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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

4:12 - The quick 101 on attachment theory - it's most simple definition.

7:29 - Understanding the difference between making bad choices and having unhealthy romantic relationships versus having an attachment disorder.

10:12 - If a person does have an avoidant insecure attachment style, what can they do not to pass down this attachment style?

11:39 - The importance of attunement in attachment.

13:40 - Being intentional in your approach to parenting can help anchor you and prevent you from being so reactive in the moment.

18:13 - There are many relationships that come together to form a child's attachment blueprint - so you don't need to put so much pressure on yourself!

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Using the end of the night to help a child unwind, make sense of the day, and prepare for what's to come tomorrow can be a valuable tool for shifting their brain and body into a state of rest.

Joining me to talk about how parents can use the last 20 minutes of the day to promote social and emotional learning is the author of the children's book series, Conscious Stories, Andrew Newman.

Helping our child to feel safe and connected to us just before it's time for them to drift off into sleep can have a huge impact on their ability to successfully fall asleep and stay asleep and on their overall mental wellbeing.

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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

1:49 - What should consequences for my child be when there are no natural or logical consequences that are easy to identify?

4:05 - Understanding the developmental difference between your child being able to intellectually comprehend something versus their ability to inhibit an impulse.

7:41 - Helping your child keep their autonomy while teaching them a new rule to maintain safety might mean you have to supervise them for a while.

10:37 - I told my child not to do something, they did it anyway, what should the consequence be? Should I punish them?

12:58 - Parents are often afraid of using consequences in a gentle parenting philosophy—but there is an appropriate time and use for consequences.

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Knowing what to do, when, and how is a challenge in parenting! If you're doing the right thing, but at the wrong time, you may be left questioning your methods and feeling like you're failing in parenting.

Here to help moms and dads learn how to be most effective in their parenting is the founder of Curious Neuron, neuroscientist Dr. Cindy Hovington.

Learning how to decipher the cues from your unique child, understand their temperament and nervous system, and be nimble in adapting your strategies for different situations and emotions are key elements in finding the ease in parenthood.

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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

6:22 - How to allow sensitive children to feel seen and understood, without making them shut down or feel uncomfortable with too much direct attention.

7:17 - Behavioral interventions to use with sensitive kids when they are fully dysregulated and as they start to cool down.

9:05 - Being intentional about using structures and systems preemptively so sensitive children understand expectations and can predict what will happen next.

15:56 - While this may sound like it take a lot of time and attention, in the end it's easier than managing the meltdown.

20:31 - Things will come up that you can't anticipate, and that's where theses strategies of recognizing, validating, redirecting, and recovering are helpful.

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Surprise! It's a BONUS Securely Attached episode!

Listen to a replay of my full masterclass, From Battles to Bonding: Overcoming Power Struggles!

And if you have a friend, family member, or even your own partner in parenting who you know is navigating powers struggles right now, send them the link to this masterclass before this limited time bonus episode disappears on October 2nd.

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In this episode, I am breaking down the 10 simple steps I teach to the families in my clinical practice to help them make small shifts to their own behavior that will result in some big changes in their child.

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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

2:18 - You are not alone! Kids holding it together all day with other people and melting down with us is very common (and healthy, even!)

2:57 - How to make transitions smoother to help reduce dysregulation when children get home.

7:26 - Children do behave differently with different caregiver and parents respond differently to different children. This is typical and normal, but there are shifts we can make to interrupt these patterns if they're not working for the family.

11:55 - Reframing your interpretation of your child's big emotions as a necessary release, rather than a problem that needs to be fixed.

14:30 - The interpretation that your child is messiest with your because they feel safest with you may be true and validating, but it doesn't mean they feel unsafe with you if the inverse is the case.

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Do you feel like you are constantly ping-ponging between two extremes—throwing around your authority and overpowering your child or feeling like they're running the show?

Jen Lumanlan, the creator of Your Parenting Mojo and the author of the new book, Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family—and the World, is helping parents learn how to embark on a journey towards harmonious family life and a better world!

Say goodbye to time-outs, countdowns, and punishments that perpetuate power imbalances. Instead, embrace empathetic listening, understanding your child's needs, and collaborative problem-solving. The result? Parents no longer feel like martyrs and children's behavioral problems often start to decrease.

If you're ready to transform your family life while shaping a brighter future for your children, then this episode is a must-listen!

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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

2:24 - How this current generation is working to lessen the stigma of having learning difficulties or a neurodiverse brain by approaching it as a difference rather than a deficit.

4:20 - How parents can be collaborative with their child's school to help them feel comfortable getting support in the classroom.

7:26 - Understanding a child's genetic history can empower parents to make specific choices (proactively and in the moment) based on that unique knowledge.

9:02 - Teaching your child to use, "I'm the type of person who..." statements can help them approach the things that are challenging for them without judgment.

15:29 - How comparing an invisible disability (like ADHD, OCD, anxiety, etc.) with physical disabilities can help children feel comfortable accepting support.

18:45 - Modeling coping skills by talking about your unique brain, body, and your process in navigating mental or physical differences without infusing shame.

✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨