BPD Betrayal Means Can't Be Friends & No Contact Needs To Be For Life

BPD Betrayal occurs when they split you to devaluation (often even in the relationship) and then the major split to devaluation (in relationship recycling repeatedly) ghost or discard you. It is not healthy at
all to want to be friends with a Borderline that betrayed you. No contact is the way to heal. No contact needs to be for life? Why is no contact so important? I talk about why no contact is central
to breaking the trauma bond and healing and why it needs to be for life.

This episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups Podcast features Season 2 Episode 8 of my Codependency Surviving Cluster B Relationships Podcast.

Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems 16 Patterns Re-Enacted In BPD or NPD Adult Relationships

People with Codependency, more often than not, re-enact core childhood woundness from Family
Sytems in Family of Origin in adulthood with people with BPD or NPD - 16 Patterns of Codependents with peoplw with BPD or NPD in adult relationships and more. Do you relate to one or more of the 16 patterns of feeling and or actions? To be a Codependent doesn't mean you have to have or identify with any and every pattern or explanation I give or anyone else gives. Denail is unfortunately a very strong possiblity for many people who will benefit from realizing what Codependency is, means, and the many ways you can experience it, relate from it and get into and/or stay in very toxic relationships because of the patterns of the core content of what Codpendency is and means.

BPD Splitting Destroys Relationships - 14 Signs of How & Why You Need To Stop Relationship Recyling.

Splitting in BPD is the major defence mechanism in Borderline Personality Disorder. Its roots are deep within people with BPD who core trauma caused a loss of self and arrested emotional development by or before the age of 2 years old in childhood.

You cannot help a person with BPD change or heal this core primal wounding that is the seat of the defense of splitting caused by the approach/avoidance conflict in BPD along with its disorganized style of attachment. What you need to know about splitting in a very deep dive about how it is hurting and betraying you and why you cannot and will not succeed in rescuing, changing, or fixing the person - who doesn't exist - that you as a Codependent are so "in love with".

BPD Relationship Recycling Getting Your Ex Back is Recycling The Trauma Bond

BPD relationship recycling between people with BPD and their partner/ex-partner person with Codependency getting the BPD Ex back are really recycling the core trauma bond that is not love. This is a dualistic "rebounding" by each person with BPD and each codependent on/off partner/ex of the unhealed woundedness of the core re-wounding trauma bond. It is an increasingly toxic re-wounding and painful cycle all of its own.

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BPD breakup and no closure leaves so many Ex's wanting "the closure conversation" with a BPD Ex - these "closure conversations" go nowhere and only hurt you more. For the very minority of Ex's of a person with BPD that can even get to starting "the closure conversation". They aren't usually attainable. Secondly, your Ex or even on/off BPD partner won't hear you or want to listen. He or she will be triggered quickly and defend against your truth because they can't take personal responsibility. And, what you have to say about how you were hurt, not seen or heard, people with (untreated) Borderline Personality Disorder will not hear because they are too wrapped up in all of their own victimization. This "closure conversation" will quickly go from what you need and want to say to the Borderline narrative of "BPD = Victim" and now you are hurting them again (so they believe) and then they will twist it back on you and often with incredibly mean statements that wound you and your already low to no self-esteem.

I work with clients to help people heal and recover and in that process find your own closure which is much more empowering and healing then anything you could ever get from risking the "closure conversation" with your Ex.

People untreated with Borderline Personality Disorder
use people. Many may be aware of this and many more
are likely not aware consciously. They are not
emotionally capable of loving you, feceiving you love
or attaching to you. Borderlines are often using
you to help emotionally regulate them, meet many
of their needs and also seeking identity from you
due to lack of a known self or "identity".

Borderline Tribalism & BPD Right-Fighting - They Can't Handle The Truth

The victim narrative of so many with Borderline Personality Disorder continues to grow as they evoke a co-opted "social justice warrior" victim mentality and try to silence those who tell the truth about them. They can't handle the truth. In this Borderline Tribalism each and every one of them, untreated, or not well enough treated, who can't take personal responsibliiry and regulate their own emotions continues to claim falsely that what people say about them online or in person are "wrong" and that anything said that a Borderline doesn't like or agree with and TAKES PERSONALLY is "hurting all of us", "makes us not want to live" "means I can never have a full life" - Say what? What are they going on about?

BPD Breakup Getting Your Ex Back - Dream Come True or Nightmare Revisited? BPD Relationship breakup and recycling of relationships getting your BPD Ex back BPD breakup after BPD breakukp - how can that be healthy or working because the same cycles keep being experienced and add to your pain more and more each time. What Codependents really need to understand.

Understanding BPD more and more is not going to make your relationship healthy or sustainable. Do you feel like if this try doesn't work, you'll be okay? Codependent denial coupled with on/off breakup/relationship cycles hurts you more and more and strengthens the very Codependency that you need to heal from.

Borderline Risky Sexual behavior and bpd impulsivity is a central and core part of BPD for many but now all. Impulsivity acted out through risky sexual behavior means partners being cheated on, BPD monkey branching or many with BPD seeking to re-engage sexually with an Ex or more than one Ex. Why do people with BPD cheat (many often) as you are split to devaluation blamed for how the Borderline feels often ghosted or discarded because the Borderline is not consciously aware of why they feel what they feel with all the triggered emotional dysregulation they cannot (untreated) manage or cope with at all?