A response and my understanding or this "psychopathy" or "secondary psychopathy"
co-mingled with BPD and really not in a meaningful way. I responsd ro another
Youtuber - a therapist - who essentially describes BPD as Malignant Borderline Females
by describing BPD and not explaining well or at all the delineation between "Malignant
Borderline" (which is meaningless) or BPD/ASPD (controversial) from Borderline
Personality Disorder. Less than 2 % of all women diagnosed with BPD, according to
researchers would be "malignant borderlines" = Co-morbid BPD/ASPD or even
"secondary psychopaths".

BPD Breakup that doesn't seem to have an end in sight. What is the BPD Final
Discard? Is there such a thing as a BPD final discard? How to go from
this limbo place to ending BPD Breakup ghost and/or discard cycles.

For most people after being ghosted or discarded by a Borderline or Narcissist Ex
rumination is central and very painful. For those also with Limerence this
focus on the Ex can be even more intense. The intense focus on the Cluster B
increases your pain and your increased pain will exacerbate the intensity of
your focus on the Cluster B. This is agony, and dangerous emotionally and physically
because it means that your mind and body are in a hyperfocused and hyperaroused state
of flight/figh, freeze or fawn trauma response. Most people need professional help
to learn how to cope more effectively and break the cycles of this unhealthy focus
that can block your recovery.

BPD hoovers are about the borderline - not you. People with Borderline Personality
do not consider your needs or feelings when they hoover. They are as usual only
thinking about themselves and their wants and needs. In BPD Hoovers Borderlines
lie, make false promises, and effectively gaslight you. BPD Hoovers trigger
the codependent's sense of I can fix what I did wrong and get a do-over. People
with Codependency self-abandon themselves and minimize their own pain so quickly
when a borderline hoovers. Hoovers are not only for the borderline but they are
also extremely manipulative. Engaging a Borderline hoover promises you only a
recycled repeat of getting wounded more and all over again.

7 Signs that you are relating to a person with Borderline Personality who may not be
diagnosed or if diagnosed hasn't disclosed that to you. These 7 signs are more
nuanced to emotional instability and the communication impossibility that are both
core deficits of people with BPD, diagnosed or not. Too many people have a sense
or highly suspect a person you are dating or in a relationship with has BPD but aren't
sure what to do because they don't have positive proof that this person has BPD.
People with Codependency, especially, will often keep denying how they are being hurt
and will abandon self to try to fix this other person. Codependent lack of self trust
can impede your ending the relationship because you are "not sure". No one need be
100 percent sure if two or three or more of thsse 7 signs are being experienced.

Borderlines and Codependents both have considerable denial. It's not manifested
in each groups lives the exact same way yet it underpins a lot of this most
unhealthy bond. Online Borderlines often use "we" when they share their narrative
(often not a very aware one). People with Codependency most often use "they" and
this matters not only because of Codependent denial but also the often focused on
"they" is an obstacle to healing and recovery and increases exponentially the pain
of people with Codependency in, during, and after the BPD relationship breakup.

The relational impossibility with people with Borderline Personality Disorder is about them - NOT YOU! It's time to respect yourself, get into therapy to heal and recover and go and stay no contact. It's time to find you again. The breakup was not you, it was the borderline.
You are not at fault or to blame.

BPD or NPD relationship breakups. The first step to surviving and transitioning to an
active recovery process begins with a rationally known final Breakup even when
cognitive and emotional dissonance still drives rumination and strong feelings of
wanting an Ex back but knowing that you just can't do it again.

BPD relationships are no win relationships for those with BPD and for those who
try so hard to love them. They are about control struggle two-way dynamics.
These relationships between people with BPD and people with Codependency lack
emotional intimacy, lack respect, lack mutuality and reciprocity. BPD Relationships
are no win relationships with all the foundational pillars of healthy love being absent
leaving these relationships trying to function in trauma bonds that increase emotional
pain, suffering, and loss of self of loved ones.

BPD triggers are real but others closest to a person with BPD do not cause their
triggers. You are not responsible for how they feel. And, Borderlines, while
responsible for often hurting others, and lacking any personal responsibility or
accountability - they don't make people with Codependency or who are close to them
feel how you feel either. It is how you think that creates how you feel.