The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Did you know that your physical health directly impacts your emotional state — and vice versa?

Think about it: when you're not in a good place emotionally, how does your body feel? Full of aches and pains, stomach issues, or other not-so-comfortable symptoms?

In today's episode, Dr. Tom O'Bryan, an internationally recognized speaker on food sensitivities, environmental toxins, and the development of autoimmune diseases, joins me to discuss the intricate link between physical and emotional health.

You may be surprised to know that everyday substances like gluten in modified food, toxins in the environment, and even electromagnetic waves can trigger an immune response that leads to inflammation and a range of health issues, including serious conditions like Alzheimer's.

Dr. Tom shares startling insights into how certain foods, especially those altered chemically to enhance taste, can adversely affect our body's defense mechanisms and even lead to addiction. We'll also explore the crucial differences in the prevalence of chemicals allowed in food and household products across different regions, like the US and the European Union.

Of course, we also talk about small lifestyle adjustments that you can do right now to dramatically improve your health, such as opting for glass Tupperware or incorporating more organic products into your diet.

Listen to discover:

• The link between emotional and physical health.

• How unresolved emotional issues can manifest physically.

• Why inflammation is at the core of most health issues.

• The significant impact of our diet on our health, focusing on common culprits like gluten.

• Why small lifestyle changes can make massive impacts on your overall health.

Listen to continue your wellness journey with us and understand how to take charge of your health in today's complex world.

Quotes to Remember:

1. "If there's any area that people don't want to talk about, it's their emotions. And anytime I have a patient that says, 'I've been everywhere, and I've tried everything, and I'm still not better,' it almost always is emotional baggage that's buried so deep, they don't know it's there." - Tom

2. "We're born and raised in this world to think that when you have a symptom, you take whatever they tell you to take, and the symptom goes away. Now you're healthy. No, you're not. You didn't have a deficiency of the medicine." - Tom

3. "So many people are walking around with trauma, and they don't know it; it's either they haven't touched it, they haven't looked at it, or they're walking around with anger, they're walking around with unprocessed grief, sadness, whatever it might be. And it's contributing physically." - Michelle

Connecting with Dr. Tom O'Bryan:

For those looking to dive deeper into the relationship between chronic inflammation and various health disorders, explore Dr. O'Bryan's resources. His insights into the effects of diet and environment on health are transformative and can be explored further through his published works and his website.

As we wrap up this enlightening discussion, consider how your own physical health could be influencing your emotional well-being. Remember, it's not just about treating symptoms but addressing the root causes that intertwine our mental and physical states. And if you'd like to join Dr. Tom O'Bryan's upcoming summit, just click here.

LINKS & RESOURCES

Dr. Tom O'Bryan Website

https://thedr.com/

The Inflammation Equation Summit

theinflammationequation.com/adult

Dr. Tom O'Bryan Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/thedrtomobryan

Dr. Tom O'Bryan Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/thedr.com.english/

Dr. Tom O'Bryan YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzlefeGh3JA-Nm0jtf9iYoQ

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YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today's episode was inspired by a conversation with a dear friend who was seeking relationship advice.

The truth is that many relationships face similar challenges — even relationships that aren't romantic.

As I explained the significance of self-awareness in her relationship, the role of her childhood wounds in shaping her interactions, and how to effectively repair and improve the communication in her relationship, I realized that the conversation was something everyone could benefit from.

If you would like to start improving your relationship today, stop what you're doing and listen to this week's episode.

In this episode, I share the three strategies you can use to improve your relationship:

1. Self-reflection and ownership

2. Healthy communication

3. Effective repair strategies

I also include actionable tips centered on understanding yourself better to improve the dynamics of your interactions with others.

Listen to discover:

• The importance of self-awareness in relationships

• How your childhood impacts your relationships

• The power of direct questions in communication

• Techniques for expressing needs and wants effectively to partners.

• What "stonewalling" is and how it affects your relationships

• How to manage your and your partner's emotional needs

If your relationship isn't as healthy as you'd like it to be, the tips and strategies in this episode will help you take the first step to creating a healthier, happier relationship. And we all have to start somewhere!

Quotes to Remember:

"Healthy relationships require healthy communication. It's probably one of the most important things that we can do." - Michelle

"The way to improve any relationship is to look in the mirror and actually look at yourself." - Michelle

"Instead of why is this happening to me, we ask the question, why is this happening for me?" - Michelle

"If you want to be with this person long term, you've got to come up with a repair plan." - Michelle

"You've got to be willing to sit in whatever's going on with you, journal it out, call your coach, call a therapist, call a friend, process it, whatever you need to do in order to help yourself to work through that." - Michelle

Connect with Michelle: For more insights and tools to help you navigate your relationships, visit my website and check out the free resource on "Five Healthy Relationship Myths That Keep You Disconnected From Your Partner" at The Adult Chair Website.

LINKS & RESOURCES

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The Adult Chair® Website

https://theadultchair.com

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https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant

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The Adult Chair® Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Hello, beautiful souls! I'm thrilled to welcome you back to "The Adult Chair" where we explore the paths to emotional maturity and healthier relationships. Today, we're diving into a fascinating discussion with the wonderful Barbara Ireland, author of "How to Stop Negative Thoughts: What My Near-Death Experience Taught Me About Mind Loops, Neuroscience, and Happiness."

Listen to discover:

1. Barbara's Near-Death Experience and Its Impact: Barbara shares her powerful near-death experience that profoundly shifted her perspective on life, emotional health, and the power of our thoughts. This extraordinary event led her to develop techniques to overcome negative mental loops that influence our emotional well-being.

2. The Concept of Mind Loops: We delve into what mind loops are and how they can trap us in cycles of negative thinking. Barbara explains how these loops not only affect our mental health but can also manifest physically and disrupt our lives.

3. Strategies to Break Free from Negative Thinking: Barbara introduces her method for breaking free from destructive thought patterns, which includes recognizing and renaming thoughts to detach from their negative impacts. This process helps shift perspective and regain control over one's mental state.

4. Applying Barbara's Insights in Everyday Life: Practical tips from Barbara's book and methodologies are discussed, giving listeners actionable strategies to apply in their daily lives to improve mental clarity and emotional resilience.

Quotes to Remember:

1. "We come here with these brains, these minds, but no one teaches us how to use them. And they're so powerful, continually creating our existence." - Barbara

2. "Everyone says this loosely: We are spiritual beings in human form... But did you really think about that?... I love that you brought that up." - Michelle

3. "If we get into unconscious negative habits of thinking, we are unconsciously creating negative outcomes." - Barbara

4. "We need to be looking at what the heck we're thinking. That seems to be the root of everything. That's the taproot to everything else." - Michelle

5. "Every question [in my life review] was about my thoughts. What does that tell you about the potency of our thoughts?" - Barbara

6. "Who is God? What is God? I was born and raised Catholic, but it never resonated as deeply as what I felt my whole life already. I felt this deep connection with God, source, universe, whatever you want to call it." - Michelle

7. "Once you clean your thoughts and you've cleaned your emotions and you don't have to wait till it's all gone, but once that process is up, you're being unblocked there to start creating from a conscious level." - Barbara

Connect with Barbara: For those inspired by today's discussion and eager to learn more about managing mind loops, Barbara's insights and techniques can be explored further through her book and at How to Stop Negative Thoughts. Additionally, keep an eye out for her upcoming workshops and group sessions, which promise to be enriching.

LINKS & RESOURCES

Barbara Ireland Website

https://www.howtostopnegativethoughts.com

Barbara Ireland Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/authorbarbaraireland

Barbara Ireland Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/MindLoopsMentor/

Barbara Ireland YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/c/barbaraireland

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The Adult Chair® Website

https://theadultchair.com

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant

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https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Hello, my beautiful Adult Chair family! It's Michelle Chalfant, and I'm thrilled to be back with you after a few months away. These months have been a transformative journey for me, one filled with deep introspection and change, not just personally but also for our beloved podcast.

In this episode, I'm joined by someone very special, Jennifer Dawn, who has been a guide, mentor, and friend to me through this incredible period of growth. Jennifer has a profound connection to energy and healing, and she generously shared her insights on self-discovery and the transformative power of embracing our true selves.

Listen to discover:

• The Journey of Coming Back: I open up about my break from the podcast and what it meant for my personal growth.

• Jennifer Dawn's Impact: Jennifer talks about her life's work, dedicated to awakening consciousness and guiding others to remember their true nature.

• Embracing the Cycles of Life: We delve into how personal and global transformations are akin to the natural cycles of the seasons—necessary and rejuvenating.

• Navigating Personal Transformations: Jennifer and I discuss how to find peace and direction during challenging times by connecting more deeply with our true selves.

Quotes to Remember:

"Who we think we are, is not really who we are. We are so much more." — Michelle

"In the darkness of our hard moments, we find the seeds of our true becoming." — Jennifer Dawn

"Each step in our journey, no matter how small, leads us closer to the essence of who we truly are." — Michelle

This episode is a heartfelt reminder that the challenges we face are not just obstacles but opportunities for profound growth and self-discovery. Jennifer's perspective on embracing the cycles of life offers a refreshing viewpoint on how to approach our personal evolutions. As we discuss the importance of reconnecting with ourselves, I encourage you to consider how you can tune in more deeply to your own inner wisdom.

Connect with Jennifer Dawn: To learn more about Jennifer's work and access the resources she offers, please visit her website linked in our show notes. Her insights and tools, like the "Illuminated Love Oracle," are wonderful aids in the journey toward self-discovery. Use the code MICHELLE10 for 10% of her oracle deck.

LINKS & RESOURCES

Jennifer Dawn Website https://www.jenniferdawn.love/

Jennifer Dawn Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jenniferdawn.love

Jennifer Dawn Facebook https://www.facebook.com/jenniferdawn.love

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Lately, there's been something stirring in my soul.

I don't know exactly what it is yet, but I feel like it's going to be BIG – like something new is coming, and I need to go inward and listen for what it is.

Have you ever felt this way? When this happens, I believe it's our soul tugging at us, trying to tell us something about our mission and purpose on the planet.

And I have made it my intention to always listen when the soul calls.

It's something I like to call "soul alignment" — a practice of going within and listening to the soul to get clarity on who we are and our illuminated path.

In this episode, I'm teaching you how to tune into the voice of your soul (the part of you that is seated squarely in the Adult Chair), why this is so important and how to clear the blocks that stand between us and our souls.

The five simple practices I share in today's podcast will help you hear your soul's whispers and nudges, know and feel the next steps on your path and take aligned action — not from the Adolescent Chair but from the Adult Chair.

Listen to discover:

• The power of "soul alignment"

• The importance of "deep listening"

• How the ego gets in the way of listening

• 5 steps to listen to your soul

• How to unlock greater passion, purpose and peace

The ego is rooted in fear, lives in the past and future and often screams at us in a loud voice. The soul lives in the present moment and speaks to us in a whisper, which is why we have to get still to hear it.

This episode will help you get out of your mind and into your heart, go inward and listen deeply to find your true purpose and guidance from within.

"When we align with our soul, we are guided." - Michelle Chalfant

"When you're aligned with your soul, even the things that feel – to the ego – bad, what we find is that these things are the most beautiful gifts that we could have ever received." - Michelle Chalfant

"What your soul has in store for you is unlike anyone else on the entire planet." - Michelle Chalfant

"Meditation is simply a practice that brings you into the present moment." - Michelle Chalfant

"You're going to feel nudges or feel pulled or moved to do things. That's your soul. Pay attention." - Michelle Chalfant

"Your soul's not going to talk to you from your head. Your soul's going to talk to you through your heart." - Michelle Chalfant

"Ego lives in past and future only. Soul lives in present moment only." - Michelle Chalfant

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What if the secret to better sleep, less inflammation and reduced pain was as simple as walking barefoot in the grass?

Both the earth and our bodies have an electrical charge, and "grounding" (or "earthing") refers to the practice of connecting our bodies to the earth – keeping the body's charge at an optimal balance and unlocking tremendous health benefits.

If you think this sounds like something made up by a crunchy tree hugger, think again: the father of grounding, Clint Ober, is actually a cable guy.

Clint had a strong connection with nature from growing up on a ranch out West and great knowledge about how electrical currents work from his career in the cable industry.

One day, he saw a group of tourists all wearing thick rubber-soled shoes (a non-conductive material), and it hit him:

Could our modern lifestyle be keeping us from grounding into the earth?

This has led to a new frontier of health research, with very promising findings about the impact of grounding on inflammation, stress, autoimmune disease and more. It's the real deal!

I had the chance to talk to the man himself, Clint Ober, about how grounding works in the body, why our society is so ungrounded, the many, many health benefits of grounding and how anyone can start grounding – for FREE and today.

Listen to discover:

• What earthing and grounding is

• Why our bodies need to be connected to the earth's electrical charge

• How grounding works in our immune system

• The positive effect grounding can have on pain and chronic disease

• How you can start grounding today

Grounding is so simple – it literally just requires going outside with bare feet (or conductive shoes).

And unlike so many health hacks or miracle cures on the market, this isn't something to be added to your health…instead, it's a return.

A return to nature, our design and the natural harmony that occurs when we're connected to our bodies and the earth.

"The earth is basically electrical." - Clint Ober

"We can heal these illnesses we're walking around with by grounding." - Michelle Chalfant

"We've totally insulated ourselves from the earth when we're wearing shoes." - Clint Ober

"You can't have inflammation in a grounded object." - Clint Ober

"As soon as you get grounded, then you have the earth's energy all around your body, and it pushes away all of this environmental stuff." - Clint Ober

"If you want to take 10 years off your [age], just go outdoors and stick your bare feet on the grass." - Clint Ober

"The body is always striving to heal itself. Always. We are in the way." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

Clint Ober Earthing and Grounding Products

https://www.earthing.com/

Earthing Studies

https://earthinginstitute.net/

Earthing Movie

https://www.earthingmovie.com/

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https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Have you ever gotten a "gut feeling" that something was going to happen…and then it did? Or sensed that someone wasn't trustworthy or that you shouldn't move forward with a decision?

This is your intuition at work!

Intuition is something we all possess, and something we've all undeniably experienced, but how it works remains largely a mystery. Is it something spiritual? Psychological? Biological?

Laura Day grew up feeling like her brain was "different" in some way. She knew she had ADD and a number of head injuries, but she didn't know she had an uncanny intuition until one day, she saw a television program about ESP research. She immediately related to it, picked up the phone, called the researchers and said, "I can do that." For years, she participated in research studies about intuition and how it works.

Since then, Laura has built a high-profile career using her intuition for large companies and organizations and teaching others how to develop and tap into their innate intuition. A math, science and data nerd, Laura had no preconceived notions about intuition, which has given her a practical, grounded approach to learning and teaching about this ability.

In this episode, Laura shares her insights into what intuition actually is, how to tell the difference between intuition and fear, how to enhance your intuition and why intuition alone isn't enough – we must direct it towards action.

If you've ever been curious about how those gut feelings and seemingly "sixth senses" work, you're going to love this episode!

Listen to discover:

• Whether or not we're all born intuitive

• How to tell the difference between intuition and fear

• Why we all need to learn how to use our intuition

• How to enhance and direct your intuition

• The power of moving from intuition to action

Laura believes intuition is less a sixth sense and more an extension of the five senses we already have. But like a muscle, we have to exercise it and develop it.

When we learn to connect more deeply with ourselves and pay attention to what's going on around us using all five senses, it's amazing what we can uncover – and how that can help us direct our lives and relationships towards greater wisdom and wellbeing.

"We are all born intuitive." - Laura Day

"If it's a persistent fear, it's not intuition. Intuition is accurate, immediate and actionable." - Laura Day

"It's a misnomer that intuition is a sixth sense. It's not. It's an extension of all of your senses in time and in space." - Laura Day

"So many people stay stuck, and they don't realize that they are powerful creators and that they can get their way out of it." - Michelle Chalfant

"The first thing you do to open your intuition or direct it effectively is you have goals." - Laura Day

"Intuition will show it to you, but it won't fix it for you." - Laura Day

LINKS & RESOURCES

Laura Day Website

https://lauraday.com/

Laura Day Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/lauradayintuit/

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The Adult Chair® Website

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The Adult Chair® Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

2023 is behind us, and 2024 is here! The new year represents a clean slate and new chapter where you can begin manifesting the year – the life – you want.

I believe that, as creative beings, we are always in "creation mode." Like gravity, we can't turn the laws of manifestation on and off – they just are.

So, then the question becomes: What do you really want? And what is it that you are creating with every thought you have and word you speak?

In this episode, I'm giving you everything you need to get more intentional with your creations this year, whether you have a dream you're finally ready to manifest or there's something you want to change in your current reality, beginning with the words you're telling yourself.

We're covering four keys for POWERFUL manifestation, how to tune your "energetic dial" into the "radio frequency" of your deepest desires and a 10-step process to help you clear the unconscious beliefs that are blocking your creations…this is the missing piece to manifestation that no one talks about but makes ALL the difference!

Listen to discover:

• How manifestation works

• Getting clear on what it is you truly want

• Why things aren't manifesting in your life

• The missing piece of manifestation that no one talks about

• A 10-step process to clear blocks and barriers to manifesting

• Four powerful keys to manifestation

You're going to want to get pen and paper out for this one, because I'm giving you all the details, all the nuances and all the secrets to manifestation that I've learned over the years – with real-life examples to help you begin applying these principles today.

Whatever it is you want in 2024 (and even if you're still figuring that out), this episode is step 1 to finding freedom from limiting beliefs, clearing unconscious blocks and changing the trajectory of your life this year.

"We are beings that are able to create. And we create our reality with every thought we have." - Michelle Chalfant

"Once you clear your unconscious blocks, then you can attract in your creation." - Michelle Chalfant

"We have to have what I call a 'consistent manifesting mindset.'" - Michelle Chalfant

"Everything is possible – everything and anything. You just have to line up with it." - Michelle Chalfant

"The more you focus and expect and live as if this creation is coming in and already here, the faster it will come to you." - Michelle Chalfant

"I promise you can get and create the life that you want. Your thoughts and your spoken words are powerful. So, be really mindful of what you're saying." - Michelle Chalfant

"We're always in creation mode. It does not turn itself on and off, just like gravity. So, if you don't like your reality, you do have the power to change it with your thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5!

https://theadultchair.com/certification

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The Adult Chair® Website

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The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification

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Kute Blackson is no stranger to miracles. Growing up the son of a spiritual leader in Ghana, Africa, Kute witnessed healings and transformation that were nothing short of awe-inspiring.

But when he realized it wasn't his calling to take over his father's ministry in the way his family expected, it led him on a challenging and transformational journey of his own: one in which he discovered the magic of surrender and how it can heal our lives.

In this episode, Kute delivers so much wisdom about what surrender really is (it's not passive like you might think), the role of the ego in our lives, why the challenges we face are an essential part of our soul's journey and how to let go and live open to the possibilities – the miracles – life holds for us.

Listen to discover:

• Kute's story of courageously following his calling even in the face of adversity

• Why challenging experiences are essential to our soul's growth

• What surrender actually is and why it's so powerful

• How to tell when we're in the flow

• What to do when you feel stuck and are struggling to surrender

• Where resistance comes from

• Why surrender requires grieving what we think we know and how it opens us up to more love and joy

Each of us is here with a purpose, and even the difficult moments in our lives hold something important for our growth. When we can relinquish control and what we think our lives should look like, we discover that there are divine possibilities beyond what our mind can even think of or dream up…and what a truly exciting, miraculous journey that is!

"Those challenges [don't] mean you're on the wrong path. It sometimes means you're on the right path; you just have to go through, on a human level, the soul test." - Kute Blackson

"Forgiveness frees you." - Michelle Chalfant

"It doesn't mean that when something difficult is in your path, it's not God-inspired, soul-inspired." - Michelle Chalfant

"Life is a university for our soul's evolution…We're always succeeding when we're learning the lessons, even if it's difficult." - Kute Blackson

"In our culture, we have this misconception that surrender is weak." - Kute Blackson

"In true surrender and letting go, what if you actually got more than you could have intended and planned with the limited concept of your own mind?" - Kute Blackson

"Surrender is when we stop trying to force life to fit into our limited idea of what we think it should look like." - Kute Blackson

"Many of our goals are often projections of unmet needs from our childhood." - Kute Blackson

"The mind is constantly seeking to understand why…which is another form of control." - Kute Blackson

"It's the journey that brings us the happiness." - Michelle Chalfant

"Many times people think that they're feeling the feeling, but they're actually thinking about the feeling." - Kute Blackson

"To truly surrender requires the willingness to move through the portal of grieving." - Kute Blackson

LINKS & RESOURCES

Kute Blackson Website

https://kuteblackson.com/

Kute Blackson Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/

"The Magic of Surrender" (Kute Blackson Book)

https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094

2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5!

https://theadultchair.com/certification

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The Adult Chair® Website

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification

STAY CONNECTED

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Whether it's eating healthier, getting exercise, starting a meditation practice or staying socially connected, figuring out what to do to be happy might be simple – but actually doing these things and living in a way that lets us experience happiness is much harder.

When we know there are things we can do that will make us healthier and happier, why do we struggle to actually do them? Why do we get caught in a cycle of chasing happiness instead of choosing joy, even when we know better?

This is what Gretchen Rubin wanted to understand when she began studying happiness and why people form the habits they do.

It turns out that it has everything to do with how we relate to expectations.

Gretchen discovered that there are four different "tendencies" that tell us how different people approach habits and expectations – whether we question expectations, comply with expectations, rebel against expectations or uphold them from within.

We are born with our tendency and there's no right or wrong way to be, but our ability to pursue happiness and form habits is directly connected to which tendency we're wired with.

In this episode, Gretchen describes each of the four tendencies in detail and ways to work with your type to go after the life you want. She also talks about habit formation and the different approaches to starting a new habit, so you can figure out which one works best for you!

This is so fascinating and has major implications for how we structure our lives, how we work with each other in business and relationships and so much more!

Listen to discover:

• Concrete steps we can take to start boosting our happiness

• The "four tendencies" personality framework

• The Upholder, The Obliger, The Questioner and The Rebel – four different ways we all respond to inner and outer expectations

• How your tendency impacts how you form habits

• How to overcome resistance and work with your tendency to be as successful and happy as possible

• Misconceptions about happiness and techniques to form better habits

Though it's true that everyone is different in terms of what makes us happy, we're also all different in how we get to the things that make us happy.

When we understand our wiring, we can overcome resistance and set ourselves up to achieve the life we want, in a way that is uniquely ours.

"Our physical experience is always going to color our emotional experience." - Gretchen Rubin

"The key to happiness is relationships." - Gretchen Rubin

"Don't suit other people. Suit yourself." - Gretchen Rubin

"I'm a big believer in the genetic roots of personality." - Gretchen Rubin

"We can work with each other to help us all achieve our aims, but sometimes we have to provide a different way from what would work for us." - Gretchen Rubin

"Your communication style would change once you know this." - Michelle Chalfant

"Happier people are more interested in the problems of the world." - Gretchen Rubin

"You have to take care of yourself. You have to put yourself first." - Michelle Chalfant

"When you're not indulging in a temptation, it goes away." - Gretchen Rubin

LINKS & RESOURCES

Gretchen Rubin Website

https://gretchenrubin.com/

Happier Podcast (Gretchen Rubin podcast)

https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/

Gretchen Rubin Books

https://gretchenrubin.com/books/

The Four Tendencies Quiz

https://gretchenrubin.com/fourtendencies

The Happier App

https://the-happiness-project.com/pages/happier-app

Gretchen Rubin Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin

Gretchen Rubin Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/

Gretchen Rubin LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchenrubin

2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5!

https://theadultchair.com/certification

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