When you’re hurt, finding forgiveness isn’t always easy. You want your husband or wife to admit they were wrong, that they understand how you feel, and demonstrate genuine remorse and contriteness. Unfortunately, their survival brain makes it really hard to do that right away.

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at forgiveness and why it can be so hard sometimes.

Enjoy.

Have you ever wanted to do something really badly but your spouse wasn’t on board? For many couples, this can lead bitterness, resentment, and some pretty good fights.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage podcast, we’ll show you can work through the issue kindly and respectfully, even when you and your spouse aren’t on the same page yet.

Despite being a trained professional counselor with years of experience helping couples fix their marriages, last Saturday, Shannon and I got into a HUGE fight over a stupid text.

If you want to see who won, you’ll want to listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

We hope you enjoy.

Keeping secrets from your spouse rarely turns out well… especially when it concerns meeting up with your ex when your spouse is out of town.

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re tackling the tough issue of rebuilding trust and how to prioritize your spouse’s feelings over everyone else’s feelings.

Every couple fights. So when do those fights cross the line and become emotionally abusive? Or, if you know they’ve already crossed the line, what can you do to keep yourself safe?

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we want to help inform those that may be feeling helpless and hopeless in their toxic relationships.

Very few things are as devastating as hearing your husband or wife wants to end the marriage. What do you do? Do you fight for the relationship? Do you let them go? How do you deal with the deep feelings of abandonment and betrayal?

Today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast takes a sober look at a situation many of you have had to face.

You may not know this, but for a lot of couples, sex is pretty important (insert sarcastic look here). And when sex is experienced less and less it can lead to all sorts of nasty problems in your relationship.

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we look at why some marriages lose their sexual intimacy and, more importantly, what to do to start repairing things in bedroom.

You hear people say all the time “I’ve fallen out of love”. Worse yet, they use that reason to end their marriage, hoping to “fall in love” with someone else.

That’s not how “love” is supposed to work. Feeling of love are supposed to go from heated, passionate, crazy-stupid attraction to the sustainable warmth of intimacy and companionship.

In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll be looking at why so many people find that so frustrating and disappointing and what the healthy version of love over long periods of time is supposed to look like.

Sometimes, your spouse just bugs the crap out of you. Everything they do frustrates or disappoints you and it’s nearly impossible to see any good in them. This negative attitude can grow like a cancer until it starts to eat at you from the inside out.

If this sounds familiar and you’ve been wanting to do something about it, this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast is for you. In our conversation, we look at things like Confirmation Bias and retraining your Reticular Activating System so you can start seeing the best in your spouse and both of you can enjoy a better relationship.

We hope you enjoy.

If you’ve been married for any amount of time, you know that the “feelings” can start to fade and things feel a little… boring. For some people, that disappointment causes them to become restless and desire something (or someone) new. If that’s happened to you, what are you supposed to do with those feelings?

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re answering another Facebook Marriage Group question and looking at why these restless feelings show up stronger for some people and not so much for others.