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Hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. delve into the crucial question of whether the God of one's understanding is strong enough to restore sanity in the context of recovery. They discuss the common doubts and struggles individuals in recovery face regarding their perception of a higher power, including feelings of abandonment and the question of God's existence and benevolence. Justin shares his personal journey of reevaluating his understanding of God five years into sobriety, inspired by the concept of 'firing' an old God and 'hiring' a new one to better support his recovery. They emphasize using the step two inventory exercise to identify and challenge preconceived notions of God influenced by authoritative figures in one's life. The hosts encourage listeners to reflect on their own beliefs and the impact these may have on their recovery process, underlining the need for a belief  in a trustworthy, loving, and powerful God in the path towards sanity and healing.

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The podcast episode features Justin B. and guest Julie M. discussing her personal journey through betrayal and recovery due to her husband's sexual addiction. Julie shares her initial reluctance to seek help for herself, believing she wasn't the one with the problem. However, upon realizing her life was unmanageable, she turned to the SAL 12 Step program for support. Throughout their conversation, they touch on learning to let go of control, finding strength and hope in community, and the gradual process of learning to trust in others,  one's Higher Power, and oneself after betrayal.

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In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. explore the concepts of powerlessness and unmanageability in the context of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. They discuss how admitting to these states can be challenging yet crucial for individuals dealing with addiction and for those who are in a relationship with them.  Justin shares his personal journey of denial and eventual acceptance of his powerlessness over addiction, highlighting the relief and empowerment that comes from surrendering to a higher power. The episode emphasizes the importance of admitting one's limitations to open the door to hope for recovery. The dialogue encourages listeners to 'experiment upon the word' by  admitting powerlessness and unmanageability to unlock a pathway to recovery.

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In this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes Dan Gray to discuss therapeutic disclosure in the healing process for individuals affected by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Dan emphasizes the critical role of disclosure to help break the cycle of secrecy and shame surrounding addiction, highlighting the benefits of therapeutic disclosure for both the addict and their spouse. He explains the ideal circumstances for disclosure, including the involvement of therapists for both parties to prepare and guide them through the process. Dan outlines common pitfalls of informal disclosures and stresses the importance of professional assistance to navigate the complex feelings and consequences involved. Additionally, the conversation touches on the considerations for support people, such as family members and faith leaders, advising them to listen, support, and avoid pressuring the individuals involved. Dan concludes by offering hope and advocating for reaching out for support and assistance in facing these challenging situations.

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In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B.  explore a listener's question about the distinction between calling oneself a sexaholic versus a sex addict, and the implications of that decision. The discussion delves into the SAL definition of sobriety, highlighting the importance of personal values in determining what terms and definitions one chooses to embrace for successful recovery.  Justin shares a personal account of seeking loopholes in sobriety definitions and the dangers it posed to his recovery. 

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In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Justin B. speaks with SAL 12-Step member Bryan F.  about  'Step Zero,' a concept not formally recognized in the traditional 12 steps but crucial for initiating the journey towards true recovery.  Bryan emphasizes the importance of community building  as the foundational piece of Step 0 and taking responsibility for his recovery instead of relying on others like his spouse to lead out.  Bryan discusses how his recent relapse brought him back to SAL 12-Step and discusses how a separation from his wife is helping him see himself and his situation more clearly and drawing him closer to God. He also emphasizes the transformative power of getting a sponsor, being rigorously honest, and letting go of outcomes in the recovery process. Both Justin and Bryan stress the significance of continual effort in personal recovery and the benefits of being involved in 'parking lot' meetings for additional support and connection after formal meetings.

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In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss strategies for moving forward after the discovery of betrayal in relationships. The episode emphasizes the emotional turmoil that follows discovery, and the importance of establishing safety and stabilization. They share personal stories, including Justin's own missteps post-discovery and the journey towards healing. Tara and Justin advocate for setting boundaries, seeking support outside the marital relationship, and the necessity of finding a supportive community for both the betrayed and the betrayer. They stress that healing from addiction and betrayal is a shared but individual journey that requires patience, understanding, and outside help.

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In this special episode, therapist Dorothy Maryon presents on communication after betrayal for the SAL 12-Step Men's Online Workshop.  Dorothy delves into the drama triangle—a concept explaining common unhealthy communication patterns that hinder relationship repair. She discusses strategies for breaking free from these patterns by understanding attachment and trauma. Additionally, Dorothy discusses the difference between 'drama' and 'trauma' and  highlights the importance of partners recognizing and responding to betrayal trauma sensitively and constructively to establish safety.

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In this Q&A, hosts Tara and Justin provide some final commentary on the subject of setting boundaries and bottom lines in the recovery process.  They emphasize how boundaries and bottom lines can effectively help break the cycle of addiction and  suggest that the creation of these action plans should take place during moments of relative peace prior to the triggering event or emotion.  They also consider the benefit of having a sponsor to use as a sounding board  and accountability partner when establishing boundaries and bottom lines. They end with encouragement to those struggling to implement boundaries, assuring that persistence and time will slowly rewire the addicted brain and strengthen a person's ability to follow through and experience the healing fruits of this vital recovery practice.

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In this episode, host Justin B.  speaks with SAL 12-Step members Karin and Jan to discuss the importance of setting healthy boundaries in recovery from betrayal trauma. Both Karin and Jan share their own experiences navigating relationships affected by betrayal. They describe setting boundaries as a way of protecting themselves and their own peace. They also discuss the necessity of maintaining personal commitment to recovery work, regardless of the outcome of their relationships. 

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