We understand if 2021 has been a hard year for you. So you can start 2022 with hope, Shannon and I have been working on a special project that’s designed to help you (and any couple) find a clear path out of your relationship struggles and onto the path towards having a Secure Marriage. If […]

Several years ago, in the midst of one of our fights, Shannon and I discovered a way for both of our feelings to be heard, understood, and validated, and have both of us walk away feeling loved and connected with each other. I’ve gone on to teach this tool to many of my clients, and […]

When things that are out of your control go horribly wrong and you find yourself frustrated, disappointed, and irritable, how do you respond? Kindly and patiently or with anger and impatience? How do you treat your husband or wife in this situation? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share with […]

Has the holiday season become a season connected with disappointment and bitterness? Do times of love and connection too often end up in conflict and stress? If you’d like to learn how to make the holidays special again, then you’ll want to listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast where a simple Christmas […]

If the holidays are supposed to be times of joy and happiness, why do things too often melt down and end up in huge fights and overwhelming stress? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re giving you eight tips that are guaranteed to make your holidays less stressful and more relaxed, even if […]

It’s happened to all of us… You make a simple request to your husband or wife and they completely ignore you. They’ve just unintentionally (or sadly, sometimes intentionally) said, “I don’t care about you or your needs.” When this happens over and over in a relationship, it leads to a miserable marriage. Fortunately, it can […]

Let me just say upfront, this episode was my wife’s idea. I thought we had agreed we were going to skip this topic but NOOOOO. After recording our last podcast she hijacked the microphones and MADE me do this episode. I sincerely apologize in advance.

If you’re not familiar with the Pacific Northwest, starting in mid-October the clouds roll in and it becomes a grey, gloomy, wet, soul-sucking place for the next 8 months (I hear it’s a lot like England). For those that are solar powered—like my wife Shannon—the emotional clouds roll in as well and she starts to […]

Having a fun, easy marriage is possible when you’ve created healthy relationship habits. But how to create good habits and remove the bad habits? We’re glad you asked, because that’s exactly what we’re talking about in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. We’re also are going to point you to a book we’ve recently […]

For those of you whose marriage is struggling right now…  We know you’ve spent months and/or years trying to make it better. You’ve read countless books, listened to podcasts, watched videos, tried couples counseling… nothing seems to help. You know deep down your marriage is not going to last but it’s hard to admit it. […]