Single Mother Survival Guide

Kids react to separation and divorce differently. They might feel like they've done something wrong to cause the separation, or they might feel anxious... They might withdraw, and they might display disruptive behaviours... These are normal reactions, and the best thing you can do, as parents is to let your kids know that it's okay to experience and share how they're feeling.

If you are separating from the other parent of your children, it's helpful to know what your kids might worry about so you can support them to the best ability. In this episode, I share ten things that kids might worry about when you separate.

I hope this episode helps you understand and listen to how they're feeling, and make sure they feel supported during the process.

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In this episode, I talk about children and what they should know, what they shouldn't know, and what they probably know anyway, as you consider separation. Divorce or separation can be a challenging transition for children. It can be a traumatic event, but you and your children will adjust to this new situation as you find your new normal. I hope this episode helps you guide your children through this transition too.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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The decision to separate usually results after weeks, months, or even years of contemplation. In this episode, I share ten things I highly recommend you do before separating or divorcing, if possible.

Getting a divorce or separation is a tremendous amount to handle legally, financially, socially, and emotionally. It's something you take on when you've tried working it out and are certain there are no other viable options. So it's crucial you do what you can to make this transition as easy as possible for yourself and your children.

Links mentioned in the episode:

The doors to Thrive Tribe are OPEN!! Join the membership HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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This week on the show, I have Ginger Gentile joining me.

Ginger is a filmmaker and change-maker. She reunites families torn apart from parental alienation and divorce through her work as a coach and also through her films Erasing Family and Erasing Dad. She is a documentary filmmaker dedicated to addressing ignored issues and shedding light on solutions. She travels frequently as a public speaker and is an in-demand consultant for parents reversing alienation, startups and NGOs raising money, and filmmakers.

Ginger's experience is also drawn from her own journey as a child of high-conflict divorce. She is certified to offer the New Ways for Families Course created by Bill Eddy of the High Conflict Institute and she is also a certified iPEC coach.

In this episode we talk about:

• What it was like for her being a child of high-conflict divorce.
• Her own experience of parental alienation and her realisations from it.
• The subtle ways parental alienation can happen.
• Reasons why some parents alienate their children from the other parent.
• The short and long-term effects of alienation on children.
• Advice for the alienated parent.
• Communication strategies for the alienated parent.

Links mentioned in the episode:

If you are curious to learn more about the topic of parental alienation, please listen to past episodes 325 and 326.

Check out Ginger's website Erasing Family and Reversing Parental Alienation.

You can connect with Ginger on her Facebook and Instagram.

You can stream her documentary Erasing Family on all major platforms.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This episode is relevant to you if you are trying to decide whether or not to get divorced or separate (you don't need to be married). This is one of the hardest decisions you'll ever have to make. Too often, when making this decision, we rely on our feelings for answers, but doing this can confuse you and keep you in limbo, for months, or even years in many cases.

Today, I share some insights and reflection questions to help you determine if divorce or separation is the right move for you, or if you are able to take your relationship or marriage in a new direction. You don't have to sit on the fence, stuck with indecision forever.

If you are going through this right now, please know that you are not alone. May you find the strength and confidence to move forward with concrete plans for yourself and your children.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I share with you a variety of options to get through the divorce process - from a full-on trial, to DIY, to mediation, to collaborative... Divorce is an emotional and stressful process, and can be a difficult time for families. There are a number of important decisions you have to make. It is critical to be prepared and we know it can be especially tough on kids. I hope the information I share with you helps you make the transition as smooth as possible for you and your children.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Check out my recent episode where I talked about collaborative divorce HERE. (Episode 324)

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I discuss how you can be seen as credible during separation. It's very important you appear as a credible person when you are dealing with lawyers, mediators, and even your ex. Credibility is important because it can help influence decisions and set reasonable expectations, and when you establish credibility, you establish you are thinking about what is important and best for the kids, and not letting your emotions get the better of you. So here, l give you tips on how you can establish your credibility. I hope what I discussed today will help you to remain objective, and to communicate with confidence and clarity.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk to you about some ways you can improve your mindset. If you've listened to my past podcast episodes you will know that I am an advocate of developing and having the right mindset. Improving your frame of mind and the thoughts that run through your head can drastically alter your life. So, if you want to be a better version of yourself, learning how to improve your mindset can help you get there more quickly.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Check out my recent episode where I talked about the brain and the science behind our thoughts HERE. (Episode 332)

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk to you about how you can prepare yourself emotionally for divorce or separation. In today's society, divorce is a present reality for all couples that decide to marry. If you are ever faced with this decision or life change, it's important to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the difficulties that may lie ahead.

Divorce isn't easy; it can be a traumatic experience for everyone involved as you deal with many complex issues. I hope this episode helps you see the silver lining. Instead of focusing on your current emotional state, know that your choices and preparation will allow you and your children to live in a home where you are no longer exposed to anger, an unhealthy relationship, and perhaps even domestic violence.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Check out my recent episode on collaborative divorce HERE.

If you live in the United States, you can check out www.findlaw.com/state to see applicable family and divorce laws in your location.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk to you about the brain. I talk about how thoughts and habits are created in the brain and why it's so important to be mindful of the way we think in order to create lasting change. How we think is very important. Ever heard of the phrase, "we become what we think about?" Thoughts are really important to people because they determine our well-being, how we act, how we behave, the choices we make, how we feel about ourselves, our relationships with others, and the quality of our lives.

I hope this episode helps you understand yourself and your thoughts better and to be mindful of them so you can create new habits.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.