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In this Q&A, hosts Justin and Tara compare and contrast healthy vs. unhealthy sexuality using a document prepared by Dr. Jill Manning. See the post here.  Understanding the broad scope of this question, they suggest that personal values and a God-centered approach are helpful starting points for thoughtful individuals seeking guidance on this  sensitive subject which has been hijacked by popular culture. 

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This week, Justin B takes some time to talk quality education, the value of rigorous honesty in recovery, and experience in the school of life with Steven Croshaw.  In this episode, Steven addresses if shame is the driving factor in addiction, the process of surrender,  and helpful educational resources are discussed. Access those resources in the links below.  Come walk this Pathway to Recovery with us and experience the healing that those on this pathway are experiencing.

Resources in this episode:
Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke
Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
Self-Identifying as a Sexual Addict: Shameful or Empowering?  by Steven Croshaw

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In this Q&A episode, hosts Justin and Tara discuss the importance of having a common language and vocabulary to use when it comes to important recovery words and definitions.  They discuss importance of having a strong sobriety definition as a basis for recovery that is understood and agreed upon and consider the S.A. Lifeline definitions of the terms trigger, slip, lapse, and relapse, and the key differences between them. These definitions can be found in the S.A. Lifeline publication Understand Pornography Addiction & Betrayal Trauma at salifeline.org.

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This week Tara talks with licensed marriage and family counselor, author and podcaster Geoff Steurer. Part of the recovery puzzle for both pornography addiction and betrayal truama is to find quality education and therapy. How does one go about this? How do you know what sort of sources to trust? Tara and Geoff discuss these issues as well as timelines for healing and if there is such a thing as a "quick fix" in recovery. 

Connect with Geoff at https://www.geoffsteurer.com/. 

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Tune in for the second portion of the 2023 S.A. Lifeline Conference Q&A Panel. Some of the questions answered in this episode include:

-What are some effective methods you use, therapists, with your clients to help them process difficult emotions?

-How can you navigate being in recovery, addict side, while being a nurse, or in the medical field where you are subject to seeing undressed patients, and show up for your wife as a man showing up in his recovery?

-What do I need to do to help my very young children heal from the trauma they've experienced growing up in the unhealthy attempts to heal from the betrayal trauma and addiction?

-Who do you determine who to allow into your recovery journey?

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John H is a recovering sex addict with more than 3 years sobriety and member of SAL 12-Step.  In this conversation with Justin B, he discusses the miracles and benefits of rigorous honesty in recovery after many years of continuous dishonesty.  We discuss the SAL Recovery Puzzle with the emphasis on rigorous honesty.

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In this special Q&A episode, we share a portion of the Q&A Panel Discussion from our 2023 S.A. Lifeline Conference.  Here are the questions answered in this segment:

-What resources do you recommend for an individual in recovery who wants to understand how best to support their betrayed spouse?

-I have four adult daughters. Who have been affected by divorce and the effects of my addiction. What would you recommend I do to help them heal from the trauma I have caused?

-Should a full restoration of trust from the betrayed be expected? 

-As you begin your journey to recovery, how do you deal with overwhelming feelings of shame and worthlessness?

- What traditions or hacks have you been doing in your family that make it easy and comfortable to talk about healthy sexuality? 

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Join Tara in this fascinating episode as she talks with Anna Lembke, author of Dopamine Nation.  Learn how addiction works in the brain and how to keep the balance between pleasure and pain on an even keel.  Anna discusses how rigorous honesty helps heal relationships and strengthens the brain. People who practice "strict" sobriety tend to  have a better chance of recovery.  And can the right type of shame actually help? Listen to find out more.

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Today is another Q & A with our hosts, Tara McCausland and Justin B. 

Most addicts lie about their behaviors because they think it will protect themselves and not hurt others around them. Justin discusses how he eventually recognized the error in his thinking and how honesty has improved his relationships. They talk about how dishonesty is one of the most hurtful things for a betrayed partner.

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Our annual S.A. Lifeline Conference Come Heal With Us: A Community Focus on the Effects of Pornography, Sexual Addiction & Betrayal Trauma is right around the corner on Sept. 9, 2023 in Sandy, Utah. In this special episode, we meet several of our speakers and hear in their words a brief overview of their presentations. We end with the wisdom of a former conference presenter and participant, Dr. Jill Manning, who suggests four powerful reasons why individuals, couples, therapists, and faith leaders would greatly benefit from joining us at this uplifting event. 

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