BPD On/Off Relationship Recycling limbo and Still Stuck Wanting Your BPD Ex Back? Why?

BPD on/off relationship recycling limbo and still stuck wanting your BPD Ex back is the
situation that a lot of people are finding themselves in. What is keeping you stuck in
these very unhealthy cycles? Why do so many keep betraying themselves? If you can relate
what is your self-abandonment due to? Your relationship to an untreated person with
Borderline Personality Disorder is a trauma bond. There is no healthy love in a trauma bond.

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Loving a Borderline is a One Way Relationship

When you are loving or trying to love a person with Borderline Personality, whether a significant other,
mother or father. sibling or friend it's a one way relationship. You will give and give and that person
will take and take. You want to please them, but they can't be pleased. You want to be seen and heard but they truly don't see you or hear you. Loving a Borderline is a one way relationship in which you lose yourself. There is no mutuality in these relationships. When you need something like support or being heard about feeling hurt the BPD partner or on/off Ex has nothing to give you. Why do you put up with this lack of mutuality?

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Do Borderlines Lack of Empathy?

Borderlines lack of empathy is fueled by identity disturbance - the loss of self and the arrested emotional development as a trauma response to adverse childhood experience. People with BPD unconsciously at very young ages need a lot of defense mechanisms to survive their childhoods. Their defenses in childhood become very maladaptive in adulthood in any attempts
to have relationships.

Borderline Provocation Manipulates You What Codependents Need To Know To Get Into Recovery Action to Break Free

Borderline provocation manipulates you to react & re-engage in cycles of circles that won't and can't meet your needs. Why and how can you stop the emotional reactivity? This happens in BPD Breakups and/or BPD Relationship recycling as well as in any relationship type with a person with BPD patterns and/or BPD. Codependents need to take action in a healing and recovery process to learn how to stop self-abandoning and how to regulate their own emotions to cope more effectively with choices and working toward no contact and breaking the unhealthy bond.

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Borderline Ghost You? Want BPD Ex Back? Is Your BPD Ex Thinking About You?

Most people who each get into a significant other relationship, with someone who ends up having
all the patterns of BPD (undiagnosed) or someone diagnosed and untreated, will get split to devaluation and ghosted.

When most people in these unhealthy relationships (having Codependency) are ghosted they want the BPD Ex back. Is your BPD Ex thinking about you? Do people with undiagnosed and/or untreated BPD really have you on their minds after splitting you to devaluation and ghosting you?

BPD Betrayal Means Can't Be Friends & No Contact Needs To Be For Life

BPD Betrayal occurs when they split you to devaluation (often even in the relationship) and then the major split to devaluation (in relationship recycling repeatedly) ghost or discard you. It is not healthy at
all to want to be friends with a Borderline that betrayed you. No contact is the way to heal. No contact needs to be for life? Why is no contact so important? I talk about why no contact is central
to breaking the trauma bond and healing and why it needs to be for life.

This episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups Podcast features Season 2 Episode 8 of my Codependency Surviving Cluster B Relationships Podcast.

Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems 16 Patterns Re-Enacted In BPD or NPD Adult Relationships

People with Codependency, more often than not, re-enact core childhood woundness from Family
Sytems in Family of Origin in adulthood with people with BPD or NPD - 16 Patterns of Codependents with peoplw with BPD or NPD in adult relationships and more. Do you relate to one or more of the 16 patterns of feeling and or actions? To be a Codependent doesn't mean you have to have or identify with any and every pattern or explanation I give or anyone else gives. Denail is unfortunately a very strong possiblity for many people who will benefit from realizing what Codependency is, means, and the many ways you can experience it, relate from it and get into and/or stay in very toxic relationships because of the patterns of the core content of what Codpendency is and means.

BPD Splitting Destroys Relationships - 14 Signs of How & Why You Need To Stop Relationship Recyling.

Splitting in BPD is the major defence mechanism in Borderline Personality Disorder. Its roots are deep within people with BPD who core trauma caused a loss of self and arrested emotional development by or before the age of 2 years old in childhood.

You cannot help a person with BPD change or heal this core primal wounding that is the seat of the defense of splitting caused by the approach/avoidance conflict in BPD along with its disorganized style of attachment. What you need to know about splitting in a very deep dive about how it is hurting and betraying you and why you cannot and will not succeed in rescuing, changing, or fixing the person - who doesn't exist - that you as a Codependent are so "in love with".

BPD Relationship Recycling Getting Your Ex Back is Recycling The Trauma Bond

BPD relationship recycling between people with BPD and their partner/ex-partner person with Codependency getting the BPD Ex back are really recycling the core trauma bond that is not love. This is a dualistic "rebounding" by each person with BPD and each codependent on/off partner/ex of the unhealed woundedness of the core re-wounding trauma bond. It is an increasingly toxic re-wounding and painful cycle all of its own.

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BPD breakup and no closure leaves so many Ex's wanting "the closure conversation" with a BPD Ex - these "closure conversations" go nowhere and only hurt you more. For the very minority of Ex's of a person with BPD that can even get to starting "the closure conversation". They aren't usually attainable. Secondly, your Ex or even on/off BPD partner won't hear you or want to listen. He or she will be triggered quickly and defend against your truth because they can't take personal responsibility. And, what you have to say about how you were hurt, not seen or heard, people with (untreated) Borderline Personality Disorder will not hear because they are too wrapped up in all of their own victimization. This "closure conversation" will quickly go from what you need and want to say to the Borderline narrative of "BPD = Victim" and now you are hurting them again (so they believe) and then they will twist it back on you and often with incredibly mean statements that wound you and your already low to no self-esteem.

I work with clients to help people heal and recover and in that process find your own closure which is much more empowering and healing then anything you could ever get from risking the "closure conversation" with your Ex.