Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

BPD Triggers Explained

BPD Triggers Explained. What do you still need to understand or understand more about people with Borderline Personality and what triggers them and why? Do you still feel like their triggered responses, emotional dysregulation, splitting on you and blaming you for everything means that their triggers are your fault?

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Is Codependency Really an Addiction?

From my Codependency Surviving Cluster B Relationships Podcast

An often asked, and I think, an often misunderstood question where Codependency is concerned. My answer in this podcast to "Is Codependency Really an addiction" with my 35 years  experience working with clients in Codependency recovery is, "yes" and "no" and I think that this approach gives my clients the best of "both" possible asserted "understandings" of Codependency.

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BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses

In BPD people with (especially) untreated BPD have ego syntonic alloplastic defense mechanisms. This leaves so many people who were or are still trying to relate to someone with BPD as a partner, friend, favorite person, etc walking on eggshells and at the same time experiencing crazy-making painful toxic relational dynamics.

What does BPD Ego syntonic alloplastic defenses truly mean for you? People with BPD here you mention a feeling of yours and feel that you are attacking them.

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Borderline Persecutory Object - Invisible Partners and Exes

Borderline persecutory object, a psychoanalytic concept, within Objects Relations Theory, that explains so much about Borderline Personality Disorder. This is the path to truly understanding the results of BPD splitting, perception, unconscious repetition compulsions re-experiencing and re-enactment in BPD that captures the core of understanding so many individual core elements of Borderline Personality disordered "relating" that just does not work.

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BPD Misinformation Hurts Borderlines and Codependents

BPD misinformation hurts people with Borderline Personality and it hurts Codependents and loved ones. There is growing "professional misinformation" about BPD out there, and it doesn't help anybody heal. BPD is not 100% heritable, nothing like that is known at all. BPD is a combination of nature and nurture (lack of nurture). People with BPD can recover. People with BPD are not all the same and the globalized narrative by so many who have been traumatized by someone with BPD serves no one. Every individual with BPD is an individual just as every person with Codependency is also an individual.

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BPD “Remission” Flawed & False Hope

BPD remission is very difficult to define or describe or even rely on apart from a very not helpful base definition of it. BPD remission is not a measurable constant across many, let alone most with BPD in treatment at all.

Is BPD remission really a helpful measure for Codependents wanting to keep trying an unhealthy relationship? Does the definition of BPD remission make sense in any "standard" way that can be generally applied?

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Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization

Excusing BPD behavior is what so many people with Codependency do and it is a function of Codependent Externalization and need for taking more personal responsibility for yourself - not how anyone with BPD treated you terribly. It is important to get into a healing and recovery journey in therapy to break the trauma bond, learn to focus more on yourself, and to stop externalizing out your needs that can't be met by a person with BPD. Codependent needs that you need to learn how to meet internally for yourself.

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BPD Sudden Shocking Discard BPD Ex is All Alone Now What Can You Do?

BPD sudden shocking discard is devastating and leaves many an Ex of someone with BPD worried that their Ex wife or Ex husband with Borderline Personality or Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend with BPD may be all alone and what can you do to help them? Why do you still want to help them?

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Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent

BPD Ex wanting to make amends to Borderline is codependent. Whether you are struggling with alcoholism in AA and wanting to make amends or substance abuse program recovery and wanting to make amends or not, just generally want to make amends to a BPD Ex itis highly NOT recommended that you do so. Maybe you feel guilty that you so hurt an Ex with BPD just by going no contact.

It is not in your best interest at all to try to make amends to a BPD friend, Ex, or if you were their favorite person because it is Codependent action that isn't going to help you take care of you.
Why is trying to make amends to a Borderline Ex, or in any relationship type Codependent and too risky for you?


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Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?

Does going no contact after a BPD breakup, ghosting, or discard, make your Ex with BPD think about you? No contact is not a strategy to manipulate a Borderline. No contact is a serious action BPD Exes need to take as soon as one can to truly be engaging your own healing and to break the trauma bond. No contact is difficult, people often feel guilty. Learn more about the slippery slope of using no contact for anything but your own healing and recovery. It is totally not healthy to re-contact your BPD Ex or try to manipulate him or her to re-contact you in any attempts for closure, getting heard, trying to "make them" get how much they hurt you because it doesn't work
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