Have you heard your vagina stretches out if you have a lot of sex? Or that kegels are the answer to all your pelvic floor issues? How about the one that a vaginal delivery ruins your sex life? Heather Jeffcoat returns to the podcast for a round of true or false about common sexual health myths. We also offer advice for first intercourse; dilator use and period problems. In this episode you’ll learn the facts to help you advocate for your sexual health.

Heather Jeffcoat, DPT is a recognized expert in the field of improving women’s health through physical therapy and President of The Academy of Pelvic Health Physical Therapy.

Learn more about Heather’s work here: www.fusionwellnesspt.com

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Miscarriage or infertility is often the first medical crisis young couples face and finding intimacy through these times can pose some unique challenges. Dr. Jacqueline Sherman shares her personal story as well as specific ideas to help couples navigate the journey. You'll learn ways to connect with your feelings, your partner, and tips to reframe your sex life for more intimacy and connection.


Dr. Jacqueline Sherman is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Certified Intimacy and Relationship Coach. www.drjac.co

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PART TWO: It can feel uncomfortable asking for what you want in bed. The good news is that talking with a partner about sex is a skill you can learn. In this episode, our conversation with Meygan Caston continues as she shares how communication saved her sex life. In part two, she takes things to the next level by asking for a ‘pleasure gift’ on her 10-year wedding anniversary. You’ll hear more of her tips and strategies for talking about sex with a partner, and will be encouraged to give yourself permission for pleasure.

Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365.
www.marriage365.com

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PART ONE: When things aren’t going so great in the bedroom, communication may be what you need to turn things around. Research shows that talking about sex is one of the strongest predictors of sexual satisfaction. In this episode, Meygan Caston joins us as our first repeat guest on the podcast. This time, she shares the story of how she learned to talk about sex with her partner,  and offers us the communication tips and strategies she gathered as they transformed their sex life from really bad - to really good.

Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365.
www.marriage365.com

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Foreplay should be all day! I like to think of foreplay as connection building activities rather than just a lead up to sex. Connection certainly doesn't start in the bedroom. Foreplay can be tender, playful, and erotic. In this quickie episode, I offer some specific ideas to intentionally use each of your senses to increase pleasure and get creative with connection. It is said that variety is the spice of life, so let's get curious, have fun, and get spicy!

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Dr. Rossana Sida joins me for a conversation about her work with survivors and those who care for them. We discuss common challenges of recovery, options for those seeking help, language to use with recovering partners, and navigating ongoing consent. You are never alone in the continuing work of healing and recovery. Whether you are a survivor, in a relationship with one, or desire to understand how to best care for someone else, you’ll find some tools here for healing and hope.

Dr. Rossana Sida is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in sex and relationships with a special interest in the intersection of female sexuality and sexual abuse.

Learn more about Rossana’s work:
www.togethernesstherapy.com

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In this episode, I talk with Dr. Shannon Chavez. We explore the importance of curiosity, consent, and communication, and then we unpack a few topics from my community question box about vibrators, edging, and anal sex.

• Edging tips for slowing things down and building arousal.
• Vibrators -why they work for women and healthy practices
• Anal sex: yes or no? Basics about consent, lube and safety.

Shannon Chavez, PsyD, CST is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, California.
 
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Drshannonchavez.com

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Join me and my friend Heather for an episode in our “Let’s Go Girls” series where members of our community share their stories and we explore what women have learned about sex, their bodies, and pleasure. We discuss the facts, challenges and freedom of midlife and menopause. Listen to learn, laugh, get prepared and feel less alone in whatever stage of womanhood you find yourself.

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Sheila Wray Gregoire and her team conducted a study of 20,000 women to determine what makes sex great for some and less satisfying for others, along with rates of sexual pain. In this episode we discuss what these women had to say and find out how significant cultural narratives are on our desire styles and arousal as women. What started out as a chat about female arousal, quickly turned into a thought-provoking conversation around how our mindset impacts female arousal. Let’s all start asking Sheila’s question: “What wants to be touched right now?”

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ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com

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Did you know your brain is your most important sex organ?! This quickie episode is an introduction to the roll your brain plays in sexual response. There is a two-part system, an accelerator and a brake. A lot of people think there might be something wrong with their ON or accelerator, but most often the issues are with your OFF or brake. Listen and learn about questions to ask yourself that will help you to investigate what might be turning you ON or OFF.

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