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Hosts Tara and Justin explore how their New Year's resolutions have evolved in the context of recovery learning and application. They discuss the significance of incorporating a higher power into their goal-setting process. The conversation delves into the concept of surrendering personal will and allowing divine guidance to shape goals and actions. They emphasize the transformative power of embracing a one-day-at-a-time mindset and employing humility and openness in the pursuit of progress and growth. Ultimately, the hosts encourage listeners to start their goal-setting process by humbly asking God for His guidance, surrendering their own agendas and believing that it is in this practice that divine power to change one’s  heart and behavior will be given. 

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Host Tara McCausland and therapist Dan Drake  discuss the importance of finding a qualified clinician that has specialized training in sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. They suggest questions/ways to vet a therapist to ensure best therapist-client fit. They explore  how having a therapist during the disclosure process is helpful, and paint a picture of what the therapeutic process might look like in the first year. They also touch on  the value of combining the 12-step program with therapy. Dan points out the importance of seeing qualified therapy as one part of a wider community of support available to those healing from sex addiction and betrayal trauma.

Links for this episode:
Dan's website
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Questions to Qualify Your Therapist

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In this episode, host Tara McCausland is joined by her assistant and friend, Jeni Brockbank. They discuss the concept of "surrender" as part of recovery, especially during challenging times such as the holidays.  A three-step surrender process "on your knees, on the phone, in a box" is also shared which includes prayer, reaching out to a trusted person for support, and writing out issues and setting them aside. The episode ends on a reminder about a blog post Jeni wrote on the topic found at www.salifeline.org and the announcement of a break for the podcast until January 2024. The essence of this discussion lies in finding a peaceful state amidst uncontrollable circumstances through the act of surrender.

01:25 The Concept of Surrender

03:50 Understanding Surrender through the Serenity Prayer

05:55 The Three-Step Process of Surrender

11:58 Recognizing the Need for Surrender

13:05 The Impact of Practicing Surrender

14:10 Surrender during the Holidays and Conclusion

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In this episode, Tara McCausland interviews Kahi Winget, the SAL Women's 12 Step executive director. Throughout the interview, they discuss the structure and benefits of SAL 12-Step meetings for individuals suffering from betrayal trauma, the hurdles to joining the meetings, as well as the journey of recovery. Both encourage newcomers to attend meetings and push through the early challenges of the process - emphasizing the life-changing impact of the program. They also discuss faith, spiritual connection with God or your Higher Power, and how these play crucial roles in the recovery journey.

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Host Tara McCausland speaks with two leaders of the SAL 12-Step program, Kahi Winget and Andrew Schmucker. They discuss what originally brought them to SAL 12-Step meetings and how the reasons for their participation have evolved through the recovery process. Kahi and Andrew share unique blessings from working the SAL 12-Step program as well as how their conception and relationship with the God of their understanding has been strengthened during this time. 

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In this episode Tara talks with Andrew S, the men's Executive Director for SAL 12 Step and a recovering addict. Andrew explains what someone can expect when they attend a 12 Step Meeting, and how SAL's 12 Step differs from other programs. Tara and Andrew discuss spiritual connection, one of the pieces in our Recovery Puzzle. How does a relationship with the God of your understanding  help in recovery work? Listen to find out more. 

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In this Q&A, hosts Justin and Tara compare and contrast healthy vs. unhealthy sexuality using a document prepared by Dr. Jill Manning. See the post here.  Understanding the broad scope of this question, they suggest that personal values and a God-centered approach are helpful starting points for thoughtful individuals seeking guidance on this  sensitive subject which has been hijacked by popular culture. 

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This week, Justin B takes some time to talk quality education, the value of rigorous honesty in recovery, and experience in the school of life with Steven Croshaw.  In this episode, Steven addresses if shame is the driving factor in addiction, the process of surrender,  and helpful educational resources are discussed. Access those resources in the links below.  Come walk this Pathway to Recovery with us and experience the healing that those on this pathway are experiencing.

Resources in this episode:
Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke
Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
Self-Identifying as a Sexual Addict: Shameful or Empowering?  by Steven Croshaw

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In this Q&A episode, hosts Justin and Tara discuss the importance of having a common language and vocabulary to use when it comes to important recovery words and definitions.  They discuss importance of having a strong sobriety definition as a basis for recovery that is understood and agreed upon and consider the S.A. Lifeline definitions of the terms trigger, slip, lapse, and relapse, and the key differences between them. These definitions can be found in the S.A. Lifeline publication Understand Pornography Addiction & Betrayal Trauma at salifeline.org.

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This week Tara talks with licensed marriage and family counselor, author and podcaster Geoff Steurer. Part of the recovery puzzle for both pornography addiction and betrayal truama is to find quality education and therapy. How does one go about this? How do you know what sort of sources to trust? Tara and Geoff discuss these issues as well as timelines for healing and if there is such a thing as a "quick fix" in recovery. 

Connect with Geoff at https://www.geoffsteurer.com/. 

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