Esther Boykin joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation around the intersection of mental health and our careers. Esther highlights the difference between self-care and self-compassion, and points us towards using self-compassion as an essential tool for improving both our personal and work lives. When we bring self-compassion to our careers, we prevent burnout by opening up a deeper connection to our common humanity. Together, Esther and Dr. Alexandra then respond to a listener who thinks her relationship is being held back by her partner's ambition.

Relevant links:

Connect with Esther online:

https://estherboykin.com/

and on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/estherbmft/

Learn more about Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word:

https://therapyisnotadirtyword.com/

The Compassion Collective:

https://www.compassioncollectiveretreat.com/

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan: 

https://bookshop.org/p/books/who-not-how-the-formula-to-achieve-bigger-goals-through-accelerating-teamwork-dan-sullivan/1949f3d630f663ac?ean=9781401960582&next=t&

Reimagining Love episode: "Talking about the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy":

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-about-the-future-navigating-a-pace-discrepancy/id1588419386?i=1000578512125

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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What does it feel like to be in a securely attached relationship? Renowned relationship expert and therapist Julie Menanno joins Reimagining Love to illuminate what we can learn from examining secure attachments. Together with Dr. Alexandra, Julie helps anxious and avoidant partners understand each other by guiding us through how different attachment styles show up in tender moments. Ultimately, Julie reminds us that the purpose of attachment work is to help us heal from our past unmet needs so that we can form secure attachments today.

Relevant links:

Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie Menanno:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/secure-love-create-a-relationship-that-lasts-a-lifetime-julie-menanno/f96a57df315c4d70?ean=9781668012864&next=t&

Connect with Julie online:

https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/

and on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/?hl=en

Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

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Submit a Listener Question:

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Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Deceit, infidelity, and betrayal profoundly shake our inner worlds. If you're struggling to heal from relational harm, you may be endlessly ruminating on the past and wondering why you can't just let it go. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra breaks down the process of forgiveness and provides seven reasons why you can’t get over it. 

Relevant links:

Access this episode's companion worksheet here:

https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/worksheets

Dr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or Deceit:

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

Reimagining Love episode: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin":

 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-little-you-exploring-your-family-of-origin/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

 https://bookshop.org/p/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want-alexandra-h-solomon-phd/bb4e09f44fba80a8?ean=9781684033461&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: 

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Submit a Listener Question:

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Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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What are trauma bonds and how can we heal from them? Dr. Laura Copley joins the podcast to dive into the sticky dynamics of unhealthy, trauma-bonded relationships. Drawing from personal experiences and her work as a relationship trauma expert, Dr. Laura gives us insight into what she calls "the hero's journey" — a transformative path towards recognizing our origin stories, attachment wounds, and current relationship dynamics so that we can transcend our trauma and form authentic connections.

Relevant links: 

Loving You Is Hurting Me: A New Approach to Healing Trauma Bonds and Creating Authentic Connection by Dr. Laura Copley: https://bookshop.org/p/books/loving-you-is-hurting-me-a-new-approach-to-healing-trauma-bonds-and-creating-authentic-connection-laura-copley/312c82f9800d7f71?ean=9781538741399&next=t&

Learn more about Dr. Laura's work from her website:

https://lauracopley.com/

Dr. Laura's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/doccopley/

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

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Submit a Listener Question:

https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh returns to Reimagining Love to share her research on the six ingredients that help love bloom into a thriving relationship. In this conversation, Dr. Sara encourages us to move beyond our culture's myth of finding a perfect mate and instead, focus on creating something special together. 

Relevant links: 

Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh:

https://lovebydesignbook.com/

Dr. Sara's Relationship Panoramic Inventory:

https://relationship-panoramic.com/product/relationship-panoramic-for-couples/

Learn more about Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh:

https://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

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Submit a Listener Question:

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Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Thinking about re-entering the dating scene after a breakup or loss? How can you tell if you're truly ready to get back out there? In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra provides five Relational Self-Awareness-informed indicators that you can use to help you discern whether you’re ready to date again.

Relevant links:

Access this episode's companion worksheet here:

https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/worksheets

Listen to Reimagining Love's "Guidance for the Newly Single" episode:

https://pod.link/1588419386/episode/NjU2ZGZkZjM2YTgxMzAwMDEyMDZmMDMy

Learn more about Relational Self-Awareness with Dr. Alexandra's books, 

Loving Bravely: https://bookshop.org/p/books/loving-bravely-twenty-lessons-of-self-discovery-to-help-you-get-the-love-you-want-alexandra-h-solomon-phd/4d9e637a80d41163?ean=9781626255814&next=t&

Taking Sexy Back: https://bookshop.org/p/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want-alexandra-h-solomon-phd/bb4e09f44fba80a8?ean=9781684033461&next=t&

Order Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question:

https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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In this in-depth solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we played in our original family systems. Way before we ever were involved in a romantic relationship, we were part of a family system, and that system, for better or for worse, shaped our ideas about who we can and cannot be. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool.

Relevant links:

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz:

https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz/

Reimagining Love: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin":

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-little-you-exploring-your-family-of-origin/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker Article:

https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question:

https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Emily Nagoski joins Reimagining Love for a vulnerable and expansive conversation about nurturing lasting sexual connections in long-term partnerships. As an award-winning sex educator and author, Emily combines groundbreaking research, sex education, and stress education to expand our ideas about women's sexuality. In her new book, Come Together, Emily explores how long-term couples maintain sexual connection over time. Together, Emily and Dr. Alexandra uncover the importance of moving away from the "shoulds" in our sex lives and towards discovering more confidence and joy with our partners.

Relevant links:

Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski: 

https://bookshop.org/p/books/come-together-the-science-and-art-of-creating-lasting-sexual-connections-emily-nagoski-phd/cac2570951a3d17c?ean=9780593500835&next=t&

Learn more about Emily's work from her website:

https://www.emilynagoski.com/

 Emily's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/?hl=en

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question:

https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Renowned divorce coach Kate Anthony sits down with Dr. Alexandra to offer us an empowering approach to divorce that centers accountability and integrity. Sharing wisdom from her own divorce, Kate guides Dr. Alexandra through the experience, from exploring what is embedded within the question ‘should I stay or should I go?’ to all the tricky things that emerge in the aftermath of a separation: parenting decisions, the gender dynamics of divorce, and the heaps of unsolicited advice that’s coming your way.

Relevant links:

The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage by Kate Anthony: https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-d-word-making-the-ultimate-decision-about-your-marriage-kate-anthony/e2d70c2b71bfa49e?ean=9780806542355&next=t&

Listen to The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-divorce-survival-guide-podcast/id1345075933

Explore Kate's program Should I Stay or Should I Go?: https://kateanthony.com/should-i-stay/

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger joins Reimagining Love for an expansive conversation about all things sexuality. Nicoletta's approach shows the power of sex-positivity — encouraging curiosity about how everyone can learn to have better sex and, in doing so, build deeper connections to our senses, our relationships, and ourselves.

Relevant links:

Learn more about Nicoletta's work:

https://www.nicolettavheidegger.com/

Nicoletta's Sex and Scholars Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/sluts-and-scholars/id1223781930

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

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Submit a Listener Question:

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