Have you ever wished you could change someone in your life? Have you tried changing someone to fit your ideals and beliefs? If so, have you succeeded? Did it make you happy?

It’s frustrating to try and change someone who isn’t willing to change, especially when your circumstances aren’t helping. This will only trigger stress and anxiety, and will continuously deplete your inner peace and compassion.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses why we should stop trying to change others and instead, focus on loving ourselves through cultivating patience, tolerance, and compassion.

Key Takeaways:

• 01:29 Have you tried changing someone in your life?
• 02:25 Top 3 reasons couples fight: money, sex, children
• 03:36 The reasons why we try to change others
• 05:08 In trying to positively impact the world, we are changing ourselves
• 05:45 3 things that happen when we try to change people
• 08:01 Reason #1: We care more for comfort than change
• 12:52 Reason #2: We can’t understand others because of own narrow thinking
• 15:20 Reason #3: We think we are always right
• 18:04 Reason #4: We don’t understand the value of diversity
• 20:40 Change and the motivation to change are an inside job

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Perry joined Jay Shetty in their first ever virtual book tour event for the recently released book they co-authored, What Happened to You? We talk about how they are redefining childhood trauma, why experiences at a young age mold our adult life, and finding rhythm and balance to start healing yourself.

Oprah is an accomplished author, talk show host, actress, producer and philanthropist. Dr. Bruce Perry is a neuroscientist and psychiatrist, currently the senior fellow of the Child Trauma Academy in Houston, Texas and today, we will find out “What happened to you”

What We Discuss with Oprah and Dr. Perry:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:24 Meeting Dr. Bruce Perry and the journey towards understanding “What Happened to You”
• 05:57 Commonly misunderstood concept about trauma
• 09:06 Going beyond success to heal your trauma
• 11:05 The younger the children, the more influence you have on who they become
• 12:24 Oprah on Fast Five
• 19:05 Switch from “What is wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
• 24:13 Life-long study on child trauma and how it started
• 27:52 The connection between childhood experience and adulthood
• 32:53 What should parents do differently to express love to their children?
• 41:27 Finding the time to create a rhythm and balance
• 46:24 Misconceptions about the stress response system that leads to trauma
• 50:14 Neglect is as toxic as trauma
• 53:26 Reaching an understanding so can process your pain and anger
• 01:06:39 The difference between coping and healing

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Episode Resources:

• What Happened to You?
• The Oprah Winfrey Show
• Oprah Winfrey | Facebook
• Oprah Winfrey | Twitter
• Dr. Bruce Perry | Twitter
• Dr. Bruce Perry | Website
• Dr. Bruce Perry | Books

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When our emotions become overwhelming, we lose our ability to make sound decisions. We struggle to listen to anyone or anything else, even though our intuition seldom guides us wrong.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty reveals five reasons why many of us struggle to be in tune with our intuitions and how this leads to trust issues & self-doubt.

Key Takeaways:

• 01:20 1.2M had to leave the workforce due to the pandemic
• 02:39 Reason #1: We don’t understand the different roles of our minds and our emotions
• 04:43 Our brain and body coordinate to create emotions
• 06:27 When we feel discomfort, we come up with a label for it
• 09:28 Reason #2: We think we have all the facts to sort through until we get an intuitive hit on what to do
• 11:51 Reason #3: Our brain has inherent biases
• 15:45 Freewriting helps us get to our thoughts and beliefs we have trouble accessing
• 16:58 Reason #4: We underestimate the impact of culture on how we see the world
• 17:48 Reason #5: We keep weakening our intuition by ignoring it
• 18:33 Schedule time with yourself to be alone to listen to your mind and body

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Dr. Shefali (@DrShefali) joins Jay Shetty to talk about overcoming the objectification of feminine energy and how this suppression holds many women back from embracing their power

She is a New York Times best-selling author and a clinical psychologist specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe.

What We Discuss with Dr. Shefali:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:19 Women are the nurturing emblem for our children
• 03:21 How women’s power has been dampened and weakened over time
• 09:06 Getting lost in the idea of containing another person as possession
• 12:49 First step to radical awakening
• 16:16 Women are conditioned to keep it all together
• 20:23 Finding the motivation and inspiration to keep moving
• 23:59 A lot of women are putting everyone before themselves
• 31:21 Why men move on faster in any situation
• 34:22 When we internalize the concept of objectification
• 46:47 Embracing emptiness: we are all the mirrors of each other
• 50:28 Dr. Shefali on Final Five

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Episode Resources:

• Dr. Shefali | Website
• Dr. Shefali | Facebook
• Dr. Shefali | YouTube
• Dr. Shefali | Twitter
• Dr. Shefali | Instagram
• Dr. Shefali | Books

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Who doesn’t worry about the future? At some point in our lives, we all fear the unknown, and anxiety fills our thoughts.

Although these feelings are very common, the best way to deal with them is to understand where they are coming from and knowing and how they coincide with what stage you are in your life.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares five strategies to help you better manage these fears, along with practical exercises you can use today to build better self-confidence.

Learn more about fear & the path to moving forward in chapter 3 of my bestselling book, Think Like a Monk, available here

Key Takeaways:

• 01:49 Worrying about the uncertain future
• 02:25 10 categories of fears that we have
• 05:05 Strategy #1: It’s normal for us to worry about the future
• 09:07 Strategy #2: Instead of focusing on the details, focus on our target
• 11:13 Strategy #3: The big payoff of worry is it gives us the illusion of control
• 14:13 Strategy #4: Create a flexible framework to deal with future fears
• 20:45 Strategy #5: Grit is staying determinedly on the path, but be able to distinguish between distraction and an unexpected opportunity

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Jamie Kern Lima (@jamiekernlima) sits down with Jay Shetty to uncover her rags to riches story, how to build your intuition muscles, and how persistence is the key to crushing your self-doubt

She’s an entrepreneur and a media personality, and the first female chief executive officer of L'Oréal. Her latest book, Believe It, is written to inspire a new kind of self-belief and confidence in you and your dreams!

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Would you believe me if I said toxic people don’t exist? You’ve probably got someone in mind right now...

But it’s true, people aren’t born toxic - it’s their negative habits, conditioning, and behaviors that installed these toxic characteristics. This doesn’t mean they’re bad people, it just means you need better boundaries.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty identifies the 8 types of toxic people and the 5 steps to setting boundaries in all of your relationships.

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

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Dreams don’t just come true on their own. Manifestation doesn’t come to fruition without constant embodiment and tenacity. Goals don’t set themselves.

On this episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty, Jay speaks with rapper and author, RUSS, about how to gear your mentality towards success even when you’re surrounded by the doubts of those around you.

Grab a copy of RUSS’ book It’s All In Your Head here today!

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If you’re unsure what went wrong in your last relationship, your current one may not last very long either... that is, until you learn why.

It might come as a surprise when you learn that the answer is simple, and it lies within you. The power to lasting relationships doesn’t depend on who your partner is, but your level of commitment.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty unpacks the top reasons relationships fail and what you can do to make them last.

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Friends, family, and society at large all have expectations of who we should be and what will make us happy. So understanding what you really want and being true to yourself can be very difficult.

On this episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty, Jay speaks with renowned sociologist and life coach, Martha Beck, on her new book The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self

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