LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  <a href='https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_campaign=agwp&utm_medium=sponsor&utm_source=herself&utm_content=&utm_term=&rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+The+Herself+COMMUNITY'>drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF</a>  SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit <a href='https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/welcome-herself25'>https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself</a> for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'> PATREON</a>: <a href='https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast'>https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast'>http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>AMY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/ameskiefer'>http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>ABBY</a>: <a href='http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen'>http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href='https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/'>Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

We’re so excited to welcome Dr. Marisa Franco back to the podcast for the third time to talk about something so many of us struggle with: feeling worthy. We’re diving into why simply telling ourselves to “love ourselves” doesn’t always work, how our past experiences continue to shape the way we see ourselves today, and what it can look like to meet ourselves with more understanding instead of trying to force ourselves to feel differently. We also talk about how our own self-worth impacts the way we show up for our kids and how we can help the next generation build a healthier relationship with themselves. Key Topics CoveredWhy insecurity can actually be an adaptive responseHow attachment theory can become another form of perfectionismWhy some people struggle to receive complimentsThe connection between self-worth, memories, and our emotional responsesHow to recognize, regulate, and respond to difficult emotions CONNECT WITH DR. MARISA FRANCO: Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Check out her website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/ Pre-order Marisa’s new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment here: https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxb Listen to her past episodes on HERself: 59. The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230 314. Attachment Styles in Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904 LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We’re so excited to welcome Dr. Marisa Franco back to the podcast for the third time to talk about something so many of us struggle with: feeling worthy. We’re diving into why simply telling ourselves to “love ourselves” doesn’t always work, how our past experiences continue to shape the way we see ourselves today, and what it can look like to meet ourselves with more understanding instead of trying to force ourselves to feel differently. We also talk about how our own self-worth impacts the way we show up for our kids and how we can help the next generation build a healthier relationship with themselves. Key Topics Covered<ul><li>Why insecurity can actually be an adaptive response</li><li>How attachment theory can become another form of perfectionism</li><li>Why some people struggle to receive compliments</li><li>The connection between self-worth, memories, and our emotional responses</li><li>How to recognize, regulate, and respond to difficult emotions</li></ul> CONNECT WITH DR. MARISA FRANCO: Follow on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco</a>&nbsp; Check out her website: <a href="https://drmarisagfranco.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://drmarisagfranco.com/</a>&nbsp; Pre-order Marisa’s new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment here: <a href="https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxb" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxb</a> Listen to her past episodes on HERself:&nbsp; 59. The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230</a>&nbsp; 314. Attachment Styles in Adult Friendships <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904</a>&nbsp; LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:&nbsp; <a href="https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_campaign=agwp&amp;utm_medium=sponsor&amp;utm_source=herself&amp;utm_content=&amp;utm_term=&amp;rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+The+Herself+COMMUNITY" rel="noopener noreferrer">drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF</a>&nbsp; SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit <a href="https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/welcome-herself25" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself</a> for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF<a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer"> PATREON</a>: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast</a> HERSELF <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">INSTAGRAM</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">AMY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/ameskiefer" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/ameskiefer</a> MEET <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">ABBY</a>: <a href="http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen" rel="noopener noreferrer">http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a> This episode was brought to you by the <a href="https://www.instagram.com/pivotballchange/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Pivot Ball Change</a> Network.

352: Feeling Unworthy? This Is For You With Dr. Marisa Franco

Welcome to the HERself Podcast! Amy and Abby here and we are SO glad you have joined.  In episode 1, we dive into a series of questions. Our responses will help you get to know us on a deeper level and also articulate just how open and honest these episodes will be. What is your greatest body insecurity? What debt do you have? What makes you feel sexy? Jot down your answers as we open up the real conversations that will help you get one step ahead of where you are now.  Let’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/herselfpodcast/'>instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a>MEET AMY: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/ameskiefer/?hl=en'>instagram.com/ameskiefer</a>MEET ABBY: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/abbyrosegreen/'>instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a>HERSELF SHOWNOTES: <a href='http://www.herselfpodcast.com/'>www.herselfpodcast.com</a>

Welcome to the HERself Podcast! Amy and Abby here and we are SO glad you have joined. In episode 1, we dive into a series of questions. Our responses will help you get to know us on a deeper level and also articulate just how open and honest these episodes will be. What is your greatest body insecurity? What debt do you have? What makes you feel sexy? Jot down your answers as we open up the real conversations that will help you get one step ahead of where you are now. Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: instagram.com/abbyrosegreen HERSELF SHOWNOTES: www.herselfpodcast.com

Welcome to the HERself Podcast! Amy and Abby here and we are SO glad you have joined.&nbsp; In episode 1, we dive into a series of questions. Our responses will help you get to know us on a deeper level and also articulate just how open and honest these episodes will be. What is your greatest body insecurity? What debt do you have? What makes you feel sexy? Jot down your answers as we open up the real conversations that will help you get one step ahead of where you are now.&nbsp; Let’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/herselfpodcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer">instagram.com/herselfpodcast</a>MEET AMY: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ameskiefer/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer">instagram.com/ameskiefer</a>MEET ABBY: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/abbyrosegreen/" rel="noopener noreferrer">instagram.com/abbyrosegreen</a>HERSELF SHOWNOTES: <a href="http://www.herselfpodcast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">www.herselfpodcast.com</a>

1. The Introduction: Welcome to HERself

As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother?&nbsp; Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.

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As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother?  Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.

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