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In this conversation, Nina and Dr. Menije discuss perfectionism and its impact on women, particularly in the context of motherhood. They explore different types of perfectionism and how it can manifest in various areas of life. Dr. Menije emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and embracing imperfection as antidotes to perfectionism. They also discuss how parents can help their children navigate perfectionism by teaching them to embrace mistakes and regulate their emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the need to challenge societal expectations and redefine the concept of perfection.

00:00: Introduction and Personal Experiences with Perfectionism

03:11: Understanding the Different Types of Perfectionism

07:20: Perfectionism in Motherhood: Fear of Not Being Good Enough

10:36: The Role of Comparison and Social Media in Perfectionism

13:21: Overcoming Perfectionism: Self-Compassion and Embracing Imperfection

19:28: Helping Children Navigate Perfectionism: Embracing Mistakes and Regulating Emotions

25:25: Addressing Our Own Perfectionism as Parents

More About Dr. Menije

Dr. Menije is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Los Angeles, CA and a leading expert on overcoming perfectionism and building an authentic life. She knows her clients can bust out of their comfort zones, take ownership of their dreams, and create a new sense of self. As the founder of Perfectionism University, an online platform for self-help courses on breaking up with perfectionism, her goal is to create a community where we can all unlearn Perfectionism and start our journey of embracing imperfections and owning our enoughness.

Disney Jr.’s Ariel is an animated musical series for preschoolers inspired by the beloved story of “The Little Mermaid.” It follows 8-year-old mermaid princess Ariel as she and her friends embark on fun-filled, action-packed underwater adventures throughout their Caribbean-inspired fairytale kingdom of Atlantica and beyond. The series features fan-favorite characters, including King Triton, Ursula, Sebastian, and Flounder, as well as exciting new additions like Ariel’s two best friends, mer-children Lucia and Fernie, and lots of other adorable sea creatures. The series debuts Thursday, June 27 on Disney Jr. and next day, Friday, June 28 on Disney+.

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Do you struggle with self confidence? Having confidence is something I struggle with and have been working on across all areas of my life. In this episode we dive into the topic of confidence and how you can work on building yours!

Discussion:

1. Why are some flamingos lighter pink/more washed out than others?

2. Signs you are lacking self confidence.

3. Simple things to implement daily to boost your self confidence.

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Disney Jr.’s Ariel is an animated musical series for preschoolers inspired by the beloved story of “The Little Mermaid.” It follows 8-year-old mermaid princess Ariel as she and her friends embark on fun-filled, action-packed underwater adventures throughout their Caribbean-inspired fairytale kingdom of Atlantica and beyond. The series features fan-favorite characters, including King Triton, Ursula, Sebastian, and Flounder, as well as exciting new additions like Ariel’s two best friends, mer-children Lucia and Fernie, and lots of other adorable sea creatures. The series debuts Thursday, June 27 on Disney Jr. and next day, Friday, June 28 on Disney+.

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In this conversation, Nina and Dr. Kristin Neff discuss the importance of self-compassion and its power to improve our well-being. Dr. Neff, a researcher and expert in self-compassion, shares insights from her own personal experiences and research. They explore the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem, the reasons why people struggle with self-compassion, and practical steps to cultivate self-compassion. They also discuss the role of self-compassion in parenting and how to help children develop self-compassion. Dr. Neff provides resources, including her website and books, to support individuals in practicing self-compassion.

Chapters

00:00: Introduction and Personal Experiences

02:56: The Power of Self-Compassion

09:30: Understanding and Overcoming Obstacles to Self-Compassion

18:21: Practical Steps to Cultivate Self-Compassion

21:34: Helping Children Develop Self-Compassion

26:24: Navigating Shame and Guilt

28:23: Self-Compassion for Coping with Burnout

Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of

Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting

the first empirical studies on self-compassion more than twenty years ago. She has

been recognized as one of the most influential researchers in psychology worldwide.

Kristin runs the Self-Compassion Community, an online learning platform where people

can learn the skill of self-compassion with the help of others. She is author of the

bestselling books Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion. Along with her

colleague Chris Germer, she developed the empirically-supported Mindful Self-

Compassion program and co-founded the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. They

co-wrote the best-selling The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and have a new book

called Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout coming out in Fall 2024. For more info go

to self-compassion.org.

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Do you ever feel upset over plans changing or things not going the way you had planned it out? In this episode we dive into ambiguous grief (i.e. when things don't go according to plan, grieving unmet expectations, accepting life's curveballs) (ex: infertility, divorce, financial distress, marital problems, parental disputes). Whether big or small understanding and being able to work through ambiguous grief can be so helpful!

1. Most of us have a vision or an expectation of how our life should go and when it doesn't we feel out of control and sometimes devastated. (For example: I dreamed of a certain dynamic for my children's relationship & the relationship I have with my mom/in laws) How can we acknowledge and grieve these unmet expectations?

2. I feel like I processed through the grief of my unmet expectations but am hit with another wave of grief for the same thing months or years later. Am I not moved on? Is something wrong with me?

3. What are some tips to let go of life-plan related and or anticipatory anxiety to better prepare for life's curveballs?

Bio: Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer Chaiken are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, co-owners of the private therapy practice called The Therapy Group, and co-hosts of the ShrinkChicks Podcast! They believe in being down to earth, authentic, and transparent, which are values they bring both to their practice as well as their podcast! Their mission is to make therapy more relatable and accessible, working to break down that clinical wall with humor and warmth!

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Disney Jr.’s Ariel is an animated musical series for preschoolers inspired by the beloved story of “The Little Mermaid.” It follows 8-year-old mermaid princess Ariel as she and her friends embark on fun-filled, action-packed underwater adventures throughout their Caribbean-inspired fairytale kingdom of Atlantica and beyond. The series features fan-favorite characters, including King Triton, Ursula, Sebastian, and Flounder, as well as exciting new additions like Ariel’s two best friends, mer-children Lucia and Fernie, and lots of other adorable sea creatures. The series debuts Thursday, June 27 on Disney Jr. and next day, Friday, June 28 on Disney+. 

Arguing in relationships happens but we don't often talk about how to reconnect and repair the relationship after an argument happens. Too often we move on without any true resolution. This we are talking to Jocelyn Freeman of Meet the Freemans and she walks us through some strategies and ways we can repair and take accountability without resentment.

1. We just had a big argument and are at a stalemate, how do we repair?

2. Our argument got heated, we took a break to cool down, but when we talk about it and try to repair we end up getting into an even bigger argument. How can we stop this cycle?

3. POV: I always feel like I am initiating the repair and taking accountability, but my partner isn't. I am feeling disconnected and frustrated which is leaving me to feel resentment. What can I do so I am not the only one saying sorry?

4. How can I get past the self-righteous mentality in arguments?

Aaron and Jocelyn Freeman ("The Freemans") are authors of The Argument Hangover, creators of The Couples Workshop (which has sold out over 50 times), and coaches to thousands of couples worldwide. They are best known for their relatable and actionable tools and skills for couples to communicate better, fight smarter, and handle any challenge as a team. The best resources to start with are their 30-Day Couples Challenges and their instant-access guides. 

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Body image and and neutrality is something I didn't really learn about until I was an adult, after struggling for years. Especially after having my own kids I began to wonder, how do we do better for our kids so that they don't have to struggle with the same body image issues like most of us did as kids? On this weeks episode we dive into the topic and address some important questions!

Dr. Morgan Francis is a Doctor of Clinical Psychology and a Licensed Mental

Health Therapist. She is the owner of Scottsdale Premier Counseling, in

Scottsdale, Arizona. At her private practice she treats young adults, individuals,

couples, and families. Her mission is to break through the mental health shame

game. With over 20 years of experience specializing in the treatment of Body

Image and Eating Disorders, Dr. Francis can empower you to make peace with

your body and food. She is a frequent guest on Fox News Phoenix, she has been

featured in local and national publication, she is a public speaker and consultant

on mental health helping churches, schools, and community organizations. You

can work with Dr. Francis by accessing her online courses or attending her

webinars. Dr. Francis lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her three children and

husband.

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There is so much information out there on the effects of social media it is hard to know where to start. If you are like me and want to make sure you are setting your kids (and yourself!) up for success with boundaries and conversations around social media with your kids, then this episode is for you!

Dr. Alison Yeung is a family physician from Ontario, Canada. Over the past decade, she has come to recognize that children are struggling in unprecedented ways. After recognizing the role that screens and social media are playing in their presentation, she began to dive into the research on this topic. Feeling that there is an undeniable association, she felt compelled to speak out. She has created an Instagram account to educate and empower parents to change the narrative, and has also worked with local schools to help implement cellphone policies by educating staff and parents.

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Career, parenting, being a spouse, showing up how you want to show up; it can be exhausting and lead to feeling burnt out. Sometimes I even wonder if I am helping or hurting myself when I am feeling burnt out. But how do I break the cycle? On this weeks episode Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein answers our questions on burn out and walks us thought how to avoid it in our own lives.

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Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD, is a licensed psychologist based in Florida, where she runs her private practice. She focuses on treating anxiety, burnout, and self-sabotaging behaviors, including perfectionism. She is a mother of two and is passionate about helping other parents prevent and recover from burnout. 

Dr. Carolyn is the author of the "Beyond Burnout Workbook," the inaugural release in a series of clinically-supported tools aimed at burnout recovery. She regularly shares practical tips on how to navigate the complexities of being perfectly human on her Instagram: @carolynrubensteinphd.

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Feeling lost in your career after becoming a mother? Or feeling torn between the career you love and the love you have for being a mom? The balance is so hard and figuring out how to navigate and balance it all is exhausting. But you aren't alone and this week we dive into feeling lost in our careers after motherhood.

Jessica (Jess) Galica is an Executive Coach helping leaders to achieve more success, fulfillment, and ease at work. She is the best-selling author of "Leap: Why It's Time to Let Go to Get Ahead In Your Career", inspired by her personal pivot leaving a successful corporate career to find greater fulfillment in work and life. Jess' thought leadership has been featured in the MIT Technology Review, Forbes, Business Insider, and Fast Company and she has been recognized as one of the Top Coaches in Boston. Last but certainly not least, Jess lives with her husband in Boston, where she is a present mom to her 3.5 year old daughter and 1 year old son.

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I think we can all agree that motherhood is not easy! There is so much advice out there and even the most well intentioned advice sometimes just isn't very helpful and can end up doing more harm than good. Sharing honest conversations around motherhood is usually helpful though and helps us all feel less alone!

1. What do you have the hardest time with/struggle the most with in motherhood?

2. What is one hill that you will die on about motherhood that you know is controversial and you'll get hate on?

3. What is the most outlandish piece of parenting advice you have received?

4. What did you initially say you were NEVER or ALWAYS going to do when it came to parenting that you have totally abandoned now and do the opposite? 

Renee's Bio:

I’m an academic turned podcaster who decided it was time to stir sh*t up in the mom community. My hobbies include: being honest, making TikToks, and helping you live life unapologetically as an imperfect mom.

Find her on socials:

https://www.instagram.com/thereneereina/

https://themomroom.com/

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