The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Many people think acceptance is weak or it's something we do when we are defeated. It's actually the opposite. There is great power in acceptance. It's a choice we make from a clear intentional place within. When we do this our drama or anger can be done and gone. In today's show I speak with you about accepting things we are not happy about, things we cannot change and how our lives can transform with acceptance.

Audible: Tara Brach Radical Acceptance

Show notes: - Transforming Triggers podcast #98 https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/98?rq=triggers - theadultchair.com/journal 30 day Journaling Challenge - theadultchair.com/workshop Charlotte, NC workshop Jan 26 & 27 - theadultchair.com go to podcast page and click the blue button to leave a 5 star review

After four years of this podcast, I felt like it was time for a refresher of the three chairs. In this show, I discuss where the Adult Chair model came from and a review of the three chairs. For long time listeners, this will reinforce your knowledge of the Adult Chair. For new listeners this will help you to build a foundation for this model. Either way, it's filled with great information about the three chairs!

The Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal

Abandonment can leave an incredible wound inside of us. We do our best to bury it and not feel that pain but it leaves its mark on us. We move through life unconsciously guarded and ready for abandonment to happen again. We want to be free of this wound but don't know how. In today's show I go over the two types of abandonment and offer steps to heal this wound.

Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal

Inner Child link: https://kh519.infusionsoft.app/app/form/inner-child-form?cookieUUID=b1f9ab62-0aff-4de4-94d4-3aff2b1fd68e

Narcissism podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/104?rq=narcissism

Grief podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/93?rq=grief

Parts podcast/Who is sitting in my Adolescent chair: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/38?rq=Adolescent%20chair

Healing from Betrayal podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/125?rq=Betrayal

Audible link: https://www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair

Book of the week: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson

There is huge power in owning our reality, yet most of us don't know how. We hide behind masks to cover our true selves up and show up in the world how we think others want us to be. This can be exhausting and so wearing on us. In this show, I speak about the power in owning your reality and the benefits of doing so.

On the show I mentioned: 1. Podcast #103 It's all About You 2. The 30 day Journaling Challenge-www.theadultchair.com/journal

Audible book: Reinventing Yourself How to become the person you always wanted to be By Steve Chandler https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair

We feel responsible for fixing and taking care of others. When we aren't "helping", we may feel anxious or useless. These could be symptoms of codependency. In today's show, I review what happens in childhood that sets us up for codependency, what it looks like in adulthood, and how you can heal and transform your life.

Additional Show notes:

Journaling Challenge: Go to www.theadultchair.com/journal to sign up.

Podcast: #11 Codependency: I"m OK if you are OK

Podcast: #70 I am not your lifejacket! Ending Codependency in Relationships

Podcast: #27 Who are You? Self-Validation and Projection

Podcast: #84 Raising Self Esteem

There is no shame in being codependent blog: Oct 25, 2016 Melody Beattie

Audible download: www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair Codependent No More: Melody Beattie

When we experience a trauma, there is a part of us that can get stuck in time, yet we continue to physically grow. Part of the work of the Adult Chair is finding these parts and integrating them into the self in order to help us to feel whole and healthy. My client Sarah graciously agreed to share her session today which demonstrates the integration of her 10 year old part. It was a beautiful session and I am so grateful to Sarah for sharing her experience.

Betrayal is the worst kind of pain. It blindsides us, it can shock us and leave us in total disbelief. We wonder how we can move through such pain and feel ok again. In this show, Michelle shares her own experiences with betrayal and offers an 8 step process that walks us out of our pain and helps us to find trust again.

Photo credit: @aleksdahlberg

Resources mentioned:

Living and Loving After Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair

We don't end relationships well, unfortunately no one teaches us how to do this. We get stuck in our victim or get caught in the blame game which only keeps us stuck!

Resources mentioned...

Katherine Woodward Thomas-http://www.consciousuncoupling.com/

Conscious Uncoupling-5 Steps to Living Happily Even After - book

FREE offer: Conscious Uncoupling starter kit-http://www.consciousuncoupling.com/starterkit/

Audible book recommendation - Conscious Uncoupling-5 steps to living happily even after.

Life can be overwhelming at times and it can cause us to lose ourselves. This may look like difficulty in making decisions, setting boundaries and or standing in your truth. This meditation will help change that, as it helps you to tap into your inner strength and regain empowerment.

It seems like a growing number of kids today are suffering from anxiety. As parents and caregivers of these kids, witnessing their anxiety can leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do. Often times, what we do doesn't help and even makes things worse.

Today Sharon Selby, Registered Clinical Counselor and expert in the field of anxiety with children, teens and families joins me on the show. Sharon offers some incredible advice for those of us needing help with our children and teens struggling with anxiety, and gives us tips on how to bring more peace and empowerment back into the family.

Resources mentioned:

Sharon Selby - www.sharonselby.com

FREE Offer: happy to offer your audience my free ebook: 8 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Your Child Is Anxious. Download the book here: www.sharonselby.com

Audible book recommendation - Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children By: Lynn Lyons, Reid Wilson PhD.