This one goes right to the heart of what so many long-term couples quietly sit in but rarely say out loud; the moments where you question everything, where disinterest creeps in, and where part of you starts scanning for the exit. 

Julie and Bridget unpack the truth that these seasons don’t mean your relationship is broken, but they do ask something deeper of you. 

They explore the concept of the “exit girl” - the part of you that wants out - not as something to suppress, but something to understand, honour, and get honest with. Because when you know what that part of you actually needs, you stop making reactive decisions and start making powerful ones. This is a conversation about choice, clarity, and taking responsibility for the relationship you’re in; whether that means staying, leaving, or completely redefining how you show up inside it.

In this episode we discuss:
• the normalisation of disinterest, distance and “co-existing” seasons in long-term love
• why questioning your relationship doesn’t mean it’s failing…it often means you’re waking up
• meeting your inner “exit girl” and understanding what she’s really trying to communicate
• the difference between reactive “I want out” energy vs grounded, self-led choice
• how over-functioning, motherhood, perimenopause and mental load shift relationship dynamics
• the moment women realise “I don’t actually need this” and what sits underneath that
• why stress strips capacity, lowers emotional intelligence, and impacts connection and desire
• the danger of making relationship decisions from burnout, resentment or nervous system overwhelm
• creating an “exit strategy” as empowerment, not as a threat, ultimatum or escape plan
• getting radically clear on what you do want instead of circling what you don’t
• how economic power, self-trust and support systems shape your choices in love
• the importance of clean, honest communication that invites growth instead of blame
• the truth about long-term love: that it requires ongoing attention, not autopilot
• the role of AI in support spaces and why human-to-human connection still matters deeply
• choosing your relationship consciously, again and again, rather than staying by default

Want support on this journey? Come join us inside Honey Club - where we melt these blocks together, one breath, one practice, one deep remembering at a time. Find out more at julietenner.love or visit: https://julie-tenner.newzenler.com/courses/honeyclub


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