Can You Reach Out to a BPD Ex To Help Them In Repeated Failed Attempts To Have the Impossible Conversation?

In response to a comment left on my Youtube Channel, a video "5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships - Is There Biology To BPD?" which is Season 4 Episode 91 in this podcast.

Do you still want to, or do you continue to try to reach back to a BPD Ex to "start a conversation" to help them? This commenter asks a question many can relate to "How can I help her?" I address this
comment and I hope people will consider my response.

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7 Signs Your Loved One Has Borderline Personality That You Experience

7 Signs that your love one, in any relationship type, has Borderline Personality. If you are or you have
experienced any of these signs you may well have a loved one with BPD. Are you new to learning about BPD? This video can also help people who "know" but keep questioning if their loved one, girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband has BPD because they are not diagnosed - You can stop doubting yourself by listening to this episode of this podcast.

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5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships - Is There Biology To BPD Lying?

5 reasons (Root Causes) that explains why people with BPD lie. People with Borderline Personality - BPD - lie pervasively and often for so many reasons. BPD lying destroys relationships because you can't trust someone who lies so often about so much. There is no room for you to maintain your sanity if you keep giving them some benefit of the doubt or think they just can't help it. Is BPD Lying grounded in and "Biology of BPD?"

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Borderlines are Drowning Emotionally Go *No Contact* Don't Drown With The Relation - SHIP

Borderlines (untreated) are drowning emotionally go no contact don't drown with the Relationship. Borderline emotional dysregulation and the major defense mechanism of splitting leave many partners,

Ex's, On/Off again "partners" playing the role of a life preserver.If you approached a person actually drowning in a pool or lake who was panicked and freaking out they often pull rescuers under who then drown as well.

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Borderline Inward Focus Leaves You Out - 5 Reasons Why

The inward focus of people with Borderline Personality Disorder is at the heart of why you really cannot be connected to them and they don't ever truly connect fully or consistently to or with you.
The inward focus of people with BPD has 5 central core reasons that all end up blocking you out and making mutuality and/or reciprocity impossible which makes your relationship unhealthy and next to impossible, if not impossible. to have work, last, or function in any remotely healthy way at all.

What Do Borderlines Need? 9 Red Flags You Can't Help Them & Why You Will Be Punished For Caring

Peope with Patterns of BPD or diagnosed and not extremely well treated and on their way to BPD
Recovery (for real) need from a partner or anyone close to them interpersonally. Why you really
can't give them what they need. 9 Red Flags why helping a borderline and meeting their needs is
impossible and how you will be punished for caring, loving them, and trying to meet their needs
and walk on all those eggshells.

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BPD On/Off Relationship Recycling limbo and Still Stuck Wanting Your BPD Ex Back? Why?

BPD on/off relationship recycling limbo and still stuck wanting your BPD Ex back is the
situation that a lot of people are finding themselves in. What is keeping you stuck in
these very unhealthy cycles? Why do so many keep betraying themselves? If you can relate
what is your self-abandonment due to? Your relationship to an untreated person with
Borderline Personality Disorder is a trauma bond. There is no healthy love in a trauma bond.

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Loving a Borderline is a One Way Relationship

When you are loving or trying to love a person with Borderline Personality, whether a significant other,
mother or father. sibling or friend it's a one way relationship. You will give and give and that person
will take and take. You want to please them, but they can't be pleased. You want to be seen and heard but they truly don't see you or hear you. Loving a Borderline is a one way relationship in which you lose yourself. There is no mutuality in these relationships. When you need something like support or being heard about feeling hurt the BPD partner or on/off Ex has nothing to give you. Why do you put up with this lack of mutuality?

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Do Borderlines Lack of Empathy?

Borderlines lack of empathy is fueled by identity disturbance - the loss of self and the arrested emotional development as a trauma response to adverse childhood experience. People with BPD unconsciously at very young ages need a lot of defense mechanisms to survive their childhoods. Their defenses in childhood become very maladaptive in adulthood in any attempts
to have relationships.

Borderline Provocation Manipulates You What Codependents Need To Know To Get Into Recovery Action to Break Free

Borderline provocation manipulates you to react & re-engage in cycles of circles that won't and can't meet your needs. Why and how can you stop the emotional reactivity? This happens in BPD Breakups and/or BPD Relationship recycling as well as in any relationship type with a person with BPD patterns and/or BPD. Codependents need to take action in a healing and recovery process to learn how to stop self-abandoning and how to regulate their own emotions to cope more effectively with choices and working toward no contact and breaking the unhealthy bond.

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